turnerik Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 So I find this girl attractive. She's 19, I'm 20. I've never talked to her before, and never had any contact with her. We graduated from the same high school, and we are facebook friends. I'm thinking of sending the following message. I'm going to send something, so please don't tell me not to do it. I'm not scared of getting rejected. Nothing ventured nothing gained. Am I right? So anyways here is the message, if you can help me improve it, that would be great. So this is going to be completely random and probably weird, but I think you are attractive, and I know you are a huge republican, which is like the hottest thing ever. I’m hoping I can get to you know you better, and maybe we could hang out sometime. Here is my number XXXXXXXXXXXX, text me sometime if you are interested. I’ll be gone this weekend, and my phone will be off, but if you do text, I’ll be able to respond probably on Sunday. Have a good day!
FrustratedGuy91 Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 How about you start with a "hi"? Make some conversation? Ask how she's been since high school, what has she been up to. And then ever so lightly you ask her out?
AzureX91 Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 I agree with the person above. She might feel weirded out if you go this fast with her, and ask her to contact you. It's highly unlikely that she will do it I think.
Suave Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 You're going from 0-60 in 3.5, and unless you're a Ferrari you're sure to red line pretty damn quickly. Take it slower. Be the Honda Civic.
ThomasD Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 From one Shy Guy to another . . . please don't think I'm being the least bit insulting when I say your message makes me laugh. Yes, there ARE girls who will work up the courage to initiate the contact with a guy they are interested in. (Quite a few otherwise likable Shy Guys have stories about this, and many become fulfilling long-term relationships. And, unfortunately, there are a few girls who will target Shy Guys and contact them just to tease or taunt them.) But your message is asking HER to contact YOU - at a time and circumstances of YOUR choosing. Has a mutual friend told you that she sits at home by the phone most nights, crying her eyes out because you haven't called? No? Then she's not likely to respond, and may even drop you into the "annoying creep" box. "I think you are attractive" (meaning, "physically attractive") is probably the oldest pick-up line in existence. (I once heard a Rabbi say that the Hebrew for Adam's response when he saw Eve is an untranslatable expletive roughly "WOW! It'll be fun making kids!".) The "You're hot" approach is such a cliche' that some women play along with it just BECAUSE it's such a cliche' but most will just brush it off, or even get their guard up. If you're going to say something like that, make it specific and try to get away from appearances. Just approaching her in any way lets her know that her appearance is at least OK to you. Mention something she said, or wrote on somebody's facebook, that (truly and sincerely) impressed you. The "republican" reference, without any additional explanation, seems out of place - unless it's some kind of a running joke between you two, or perhaps a mutually shared (very) strong interest. This girl is almost a total stranger to you! You can put her name and face together, but that's about all. Find a better connection point between you two, and let her know that you'll make most of the effort for a contact. Perhaps: "I was looking through the H.S. yearbook and you really came to mind. I heard you had trouble in Mr Smith's History class, too. When might be a good time to text or chat with you to share experiences?""I heard that Dick Cheney will be speaking at the University next week. Could we go together? Or maybe see each other there?" If you really want to go with cheesy (and unlikely to succeed) pickup lines, at least try to be a little original. "Hey, I probably seem like a perfect stranger to you but I heard a preacher say that NOBODY is perfect. Can I contact you on the phone or text message sometime so we can get acquainted and be less like strangers?" Good luck . . . 1
Maleficent Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 Woah. Just send her an email inviting her for coffee. The attraction bit is going to make her wonder why you decided to act now and now then. Also, don't send her your phone number before you leave for a few days. Either send her 'Would you like to go for a coffee sometime?' and she'll reply over the week end or write her when you get back. She doesn't need to know your plans for the week end just yet.
TheGuard13 Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 So this is going to be completely random and probably weird The bolded sounds insecure. Lose it. Leave the stuff about the Republicanism thing for an actual date. And don't bother with "I think you're attractive". She knows that, or you wouldn't be asking her out. Why don't you just say something along the lines of: Hi. I was hoping to get to know you a little better. How would you like to do X next week? I'm free X nights.
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