mahon451 Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 (edited) So here I am. Almost 4 months since the breakup. Am I still hurting? Yeah. Some days more than others. I still love my ex (it still feels weird to call her that), deeply. I still think about her and what she’s up to more than I don’t. But I can no longer deny that time, limited contact, and most importantly, near-obsessive self improvement have definitely helped expedite the recovery process. Even amidst the pain, I can at least be happy, because: - I have gotten into the best shape of my life, and am continually improving my physique. Early on in the breakup, I started going to the gym because I read somewhere that exercise releases endorphins, which make you feel good. Lo and behold, it worked, and became a habit. For the first time, ever, I can say that I am “fit”, “toned”, and almost athletic. - Perhaps as a by-product of regular workouts, I have become more active. I try to be outdoors as much as possible, whether hiking or even just walking around the park. - Another by-product of becoming fit is increased self-confidence… which makes letting go and enjoying the moment much easier. Also, meeting people/expanding my social circle has been a lot easier/more fun as a result of heightened self-esteem. - My musical activity has increased tenfold (it seems that way, anyway). I’ve always been somewhat active in the music scene around here, but when the breakup happened, I hit it with full force. I joined a new band, started writing and recording my own “solo” material, I go to shows constantly… I’ve rekindled my life’s passion. - I’m learning how to salsa dance. No joke. - I’ve met some awesome new people, and made good friends out of people who were mere acquaintances before. - By throwing myself into my day job, I’ve made huge strides toward making it a career. I guess some things about breaking up aren’t terrible. I sometimes wonder if I would’ve done these things without being “prompted” to. Maybe. Maybe not. What about you guys? Any silver linings? Edited June 5, 2013 by mahon451 3
Chi townD Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 Yeah dude! You're doing all the right things and it seems that you are making massive strides with your healing. See how doing NC AND making positive changes in your life works? You sound like you're doing really well for yourself. As far as still thinking about your Ex, dude it's only 4 months. It's going to take time. But, I think you're doing very well.
BustedUpInside Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 Congratulations! It really sounds like you are taking very good care of yourself. Break ups are always hard, but you are doing the best possible job of recovering. It's actually very inspirational to me. Good luck with what I am sure will be an awesome future! :D:D
Giha Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 It is very inspiring to see members of LS having success with moving on good for you man, keep it up!
IS IT Better late Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 Mahon, I've read some of your comments and threads you're a funny dude! Your thoughts sound similar to mine and your breakup happened around the same time as mine. What's your back story? You sound like you're in your 30's? Lol not trying to hit on ya but I like your perspective on things. I bet your chick misses your humor. I had a rough day yesterday and I kept telling myself you know what, she lost me too! I'm funny as shyt and always had her laughing. Stupid broad!
Author mahon451 Posted June 12, 2013 Author Posted June 12, 2013 Mahon, I've read some of your comments and threads you're a funny dude! Your thoughts sound similar to mine and your breakup happened around the same time as mine. What's your back story? You sound like you're in your 30's? Lol not trying to hit on ya but I like your perspective on things. I bet your chick misses your humor. I had a rough day yesterday and I kept telling myself you know what, she lost me too! I'm funny as shyt and always had her laughing. Stupid broad! Why, thank you! Yep, I'm in my early 30s. As for the humor... it comes naturally, and sometimes inappropriately. Herp.
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