2sure Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 Not having to keep secrets, to be openly authentic and honest....that's something exciting to look forward to.
Author Mount Posted June 12, 2013 Author Posted June 12, 2013 (edited) No surprisingly , after over one week's silence, today the MM messaged me at work asking if I called him yesterday night , of course I told him I did not. Never contacted him. Since last week I have been back to normal very quick, feel relieved, natural and relaxed as no secrecy anymore after everything happened. Then he "said" via messenger, he is glad to see me talking and laughing during the group meeting today, even though he was not happy that the ending made me unhappy which he did not intend to do...and he said it is the right thing to do for him going back but wants to maintain friendship with me.... I know...everyone here saw those lines too many times....and "fishing" is its label... But most important is that, does not matter what he says...i.e. don't understand how he can love two people...etc, my emotion/heart has pulled away very far, so what he is saying is unrelated to me. My goal is continuing moving on....leave everything behind. Mount- I think the best thing you can do for yourself at this point is to keep moving forward. You recognize this is the end off the affair. Great step 1. You're going to take effort to 'block' his future attempts at resuming the affair...important step 2. Next for you are two things that you can somewhat happen together. First...mourn the end of the relationship you had with him. Acknowledge that it's over, and grieve as you need to. That's where you'll really find closure. Second, fill your time and energy that you used to spend on him with something else. Start working out, resume an old hobby, start a new one. Fill your mind and time with something other than him, and you'll heal much faster. Edited June 12, 2013 by Mount
Lillyfree Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 Since last week I have been back to normal very quick, feel relieved, natural and relaxed as no secrecy anymore after everything happened. Then he "said" via messenger, he is glad to see me talking and laughing during the group meeting today, even though he was not happy that the ending made me unhappy which he did not intend to do...and he said it is the right thing to do for him going back but wants to maintain friendship with me.... oh ffs he saw you talking and laughing in the meeting, so he messaged you hoping that you would say it's all a front and you are dying inside. he doesn't want to see you so well after what he did. bullsh*tter and a jerk !
Author Mount Posted June 12, 2013 Author Posted June 12, 2013 Exactly....so predictable....:bunny: I really can't help if he is suffering at home front....not my job and unrelated to me....But he must be able to "convince" wife right away after running back home the next day... oh ffs he saw you talking and laughing in the meeting, so he messaged you hoping that you would say it's all a front and you are dying inside. he doesn't want to see you so well after what he did. bullsh*tter and a jerk !
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