Galaxias Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 If my boyfriend did something that was actually COOL, should I let him know I'm happy, even if it might potentially bring up a touchy issue? There's this woman who's always flirting with him and I had tried to let him know it makes me uncomfortable but without making a deal out of it. He had never really addressed it before, and was always saying hi to her whenever we ran into her at a bar or whatever. But, this time, when she did her usual rubbing up on him, he ignored her!! How do I let him know that I felt really respected by him doing that and thank him, without it being like a deal or bringing up the fact that it was even an issue for me to begin with? 1
Appleness Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 Personally, I wouldn't verbalize it. Guys are usually more into what you do vs what you say anyway. Instead, I think the next time he does something right (in this case ignore the skanky girl) you should just reward him with a kiss or a quick shoulder rub or whatever you can do in public that he has you he likes. This accomplishes 2 things. It cements the fact in his head that he did something right and it tells the other girl "look what I'm doing that you're not allowed to do." It's a little catty but trust me. Thanking him will either boost the ego too much (like he did you a HUGE favor when in reality that's what a guy in a commited relationship should be doing anyway) or he just want be listening. Hope that helps! 2
Forever Learning Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 Personally, I wouldn't verbalize it. Guys are usually more into what you do vs what you say anyway. Instead, I think the next time he does something right (in this case ignore the skanky girl) you should just reward him with a kiss or a quick shoulder rub or whatever you can do in public that he has you he likes. This accomplishes 2 things. It cements the fact in his head that he did something right and it tells the other girl "look what I'm doing that you're not allowed to do." It's a little catty but trust me. Thanking him will either boost the ego too much (like he did you a HUGE favor when in reality that's what a guy in a commited relationship should be doing anyway) or he just want be listening. Hope that helps! I am really becoming a fan of your advice! I think you're exactly right. He's in a relationship, he should be acting accordingly anyway. But a kiss and shoulder rub can't hurt anything. And/or, you could always just deck her. That's generally what we do here in Texas in a bar when a bar tramp rubs up on our man 2
tbf Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 This is an awesome way to tell if a guy's a keeper! My perception is that the men who you don't have to say anything to, who naturally push away flirts and skanks, are the ones who respect their relationships. 3
AlexDP Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 Personally, I wouldn't verbalize it. Guys are usually more into what you do vs what you say anyway. Instead, I think the next time he does something right (in this case ignore the skanky girl) you should just reward him with a kiss or a quick shoulder rub or whatever you can do in public that he has you he likes. This accomplishes 2 things. It cements the fact in his head that he did something right and it tells the other girl "look what I'm doing that you're not allowed to do." It's a little catty but trust me. Thanking him will either boost the ego too much (like he did you a HUGE favor when in reality that's what a guy in a commited relationship should be doing anyway) or he just want be listening. Hope that helps! If you really want to go down the pavlov route, give him a quick bj. 1
Author Galaxias Posted June 6, 2013 Author Posted June 6, 2013 If you really want to go down the pavlov route, give him a quick bj. Ha ha, yeah, I can head them off at the pass.
TheGuard13 Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 Not to be That Guy, but ignoring girls who flirt with you is supposedly one way to make them want you more. He might just be playing games with her.
tbf Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 Not to be That Guy, but ignoring girls who flirt with you is supposedly one way to make them want you more. He might just be playing games with her.This is why ignoring isn't enough. Men need to disentangle skanky women and suggest they go elsewhere for their dry hump.
Maleficent Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 Personally, I wouldn't verbalize it. Guys are usually more into what you do vs what you say anyway. Instead, I think the next time he does something right (in this case ignore the skanky girl) you should just reward him with a kiss or a quick shoulder rub or whatever you can do in public that he has you he likes. This accomplishes 2 things. It cements the fact in his head that he did something right and it tells the other girl "look what I'm doing that you're not allowed to do." It's a little catty but trust me. Thanking him will either boost the ego too much (like he did you a HUGE favor when in reality that's what a guy in a commited relationship should be doing anyway) or he just want be listening. Hope that helps! K then Kick ass blowjob and tell him this is for ignoring the skank at the bar. no?
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