CulturallyConfused Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 I need your help, suggestions, honest feedback... I'm very unhappy. I had a date last week with a seemingly wonderful person, three-hour long conversation... yet he blocks me on Match.com and social media. Not calling I can understand... It means there is no interest there. But blocking me? This is a long post but I'm trying to figure out what happened. Would love your feedback. He suggested we meet after two e-mails. We had a lot in common, and I was very happy and surprised to meet someone so cool on my first online dating adventure. I was also super nervous but after the first 15 minutes of conversation, we settled in to talk easily. I guess I wouldn't be so upset if the conversation hadn't been so good. I politely offered to share the bill, he politely declined. I gave him a cd of my band's music as a little friendly memento and we walked back to our cars. I think he tried to aim a kiss on my lips but it landed on my cheek because I was too nervous. I grew up pretty conservatively and a kiss means so much more to me than it does to most. We talked about getting together again. The next day I e-mailed him to thank him for a great evening. He e-mailed back, very friendly and mentioned getting together again. I'm the last person to assume someone feels the same way I do. I saw on match that he had changed his profile pic and updated it, so I figured he probably just wanted to be friends and was not interested in dating me. Disappointing but I accept that. I replied to his e-mail on Monday. I could understand not hearing back form him if he were busy or not interested... but he blocked me on social media!!! I logged onto Match to answer a couple of e-mails from other people and noticed that his e-mails in my inbox from him said "profile unavailable" and that he had blocked me. I haven't e-mailed or texted him out of turn. I'm not a stalker. I just don't understand how such a seemingly great conversation turned so cold suddenly. Why would he block me?
Arabella Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 He very well might have liked you at the time. Then he found someone else he was more interested on and dropped you to focus on her. It happens... don't take it too personal. I know it's easy to say but harder to do, but if you can't take it lightly, then online dating might just not be for you. Good luck -A
Author CulturallyConfused Posted June 6, 2013 Author Posted June 6, 2013 He very well might have liked you at the time. Then he found someone else he was more interested on and dropped you to focus on her. It happens... don't take it too personal. I know it's easy to say but harder to do, but if you can't take it lightly, then online dating might just not be for you. Good luck -A Thanks Arabella. I totally understand moving on to someone else... but why block me? I only block someone if they e-mail too much or I can't stand them??? So totally confused. Don't think the online stuff is for me.
Arabella Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 Thanks Arabella. I totally understand moving on to someone else... but why block me? I only block someone if they e-mail too much or I can't stand them??? So totally confused. Don't think the online stuff is for me. I think he simply didn't want to have to tell you, so he opted for blocking you. That way, he doesn't have to respond to anything you send. Immature and inconsiderate, but nonetheless, par for the course with online dating. It's not for me either. I'd probably react the same way as you did. Don't worry too much. 2
BustedUpInside Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 I think he simply didn't want to have to tell you, so he opted for blocking you. That way, he doesn't have to respond to anything you send. Immature and inconsiderate, but nonetheless, par for the course with online dating. It's not for me either. I'd probably react the same way as you did. Don't worry too much. I completely agree with Arabella. I think that this is exactly what happened. Try not to take it personally. It is actually a character flaw of his that he couldn't be direct and honest about what happened. You haven't done anything wrong. Don't give up on internet dating just yet. There actually are a lot of nice people out there and you can't let one bad experience sour you on the whole thing. 1
Author CulturallyConfused Posted June 6, 2013 Author Posted June 6, 2013 Thank you all so much. I appreciate it. I totally felt like I had been convicted of being a stalker I'm glad he didn't get the good night kiss 2
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