HeartBrokenn Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 Hi all </3, Please bear with me if this is a long story, because it's going to be. I've been dealing this for a while now, and I finally find this forum through Google. Let's hope that this will help me move on..and your comments will keep me strong. I met my boyfriend almost a year ago. Funny to say, but we met at the elevator on the way to a school event. I was a first year undergraduate student, and he was a first year graduate student. We were both new to the school, friendless, and we were one of each other's first friends. Our relationship escalated really fast. We exchanged text messages every night for a week, few dates the next two weeks and by the fourth week, we were together. I was very scared at first, because I don't know anything about him since he's from another country. He could be lying to me for all I know. But I trusted my instinct and went out with him. We went out, became even more closer, and I truly fell in love with him. He treated me like a princess, does everything a boyfriend should be doing. Then...he met a girl at a party through some friends. He started mentioning this girl randomly at times. It doesn't bother me, because I know he mentioned her to make jealous. But then, another part of me believes that she might have meant something to him. If not, why does he keep mentioning her? Based on what he tells me, they texts sometimes during the nights. He even showed me a long conversation they have, which I know he did it so I can be jealous, but it killed my security a bit. Regardless, I gave him my full trust and I even wanted them to become closer friends, because she seemed like a really nice girl. After a while, we started to have our own small problems. I felt that I wasn't as attractive as he wants because he will make small, harmless comments about the way I look. I finally asked for a break up because I feel that he can't accept me for who I am and I kept thinking the other girl is a better fit for him. Well, we broke up. At random times during our breakup, he would sent me "catch-up" text messages to see how I was, even when I asked for space. Finally, he asked me out, which of course I rejected. A few more text messages later, he asked me out again. I agreed to go this time, because Yes, things were awkward when we were out, but not awfully bad. We continued to text, and went out once more. That was when I realized I still like him a lot. I intern at a medical firm during the summer, so I was really busy. I canceled one of our meetings a hour beforehand, which I know is really, really mean..but something came up with the computer files. I messed up another one because I realized it clashed with my best friend's birthday the day before, so I told him to reschedule. He began to become distant himself. Replied to my text messages slower than usual. We had a little fight after that, and that was really it, I think. I also feel that he is seeing other girls, because he usually replies messages within seconds. Now he replies them after a long time, and I feel that it's because he doesn't want the girl to see it when he is with them. Regardless, he still seemed to care about me. Now I am confused, what part of the relationship are we at? I feel that he is just keeping me around because
oberon84 Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 I think you could do better than this guy. Why be with someone who makes you feel insecure about yourself. It sounds like he wants to keep you around incase it doesn't work out with the other girl.
KatZee Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 What part of the relationship you're at? I'm confused. Based on all of this, you guys don't have a relationship. You're broken up. It's over. Also, it's kind of crappy that you're so into a guy who thinks it's OK to talk to other girls to make you jealous, who thinks it's OK to have long conversations with other women and to show you those conversations to make you jealous, and who thinks it's OK to make remarks about your physical appearance. He sounds like an idiot. Move on.
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