Aow4321 Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 Theres this girl I've gone out with 3 times now, we've never used the "Date" word but each time has felt like a date. We love each others company and she's all over me in person, she initiates most kino and she gives every sign in the book and then some. she's defied her curfew each time with me, and turned down her friends at the club once for me. Our last time out was a double date sorta deal, and my friend saw what I saw, so she seems totally into me in person. One problem, she doesn't answer her phone, she called me back once and I missed it so she left a flirty voice mail which ended with a "please call me back"(she asked if I still had it, so I'm sure she knows I'm feeling her). No answer or call back sense, OK maybe she doesn't like talking on the phone(neither do I). With texting she ALWAYS responds, but its usually between 10 min to an hour response time. she's always down to go out with me and if she can't make it, she reschedules and we go out then for sure. here's the deal, I was gonna ask her out the last night we were together, but was so tired I felt Id jumble my words(not ideal), so I figured I called her, guess I really wasn't thinking. Of course she didn't answer Tuesday, texted her to call me but got nothing. The next day I ask her if she's free Friday night, she says it depends on if she finishes her project for school or not(summer A classes are ending, she's a perfectionist in school so seems legit), but she asked what I had in mind. I think I shoulda just asked her to catch a movie and that's it.. but I said "Well, if its gonna be like that.. lol I wanted to see if you wanted to catch a movie, get some food<--not necessarily in that order" and now no response. One day later nothing. My question is, what's up?.. Also should I just send her a text saying like "actually scrub this weekend, I'm gonna be going to Orlando"(I was if she doesn't respond anyway). Or should I say nothing, wait a week, and try again, maybe word it better next time.. What do you guys think? Thanks!
the_entertainer1 Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 She seems to be giving you really mixed signals. I like your idea of texting her to say "scrub this weekend, I'm going to Orlando", even if she doesn't respond. I tried a similar thing with a guy, and it worked a treat ... We were meant to be catching up, he told me to let him know a time. I did, and asked if it suited him, but didn't hear back. So I texted and said that I actually couldn't do it then, and that we should reschedule. He replied, almost immediately, and confirmed a date for the following week. If you still don't hear back from her, perhaps try again the following week. But if you don't hear from her after that, then I'd say you should prob move on.
will1988 Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 Theres this girl I've gone out with 3 times now, we've never used the "Date" word but each time has felt like a date. We love each others company and she's all over me in person, she initiates most kino and she gives every sign in the book and then some. she's defied her curfew each time with me, and turned down her friends at the club once for me. Our last time out was a double date sorta deal, and my friend saw what I saw, so she seems totally into me in person. One problem, she doesn't answer her phone, she called me back once and I missed it so she left a flirty voice mail which ended with a "please call me back"(she asked if I still had it, so I'm sure she knows I'm feeling her). No answer or call back sense, OK maybe she doesn't like talking on the phone(neither do I). With texting she ALWAYS responds, but its usually between 10 min to an hour response time. she's always down to go out with me and if she can't make it, she reschedules and we go out then for sure. here's the deal, I was gonna ask her out the last night we were together, but was so tired I felt Id jumble my words(not ideal), so I figured I called her, guess I really wasn't thinking. Of course she didn't answer Tuesday, texted her to call me but got nothing. The next day I ask her if she's free Friday night, she says it depends on if she finishes her project for school or not(summer A classes are ending, she's a perfectionist in school so seems legit), but she asked what I had in mind. I think I shoulda just asked her to catch a movie and that's it.. but I said "Well, if its gonna be like that.. lol I wanted to see if you wanted to catch a movie, get some food<--not necessarily in that order" and now no response. One day later nothing. My question is, what's up?.. Also should I just send her a text saying like "actually scrub this weekend, I'm gonna be going to Orlando"(I was if she doesn't respond anyway). Or should I say nothing, wait a week, and try again, maybe word it better next time.. What do you guys think? Thanks! To me, the highlighted area, is what did you in. That came off as kind of pushy. She told you she is busy with school, and has been unresponsive. I would wait a few days, and then send her a quick text asking if she wants to hangout when she is done with her final projects. And from there see how it goes. Wait until she responds to send another text. At this point it seems like you are about to cross the threshold from her being interested in you, to her being less interested in you. So you should play your cards right. Now if she doesn't respond to you for a while and a week or so later and still no response, then I would just move on. If she sends something later on in the future you can either ignore it, tell her you are busy (you don't want to put up with flip-floppy flakey girls), or give it another go; your call.
Author Aow4321 Posted June 6, 2013 Author Posted June 6, 2013 Agreed about the when to move on part, but if I text her you dont think itll come off as needy/insecure? Im really good at giving space, like I dont send more than one message until she responds at all(except for times like these lol). Im kinda encouraged it worked for you though, hmmm.. nothings ever simple.
Author Aow4321 Posted June 6, 2013 Author Posted June 6, 2013 To me, the highlighted area, is what did you in. That came off as kind of pushy. She told you she is busy with school, and has been unresponsive. I would wait a few days, and then send her a quick text asking if she wants to hangout when she is done with her final projects. And from there see how it goes. Wait until she responds to send another text. At this point it seems like you are about to cross the threshold from her being interested in you, to her being less interested in you. So you should play your cards right. Now if she doesn't respond to you for a while and a week or so later and still no response, then I would just move on. If she sends something later on in the future you can either ignore it, tell her you are busy (you don't want to put up with flip-floppy flakey girls), or give it another go; your call. Dammit, and I knew it, I was mid-workout and it sounded good to me with testosterone blazing.. then I thought about and thought I shoulda just sent "Gotcha, well if you have time would you wanna catch a movie that night?". FML At least youre saying its salvagable. 1
will1988 Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 Dammit, and I knew it, I was mid-workout and it sounded good to me with testosterone blazing.. then I thought about and thought I shoulda just sent "Gotcha, well if you have time would you wanna catch a movie that night?". FML At least youre saying its salvagable. It happens to the best of us... don't sweat it. When is she done with her classes? 1
Author Aow4321 Posted June 6, 2013 Author Posted June 6, 2013 Sunday is her last class for this semester.
Author Aow4321 Posted June 6, 2013 Author Posted June 6, 2013 alrighty, should I just ignore last week completely and ask her to come out with me this weekend or should I send something like "Hey how was projects week?" first to kinda initiate small talk first. What do you think? Youre being very helpful here I appreciate it.
will1988 Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 Maybe say something like "How did your projects go? Want to hangout this weekend?" that is it...see what happens from there. if she doesn't respond, then do not send her another text. 1
Author Aow4321 Posted June 6, 2013 Author Posted June 6, 2013 sounds good to me, thank you for your help!
NYC-BigKat Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 Theres this girl I've gone out with 3 times now, we've never used the "Date" word but each time has felt like a date. We love each others company and she's all over me in person, she initiates most kino and she gives every sign in the book and then some. she's defied her curfew each time with me, and turned down her friends at the club once for me. Our last time out was a double date sorta deal, and my friend saw what I saw, so she seems totally into me in person. One problem, she doesn't answer her phone, she called me back once and I missed it so she left a flirty voice mail which ended with a "please call me back"(she asked if I still had it, so I'm sure she knows I'm feeling her). No answer or call back sense, OK maybe she doesn't like talking on the phone(neither do I). With texting she ALWAYS responds, but its usually between 10 min to an hour response time. she's always down to go out with me and if she can't make it, she reschedules and we go out then for sure. here's the deal, I was gonna ask her out the last night we were together, but was so tired I felt Id jumble my words(not ideal), so I figured I called her, guess I really wasn't thinking. Of course she didn't answer Tuesday, texted her to call me but got nothing. The next day I ask her if she's free Friday night, she says it depends on if she finishes her project for school or not(summer A classes are ending, she's a perfectionist in school so seems legit), but she asked what I had in mind. I think I shoulda just asked her to catch a movie and that's it.. but I said "Well, if its gonna be like that.. lol I wanted to see if you wanted to catch a movie, get some food<--not necessarily in that order" and now no response. One day later nothing. My question is, what's up?.. Also should I just send her a text saying like "actually scrub this weekend, I'm gonna be going to Orlando"(I was if she doesn't respond anyway). Or should I say nothing, wait a week, and try again, maybe word it better next time.. What do you guys think? Thanks! Girls don't reply to my texts either & its 'cause they just don't wanna date so I think this is what's going on with her u know.
Author Aow4321 Posted June 6, 2013 Author Posted June 6, 2013 We kinda are dating though, we never said the date word, but like I paid for the first dinner, she paid for the second, then when we went for drinks last weekend I bought her one. She gives every single sign of interest in the book and then some, thats why Im really not to worried when Im with her. Its just this is a little different, maybe because this one is so obviously a date invite?
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