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aloneinaz Established Member

aloneinaz

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Ok.. I'm bored and can't sleep. So another post to stimulate conversation. It appears a lot of us on this site have been presented w/walking papers, or had our relationship future freed up or got canned from our relationship.. lol

 

Let's hear some good stories of a dumper coming back after some NC time and being told "thanks but not thanks" to the possibility of a second try. I was trying to think of some of my own personal ones? I've only been dumped this last time though in honesty, I could of pulled the plug myself if I wasn't too lazy to want to date again.

 

Let's see.. I've broken up with my three longest relationships, including a marriage. The first relationship, I did go back to her after a few weeks when I was lonely and drunk. I went to her apartment door and this Magnum Pi, good looking guy answered the door. He was cool and said "she doesn't want to talk to you".. Talk about a buzz kill... I drove home feeling pretty small and upset asking myself why I dumped her. We did hook up a few times months later but the relationship was over. I dumped my wife and would rather swim naked with piranha's than EVER be w/her again.

 

So, share your good stories..

ConfusedT Established Member

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YES!! I have one of the best!! :)

 

My kids dad literally walked out on me on my birthday 5 years ago! I was celbrating my bday out of town and he was supposed to come, he never showed up!!

 

I came back home and everything was gone- every single item of his!

 

He went MIA for an entire month. I couldn't find him. He shut his phone off. His family members wouldn't talk to me. Didnt see the kid or anything!!

 

Needless to say, after the month goes by, he reappears and acts like nothing happened. I am still devestated, but a MONTH of NC and not being able to break it under any circumstance literally changes your outlook on EVERYTHING.

 

So, although im still hurt, I push forward because I am way stronger than before. About 3 months later or so, him and his amazing new woman break up and he comes literally BEGGING at my front door to come back home! He bought me everything, tried to be the best father in the world, tried to anything...

 

He parked in front of my house in his truck and slept in there some nights because he was so desperate to be back with me, but i NEVER took him back- i thought about it, but if ya did it to me once, youd do it again..

 

I firmly believe that 30 day NC, like 0, is what made me so strong!!

 

SO yea, he still asks me from time to time (I miss you, what about us? have u ever thought about us?) and my answer is always NO!!

 

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robaday Established Member

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Yeah I got one. Ex broke up with me, I took her back, she became demanding and controlling and really jealous. Then I found her on a dating website (was on there too - but she had begged for me back and demanded monogamy so thought she was serious.....) I asked her casually about why she was on there and sxxxxxt hit the fan, she began screaming blue murder at me....worst thing was I wasnt even bothered about it, like was on there myself, but knew at this point something dodgy was afoot.

 

So I let it play out - told her the door was open if she was unhappy, she didnt like that and asked for more effort and a sign I was serious. I said, look - you broke up with me 2 months ago, now you begged for me back but are checking out other dudes online - you wanna go, go, you wanna carry on, carry on.

 

She cut all ties, told me to never contact her again. I didnt. 5 months later, she launched an unprovoked attack of texts and emails, then when I didnt react she asked me to have sex with her and sent me nude pictures, I told her to post them on a swinger site, she might get lucky. 2 months later, 5 missed calls and 3 messages begging me to come to a party with her. This time I told her in no uncertain terms I was passed caring about her, didnt respect her and didnt want anything to do with her. She said I hurt her...go figure

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CelticGibson Established Member

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Yeah Robaday, you hurt her....

 

her ego...

 

Good job buddy. :)

Leigh 87 Established Member

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:lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao: This is a very entertaining thread!

 

Well my turn now.

 

I left my ex for sleeping with hookers whilst overseas. I read his journal and he honestly thought hookers were okay because he did not kiss or touch them, and he never hooked up with regular chicks when he was with me.

 

I left him.

 

He begged for me back. Months later, I hacked his password (he is an idiot and chooses VERY obvious ones omg) and he was on adult sites and dating sites, trying to validate himself by asking other women how he looked, and sexting with them online. He never met any but still.

 

So I changed his profile to a picture of a really good looking guy and said that he was gay and seeking men, and on the adult site I put " looking for explicit pictures of men, especially men with large penises"

 

He was bombarded with thousands of dick pictures. He is homophobic. I found it funny:) Albeit immature.

 

I also subscribed him to fart porn. It is traumatizing to watch. I am serious.

 

............................................

 

Sadly, he left me in the end. Cos, you know, I had trust issues and had too much "drama" for him:rolleyes::rolleyes::lmao::lmao:!

headsashed Established Member

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:lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao: This is a very entertaining thread!

 

Well my turn now.

 

I left my ex for sleeping with hookers whilst overseas. I read his journal and he honestly thought hookers were okay because he did not kiss or touch them, and he never hooked up with regular chicks when he was with me.

 

I left him.

 

He begged for me back. Months later, I hacked his password (he is an idiot and chooses VERY obvious ones omg) and he was on adult sites and dating sites, trying to validate himself by asking other women how he looked, and sexting with them online. He never met any but still.

 

So I changed his profile to a picture of a really good looking guy and said that he was gay and seeking men, and on the adult site I put " looking for explicit pictures of men, especially men with large penises"

 

He was bombarded with thousands of dick pictures. He is homophobic. I found it funny:) Albeit immature.

 

I also subscribed him to fart porn. It is traumatizing to watch. I am serious.

 

............................................

 

Sadly, he left me in the end. Cos, you know, I had trust issues and had too much "drama" for him:rolleyes::rolleyes::lmao::lmao:!

 

Had to reply to this, hahah, that's just made my day,leigh, your my hero :p

Leigh 87 Established Member

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I suck for actually staying with him.

 

:mad:

 

I did laugh a lot, though, as I decided funny things to do to get him back.

 

I had worse ideas but they took too much effort, which I felt bad giving him. Online revenge was the extent to which I was willing to go:lmao:

 

The mature, adult thing to do, would have been to have left and never looked back.

 

 

:lmao:

headsashed Established Member

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I suck for actually staying with him.

 

:mad:

 

I did laugh a lot, though, as I decided funny things to do to get him back.

 

I had worse ideas but they took too much effort, which I felt bad giving him. Online revenge was the extent to which I was willing to go:lmao:

 

The mature, adult thing to do, would have been to have left and never looked back.

 

 

:lmao:

 

Nothing wrong with a little bit of revenge, and tbh it was harmless really. I never did any sort of revenge towards my ex, I just went total NC, This thread reminds me of something though, when me and my ex 1st ever broke up I was signed up to some gay porn, daily pictures of men with their wangers out and all that, not sure if it was my ex and I never asked her but I couldn't think of anyone that would do something like that. Plus, this time around my business email has been signed upto Russian brides, I wouldn't mind cos theres some stunners on there but have you seen the prices haha, ye see, thing is, my business email is only on my website and nowhere on there has my name so its someone that knows me, not blaming the ex but it could well be.

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L1ght Established Member

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lol I learnt one of the best lessons a guy could ever learn and that was when I was about 17-18 years old. At that time I was with this sweet sweet girl who was fun and liked being in my company and who I was started to get into a lot. Anyway she would always say to me "don't take advantage of me when I drink" and "If I come on to you when I'm drunk just control yourself and don't try to have sex with me"......so I was like "ok". Needless to say we would all get drunk at the weekends and she would turn into a freak and would be basically grinding me and asking me to f*ck her and in my tiny brain I was like "uhhh......I so wanna do this but I'd better not or she will hate me" so I stuck to my word and was a good little boy and respected her wishes. Guess what happens next? lol she ended up dumping me within a few months and then one day I get knock on the door from my (at that time) best friend. He says to me "ok you can go ahead and hit me now cos I've got something to tell you"....turns out that within a few days of getting dumped by this sweet and innocent young lady she got drunk and opened her legs to my best friend who did exactly the correct thing which is to bang her for all she is worth. Lesson of the day is to NEVER EVER TURN DOWN AN OPPORTUNITY TO GET LAID WITH GIRL YOU LIKE NO MATTER HOW SHE TRIES TO JUSTIFY HER SLUTTYNESS TO HERSELF OTHERWISE SHE WILL GET SOMEBODY ELSE TO DO IT INSTEAD.

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CTP New Member

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My first serious relationship was the biggest lesson of my life!!!! This was after high school and I was into those flirty sweet worded playboy types. Anyway, I started dating a guy just like that, but he treated me like crap! Always telling me that we'd probably be with each other for a while then things would end and I stuck around thinking I could change his mind if I was a great enough girl but no, he would talk and flirt with other girls on Facebook etc.. And when I found out I went crazy!!! Threatened to break his laptop and all that stuff. Eventually he broke up with me and I begged for him back for weeks.

 

But slowly I knew my efforts were wasted and I got over him. As my life started getting better, being with a nice and caring guy and showing the world that I'm happy. He pops back up asks how I'm doing, and if I'd like to come over to 'watch a movie'. I said no, told him I would never do that to my current bf. Best feeling of my life. Learnt early to go for the nice guys because of that prick!

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YES!! I have one of the best!! :)

 

My kids dad literally walked out on me on my birthday 5 years ago! I was celbrating my bday out of town and he was supposed to come, he never showed up!!

 

I came back home and everything was gone- every single item of his!

He went MIA for an entire month. I couldn't find him. He shut his phone off. His family members wouldn't talk to me. Didnt see the kid or anything!!

 

Needless to say, after the month goes by, he reappears and acts like nothing happened. I am still devestated, but a MONTH of NC and not being able to break it under any circumstance literally changes your outlook on EVERYTHING.

 

So, although im still hurt, I push forward because I am way stronger than before. About 3 months later or so, him and his amazing new woman break up and he comes literally BEGGING at my front door to come back home! He bought me everything, tried to be the best father in the world, tried to anything...

 

He parked in front of my house in his truck and slept in there some nights because he was so desperate to be back with me, but i NEVER took him back- i thought about it, but if ya did it to me once, youd do it again..

 

I firmly believe that 30 day NC, like 0, is what made me so strong!!

 

SO yea, he still asks me from time to time (I miss you, what about us? have u ever thought about us?) and my answer is always NO!!

 

:cool:

 

That's ****ing crazy. Some people are so immature. Sounds a lot like my ex gf. Let's just disappear after you've been with someone for so long, and then when contact is made... act like they did nothing wrong.

 

I could never do that to the person I'm with, especially after years of being with them. I have too much respect for MYSELF to ever just disappear on my s/o.

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