Phantom888 Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 Frankly, the whole idea of when to say "I Love You" is absolutely bunch of BS originally created by people who want to enjoy the benefits of a relationship (sex, companionship, being a couple) without formally committing verbally. I mean, if it looks like love, and feels like love, then it's LOVE!!! My lady and I made love last night, and afterwards we stayed up talking. We feel a strong connection, even though we have not been together long. She and I both realize that this feeling is something we never experienced with anyone else. In the past, her relationships fail because the men all wanted to move fast and establish commitment early on. She would always feel rushed, and the courtship would fall apart. For me, the women would talk about how they would decorate my home, and how they would treat my kids, and I would get turned off. But for some reason, last night, she started saying how much she loves my last name, and how she would be so happy to take it. Then we playfully talk about how my son would be the "prince" because he's the only boy among our 3 kids. We laughed. Then she mentioned how interesting our offspring would look because I'm Asian, and she is blonde-blue-eyed German. There was much discussion about a potential future, and neither of us felt freaked out. It was so natural. I could feel, without a doubt, that she has fallen in love with me. She tried hard not to say it, but I genuinely felt it. I love her wholeheartedly, and I don't care what the naysayers think. We both know exactly what we don't want in a partner, so when the "right" person comes along, there is no reason to freak out about anything. You just know that it's safe to love your new partner. 3
Lani Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 Awwwwwwwwwwww!!!!!!! This made me all fuzzy. Congratulations on feeling this way, and finding someone who seems to feel the same. Enjoy every minute of it! 3
Carenth Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 Not bull****, fact Infatuation. They call it the honeymoon phase for a reason. 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 It's just chemicals in you brain, making you quite literally insane. You can get the same felling by doing a line of coke 2
c57dood Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 If only they could isolate the chemical of love and extract it into a chemical compound that you could shoot straight into your veins. 2
Author Phantom888 Posted June 6, 2013 Author Posted June 6, 2013 Not bull****, fact Infatuation. They call it the honeymoon phase for a reason. Honeymoon phase is for 20-somethings who have not experienced enough heartbreaks in their lives. If you have gone through a $500,000 divorce, you know there is no such thing as a fairy tale relationship in the real world. That said, with all my pessimism in place, I am still able to fall for this woman. I think it's something special.
Treasa Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 It's been 2 1/2 weeks since you started dating her, right? Be careful. Also, those feelings are not exclusive to being 20 or inexperienced. Even people who have been through the ringer can go through the honeymoon phase and think they're in absolute true love. Maybe you do love her. But it's still been a REALLY short time. Just...take it slow. 1
MidwestUSA Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 When you can still have that conversation over coffee, in your yucky bathrobe, while the cat vomits on the coffee table in front of you, you're home free. But seriously, enjoy and congrats. (yes, I was describing my life. I was more than happy to take his name, and the honeymoon is still in progress) 2
Author Phantom888 Posted June 6, 2013 Author Posted June 6, 2013 It's been 2 1/2 weeks since you started dating her, right? Be careful. Also, those feelings are not exclusive to being 20 or inexperienced. Even people who have been through the ringer can go through the honeymoon phase and think they're in absolute true love. Maybe you do love her. But it's still been a REALLY short time. Just...take it slow. I totally agree that it has been a short time. In the back of my mind I believe she is "The One". However, I am not taking any drastic measures. I really want to get to know her better, and earn her trust.
MidwestUSA Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 I totally agree that it has been a short time. In the back of my mind I believe she is "The One". However, I am not taking any drastic measures. I really want to get to know her better, and earn her trust. Well, I certainly hope it's happening to you. To be honest, I had given up on believing there was any such thing. But, it finally happened to me (I'm 51, and completely understand what you are saying about seeing life differently after the experiences we go through). My BF/husband had not been on a date in eight years!! whereas I had gone on too many "one dates" to even remember (in the same time span). He told me he "knew" by the end of our first date, while it took me til the end of date two. We have had the "wonder what our kids would have looked like" conversation (in bed WITHOUT a cat puking); it was kinda sad, cuz I had never given having children a thought in my 17 year marriage. Now I'm pretty much all about living like there may be no tomorrow, and loving every minute of it, and him, and us (and the cats, and dogs too). Best wishes to both of you! Happy thoughts, happy thoughts........
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