Woggle Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 I have been accused of being too cynical about relationship and while there probably is some truth to that I admit I do know happy couples who have great relationships and marriages. My wife's best friend has a very happy marriage and like us Sandy just brought them closer together. My current boss and his wife are like that as well. On the other hand though I know couples who just make me cringe. I would rather shoot myself than be in a relationship like they have. The men in these marriages can best be described as trained dogs who can speak and have an abusive owner who loathes them. It really is pathetic and I admit I am at my most cynical when I have to witness it.
Maleficent Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 I hate the dynamics of my roommates relationship. If it was me, I would have dumped the guy long ago - but that's probably why he is with her and not me lol Another of m friends cheated on her boyfriend about 3 months ago. They are still together. I'm not sure why. Most of my friends are in relationships and I use to care a lot - but now I decided to concentrate on my studies from now one. I found a booty call. I'm happy lol
Treasa Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 I know a lot of people in happy relationships. I also know some people who aren't happy, but they're also not really IN the relationship anymore. I honestly don't know anyone in real life who is in an unhappy relationship, except for one married guy who keeps trying (and failing) to get me to go out with him, but I don't talk to him more than I have to.
Ursa Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 Yes. I do know 5 couples going through divorces, two because the husbands cheated (one also became very controlling and had violent outbursts), two because they both just grew apart and couldnt' understand each other anymore, and one couple where I suspect the wife might have cheated although that is just a guess on my part. However, I am in a happy marriage. My parents are in a happy marriage, of over forty years. My cousins and in-laws, mostly happily married. Most of my friends and coworkers are happily married/partnered up. I know a few people who married too young, divorced, and now are very happy in more stable second marriages. The number of couples I know in happy, healthy relationships outweigh the number of couples I know in unhappy, dysfunctional relationships by a pretty wide margin.
ThaWholigan Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 Know a wide assortment of couples - some are incredibly bad, some are very good, long and the dynamics well established. Having said that, majority of close friends are single.
jphcbpa Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 The people who are not are not happy out of relationships either. Fact is, no one is going to make you happy.
GorillaTheater Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 It's hard to tell, exactly. Folks in my circle tend to keep their business to themselves. I've certainly had some surprises with divorce announcements, or when my wife confides some struggles she is aware that other couples are having. You never really know what goes on in the world of others.
miss_jaclynrae Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 My parents are a huge one. Been marred for 22 years, been together since my mom was 18 and my dad was 26. They are now 48 and 56! They had their hard times but they are so cute and happy its gross lol. Same with my aunt, they are adorable together and have been married 11 years. My other uncle too, and now I have everyone in the boyfriends fsmily as well! My best friend is the only one I know who's not in the best, they had a baby together pretty soon in the relationship though, but they are working on it. Overall I know so many people in happy healthy loving relationships.
KungFuJoe Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 A mix of both. Some good, some very bad. My best female friend is in a bad relationship with a horribly jealous and immature bf. She's the sweetest girl ever and very attractive and he can't handle the attention she gets and treats her badly because of it. It's a shame really and we've told her straight up to leave him but she can't because I think she has co dependency issues. My best friend/couple are happily married and the only couple that even comes close to resembling the relationship I have with my wife. It's no surprise that the four of is are still partying it up in bars, clubs, Vegas, etc even in our late 30s. Most of the other couples we used to go out with have slowed down quite a bit.
Drseussgrrl Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 It's a mix for me. My roommate and her bf fight all the damn time. It's exhausting. He's dramatic, she's a B to him a lot of the time, and they just have ridiculous explosive arguments that could be about just about anything. In public, around their friends. Worse when they're drinking. It's to the point where I hate them together. I have a few other friends who are very happily married and welcoming babies. Another girlfriend of mine married a dude who she actually caught cheating, and now he can't land a good job to help with her and the baby. I'll never understand why people choose to remain in volatile relationships. Ever. Life's too short.
SJC2008 Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 Did yall see the gas pump news video that went viral? That's a happy couple!!! 3
Author Woggle Posted June 5, 2013 Author Posted June 5, 2013 Did yall see the gas pump news video that went viral? That's a happy couple!!! NO I didn't.
aussietigerwolf Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 mostly happy but I have a facebook friend that keeps on whining about how she wants her relationship back and so on. thing is that she actually cheated on the guy 3 times....
Luckydad Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 I'd say 25% of couples I know are happy. 50% are unhappy. 25% are miserable.
SJC2008 Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 NO I didn't. It's a thing the do on the Tongiht show sometimes. They get a newsbroadcaster and put it on tv at a gas station and he starts talking to the person pumping gas lol. Well these guys did karaoke and it was cool. They got invited to the tonight show and a few other shows too! Pumpcast News, Part 1 - The Tonight Show with Jay Leno - YouTube 4
mortensorchid Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 I have seen a mix of both. Some are happy, some are bored, and some are miserable. The miserable relationships barely last, the bored ones have it touch and go. The happy ones? Well, they have something that works - in the fact that they are right for one another. And that is a great and very rare thing anymore.
Lani Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 The relationships around me are all good.. 5 out of 6 of my closest friends are engaged or married, and are in the most gorgeous relationships and I couldn't wish any better for them. The other one is still single, we are usually eachothers dates to things. My mum and dad have been together 36 years and are as strong as ever. My sister married her highschool sweetheart, and at 41 they're still happy. My other sister, although I find her boyfriend to be a total loser, is really happy. They love eachother for whatever reason and it works for them, so it makes me happy. All this great love around me makes me picky.
Jane2011 Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 I know some couples who are having struggles right now, some of them pretty serious. I wouldn't go so far as to call them "bad" relationships, though (although I do think there is such a thing as that). People too easily call a relationship "good" or "bad" when there's actually a lot of gray area. Even my own relationship, which is still fairly new, I would call a good relationship, but not 100% good. More like 85% good, which is plenty, but still not perfect.
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