ex-girlfriend has been in touch but is it closure or something else that she wants!

[sweet one]

as a women i'd say it was attention seeking. she's reminding you that she's still around ( and maybe available )

 

i can't think of a good reason for me to contact an ex esp with 50 texts so i think she's fishing to see if you're still interested

[czech-it-out]

I'm thinking she's looking to keep in touch for whatever reason. I agree that if her current relationship is failing then perhaps she's tumbled to the fact that she still wants you or realised you were a better option.

 

A womens input would be better councel.

 

Have you been in contact with her recently?

[mijas10]

Thanks to everyone for their input. I know I have feelings for her which I can't quite leave behind. I know full well that we still avoid each other and that when we do meet the atmosphere is v awkward. Maybe it will always be like that.

 

By chance I was in company with her new b/f's cousin on Friday and he informs me that its still on-off. He bought a house 20mins away but never moved in to her house ( which he partially owns ) So he clearly doesn't have long term plans for her.

I'll wager lots and lots of money that the relationship will fail. And she'll be in tears again. OK I won't get back with her but at least I'll have a laugh when it happens!

 

Sorry, I know that's horrible. Vent over

 

Thanks for all the replies

[Charlene]

From a female perspective I'd agree that she was hoping that you'd be receptive to her needs ie get back together.

 

But by the sounds of it, you too have feelings for her. It's almost as if it's a game. All the awkward meetings point to unfinished business or at worse you both need proper closure before you can move on. Certainly it's odd that she'd keep in touch whilst in a relationship with someone else.

 

I'd worry enormously if my b/f sent 50 texts to an ex. Sounds as if her current relationship is on thin ice but that's no reason to want her back. All in all she doesn't sound too stable. do you really want that uncertainty in your life. I wouldn't

 

Best wishes anyway

[alien life]

sounds familiar

 

the tenticles of an old relationship reach out far!

 

no, it doesn't sound like closure to me. maybe she's looking for answers. and by the sound of it, her current relationship is on rocky ground so you may be her sanctuary

[your answer]

mijas

 

hopefully this matter is behind you as time has passed by. but no way is this closure!

as a woman, i'd say she was sounding you out. perhaps life with you was better and she was probing to see if you cared enough to respond

[Mr. Gullible]

Thank you for your kind words. I have moved on as time has passed. We had plans to meet for a drink, but they kept getting pushed back. I set a limit to how long I was willing to "wait". Finally, to said that I was not interested in having that drink anymore and wished her well with her life. I was sad, as I had strong feelings for her. It will be awkard when we do see each other as we have mutual friends. I have met someone that I get on well with. I hope the woman does not try and see me after she finds out that I have met someone. Another ex called after she found out that I was seeing someone and just wanted me to come over and f***. I did not go.

 

Take care.