Still not over your Ex?

[mizundastud]

Its been almost 5 yrs and I'm still not over my Ex. I spoke with a therapist about my situation and told him how unhappy I was and he gave me some good advice that I would like to share. He told me that the root word for the Happy in the Middle East is Growth. You have to become bigger than the breakup and the heartbreak and you do that by working on you. Focus on your personal goals, learn something new, etc. By doing this you are making yourself greater and that part of your life will become a small part of your journey through life that has also made you greater by teaching you the lessons it has taught you. By becoming greater you are promoting yourself and with this only two things will happen either the person you are not over will want you back because they want a piece of the better you and your great life or you will be presented with better opportunities because you have added to what makes you and you will mostly likely have grown from your situation.

 

If its been over a year and your still not over you ex, Post here just for support. (Your story or one word it doesn't matter).

[youcanever]

Its been almost 5 yrs and I'm still not over my Ex. I spoke with a therapist about my situation and told him how unhappy I was and he gave me some good advice that I would like to share. He told me that the root word for the Happy in the Middle East is Growth. You have to become bigger than the breakup and the heartbreak and you do that by working on you. Focus on your personal goals, learn something new, etc. By doing this you are making yourself greater and that part of your life will become a small part of your journey through life that has also made you greater by teaching you the lessons it has taught you. By becoming greater you are promoting yourself and with this only two things will happen either the person you are not over will want you back because they want a piece of the better you and your great life or you will be presented with better opportunities because you have added to what makes you and you will mostly likely have grown from your situation.

 

If its been over a year and your still not over you ex, Post here just for support. (Your story or one word it doesn't matter).

 

That is a great share.

 

Thank you.

[J_L_C]

Its been almost 5 yrs and I'm still not over my Ex. I spoke with a therapist about my situation and told him how unhappy I was and he gave me some good advice that I would like to share. He told me that the root word for the Happy in the Middle East is Growth. You have to become bigger than the breakup and the heartbreak and you do that by working on you. Focus on your personal goals, learn something new, etc. By doing this you are making yourself greater and that part of your life will become a small part of your journey through life that has also made you greater by teaching you the lessons it has taught you. By becoming greater you are promoting yourself and with this only two things will happen either the person you are not over will want you back because they want a piece of the better you and your great life or you will be presented with better opportunities because you have added to what makes you and you will mostly likely have grown from your situation.

 

If its been over a year and your still not over you ex, Post here just for support. (Your story or one word it doesn't matter).

 

This worries me. It's been 10.5 months since my ex and I split. It was extremely devastating to me. I never saw the breakup coming. The night before, it was business as usual. The next morning, it was all done. He essentially brushed me off, didn't want to talk about it and asked me to leave. He didn't want to talk about it anymore.

 

I've posted my story on here before, and there were many negative things that ensued after our split. If you care to read, my thread is titled: Sherlock Holmes couldn't figure this out.

 

We hadn't spoken in over 2 months and stupid me, decided to send him an email to see if he wanted to catch up over coffee. His response was:

"Hmm, let me think about it. I'm going to Venezuela for 2.5 weeks to see a girl I met on vacation and fell in love with. The love is there and we're going to make it work".

 

I really wish I didn't send him anything. At the same time though, I never expected him to STILL feel the need to throw such hurt my way.

 

When he talks about how much he loves this girl he met, whom he only spent 10 days with, hurts more than I can explain. It makes me reflect over my whole relationship with him and makes me question whether he loved me at all. This bothers me so much because I put my everything into our connection. I felt it and it was real. But what if his love was never really the strong love I believed it to be, then this was a huge waste of time and emotional investment for me...and now look where I am. I'm at the lowest point.

[Stefanie]

My ex left me in January and we didn't know anything about handling a breakup properly so we just kept the same amount of contact. The problem was that I never learned to accept the end of the relationship until he was sick of my obsessiveness and cut me off completely.

 

Maybe now I'd be fine if it wasn't for the fact that he works with me and I know he's in a rebound relationship. And while I try to prove that I'm a better person and genuinely happy for him, he is cold and clearly still has no trust in me.

 

I want to be able to focus on myself and be strong enough to get past this, but I keep beating myself up because my life still revolves around him, despite us having no contact. I wish I could stop thinking about him or all the "what ifs" that torture me. I just can't let go of the idea that our relationship has so much potential. So in a sense, I want to get over him but mainly because I want him to see I'm strong enough so he'll come back.

 

I really need some drastic help.