miss_jaclynrae Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 How soon into your relationship did family events (if applicable) involve the two of you? 7 months now and recently since meeting the family he is now an active member! My family absolutely adores him, even mothers day my mon wanted him there. It is pretty awesome since it literally feels like he fits right in. We had a lake day with my whole family and The men in the family took him out out on the boat. It amazing experiencing this. With my ex my family didn't spend time with him until after we were married, so it is refreshing to experience this. He is also the first guy I have introduced to my family since my divorce. The same with me and his family though! With his nephews I am already "aunty" and after he leaves his family and I are doing a trip together without him. I'm so crazy about him and I live the support we have from our relatives. Did you wait until after marriage? Did your family take them in right away? 1
ThomasD Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 I think I (very briefly) introduced her to my parents on the day we met. Two days later (our second "date") I spent the evening with her family and stayed the night as their houseguest. Due to the distances involved, most of our dating for the first few months involved staying with each other's family. (She lived at home; I was in grad school but it was easier for her to get to my family's house than to my school.) We participated in family events from the start and we were both accepted. I think this actually enhanced and accelerated our relationship. 1
Silly_Girl Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 I was due to run an errand for my mum at her horses and he offered to help after only 2 dates. About a month in we held a family BBQ at my house, he and I hosted. It was lovely! He was included from the off and it's so easy and nice 1
LittleTiger Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 We met each other's parents on our first visit to each other's country. I met his entire family the first time I was over there and he met most of my family on his second visit. We both slotted in perfectly! 1
Silly_Girl Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 I was just remembering how I was the first girl my guy introduced to his mum. At 36 yrs old. Cute. She says she spoke to him on the phone the day of our first date and could tell there was 'something' about me and that he was smitten. I went nuts when my mum started mentioning marriage weeks after we met. She got a short shrift indeed! But she'll have the last laugh at our wedding next month!
Woggle Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 Except for my uncle who she gets along great with she is not a part of my family but then again neither am I. Her family on the other hand has accepted me with open arms. 2
serial muse Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 (edited) Her family on the other hand has accepted me with open arms. That's nice to hear. Our families live in different cities, but my H's family is within a few hours of us, and I think it by a few months in I was getting invited to family stuff. My mom lives farther away so we saw her less often, but she would send him care packages along with the ones she sent me. Chocolate bunnies at Easter, etc. Edited June 6, 2013 by serial muse
pink_sugar Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 My husband's father's family took me in almost immediately. Definitely before we were married. His mom and her family, however, it was more like after we married. I remember attending their vow renewal...even asking for time off of work for it and I wasn't even included in the guest photos. So I sat there watching everyone else take photos. Wasn't pleased and neither was my husband.
jphcbpa Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 very happy for you! what a blessing when it all falls together so well. for us, it was Thanksgiving last year (about 100 days into the relationship). it could not have gone better.
pink_sugar Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 For my dad, every new girlfriend he has is my new mother.
Ursa Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 I had known/been friends with him for several months, but only been dating him IRL for about two months when he met my ENTIRE family. We were in an LDR, and I was already going to come to his area for Christmas proper and see him and my parents then (ironically, after I moved far away I ended up getting involved with a man who lived in the same metro area as my hometown)....but my cousins and aunts have an Early Christmas every year that I was going to have to miss, as I could not afford to fly in twice in one month. I was bummed about it, because it meant I wouldn't see my aunts and cousins at all during Christmastime and possibly not until the next year. My wonderful now-husband surprised me with a plane ticket so I could come down for my early extended family Christmas--and as my benefactor, of course he had to come too. My male cousins are very much like big brothers to me, and I warned them to be on their good behavior with this one , but honestly everybody loved him immediately. I suppose the fact that he had thoughtfully made it possible for me to be there at all that year strongly predisposed my family to look at him very kindly, and they could see for themselves how generous he was and how genuine his intentions. Anyway ordinarily I would not have introduced a boyfriend to my family so quickly, but everything went swimmingly and the rest is history. My dad calls my husband more often than he calls me, now . The son he never had! They've really bonded. I had a little bit tougher time with my husband's family. They are a little more...difficult...than mine. Also very insular, they practically live in each other's pockets and don't really need or want anybody else. My husband orbits a little bit outside of them and I seem to hover a little bit beyond that. We all like each other well enough, however, and they adore our kids and the cousins all run around like a pack of puppies so it's fine. 1
Nyla Posted June 7, 2013 Posted June 7, 2013 My mother liked my husband when we were dating. When he helped me move after a snowstorm and painted my new apartment for me, my mother said she could see him becoming my husband. Momma was right! My family loves my husband, especially because he embraces my parents' culture and the cuisine that comes with it. My husband's family has been mostly accepting. I think my MIL accepts me but that doesn't stop her from occasionally being mean to her sons' wives. She is jealous of my SIL because my SIL is married to her favorite son. My MIL is jealous of me because her son dotes on me, but my FIL does not do the same for her.
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