Kristopher1 Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 (edited) Feeling like s*** Quick background info: Known her for 10 years, Officially together for 9 months She loves me, I love her, I had trust issues with her, got a little heated and she dumped me, then sent me a message 3 weeks ago when I was NC. When I did last hear from her three weeks ago, she said she wants to be with me but if she says how she feels right now she'll just be distracted from her studying..and that I would expect her to be available all the time, and her not being available due to her exams would only upset me and make me think that she wasn't telling the truth that she wants us to be together. I've just realized that today was her last exam... I just have the urge to let it all out on her, even though I know she may not actually contact me, but I feel as though she deserves to hear what sort of person she was IF she does decide to not contact me again, I know it's probably not the right thing to do but, it's hurting going through all this right now.. Can the pride of a girl prevent her from contacting the dumpee as she's too scared of being rejected? Don't worry I wont do anything stupid.. just venting.... Edited June 6, 2013 by Kristopher1
Chi townD Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 Yeah, just view it as an experiment. You know her exams are over. See if she contacts you. If she doesn't, then you then you'll know her last text to you was bullsh*t anyway. 2
Author Kristopher1 Posted June 6, 2013 Author Posted June 6, 2013 (edited) That's exactly what I'm going to do, what if she wants to come forward but she's scared of rejection? In any case...would a "closure" letter a week or so later do any good? I feel as though it would help me move on... Don't get me wrong though, I've been doing quite well, but some days are just eating at me with thoughts of her, thoughts of betrayal and "why?" etc.. Meh.. Edited June 6, 2013 by Kristopher1
Chi townD Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 Dude, she's had all this time between the break up and her exams. She's had all the time in the world to throw out breadcrumbs and to try to keep you on the hook and not playing the field. And yet, I speculate you've received nothing. That should tell you something. I think you can find your closure with that....
Author Kristopher1 Posted June 6, 2013 Author Posted June 6, 2013 I think my little moment of emotions raising sky high are over. I don't know what I was thinking to be honest writing all this earlier. I don't care, I'll carry on with my life - She knows where I am, if she wants me, she will contact me, I'm moving forward again.. but god damn woman, get out of my head! TaraMaiden if you read this, I would appreciate you knocking some sense into me again too. Thanks
flitzanu Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 That's exactly what I'm going to do, what if she wants to come forward but she's scared of rejection? In any case...would a "closure" letter a week or so later do any good? I feel as though it would help me move on... Don't get me wrong though, I've been doing quite well, but some days are just eating at me with thoughts of her, thoughts of betrayal and "why?" etc.. Meh.. no, rejection isn't keeping her from anything. if she wants to be with you, she's going to tell you. pride isn't a factor iin this, and a letter is going to do absolutely nothing. 2
Author Kristopher1 Posted June 7, 2013 Author Posted June 7, 2013 (edited) Yeah as I said earlier, I won't be sending a letter, I was just briefly emotionally messed up.. I also agree that nothing would hold them back from contacting you no matter the size of their ego, if they love you that is, however I have read stories on LS where the dumpers still loved their ex, but couldn't face being rejected so they didn't pursue them any longer. In any case, if that is true in her point of view, then she probably isn't worth it with that attitude. I always remember how she told me that if there was an argument of any sorts, and that she was wrong, in most cases I would have to be the one to come forward and amend it because as much as she wants to, its difficult for her to do so. She begged me once to never forget what she said in case of a fall out - What a joke. She needs to step up now, she needs to put some effort in to prove she wants this, until then, I guess I'm not interested. I'm also getting way ahead of myself at the moment, I'm speaking as if she want's me in my life, when in fact she could be gone for good, but it's just a feeling I have about her, as I know her very well..anyway, life goes on. Thanks all. Edited June 7, 2013 by Kristopher1
NanjingLove Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 In my opinion,firstly, the boy should have a talk with his girlfriend face to face initiatively. They must let their thoughts be known with each other. Secondly, trust and communication are also very important I think. The girl should be more initiative and give the boy call regularly. Besides they can make a decision that they have a dating at least twice a week. Furthermore the boy should go to the school more often and do the romantic things for his girlfriend. The boy should take more into consideration and give the girl more free space and care. At last, I wish their happiness all the life. :bunny:
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