minimad Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 (edited) I will try to make this a short as possible. After spending the best part of three weeks reading these forums I know it's the best place to get some help. so here goes. my ex and I were first together when she was 15 and I was 19 we had three years together and where very happy. Then out of the blue I had a letter from an ex telling me I had a 4 year old daughter. This caused so many problems between us. But my family got involved next thing I knew was I had lost the girl I loved and was married to someone I didn't love and had 2 more children. I spent the next 7 years trying to bump into the girl I loved. well as it happens I did finaly bump into her we talked and talked. She had got married 4 months before we had met, was 4 months pregnant and had a 2 year old daughter. To cut this short we both left are partners and had a few months together. But the timing was bad for different reasons. Now fast forward 10 long years without a day going by without me thinking of her. I found her on the internet. I contacted her and after a week or two she replied at last all my dreams had come true. She was single. We talked over the internet for a while then met. She told me when I touched her it was like electricity running through her. well as I said I'm trying to keep this short. A few months later I moved in with her and things could not have been better. Then she let slip one drunken night that she still had feelings for an ex boyfriend who dumped her 2 weeks before I contacted her. But I let it go and things just got better and better we had 5 fantastic years together. She woukd tell me every day how much she loved me. then it all went wrong she changed one day over money problems her daughter had caused but she blamed me as at the time I had a small business I didn't always have work but when I did I would always spend it on her. Things were a little different from then. Then the next problem came her daughter who is 18 now finished with her boyfriend and decided to live life fir a while. And I swear the night she came home and told us this I felt the love from my ex leave her. Weeks later I got the I love you but I'm not in love with you speech along with. you deserve so much better than me. we want different things in life. I need to go out and feel attractive. I can't believe I have wasted 5 years of my life. she felt like a frumpy house wife. the list goes on you get the point. Well I got blamed for everything. Yet I used to encourage her to go out and do things away from me but she didn't want to go out with her friends she wanted to spend all her time with me. now the break up. Things changed very fast. One minute she would start flirting with me then when I responded she would go so cold and treat me like a complete stranger. This carried on for a couple of weeks. Until I moved in the camper van on the drive. Even then she would come sit out there with me and talk like we would fix things. She would say things like this is so hard for her she feels like she is loosing half of her self. Or my mind is so messed up a big part of me is screaming Not to let you go but a small part says I need to find myself. several times I tried to leave and she stopped me from going. Until she went out with friends one night and didnt come back until 6.30am that day I left. From there she became angry at me for any reason. I still helped her out with money and other things she needed help with. But when I was there she would do the same flirting then go ice cold to the point one day I said I wouldn't see her any more and asked for 1 last kiss. Her reply was I'm not kissing you that would be wierd. So now I am homeless living in a camper van beside the road. Sge no longer text or talks to me. I have been NC for 2 weeks. but I did log into her facebook account and found she has been talking to other me she met on facebook scrabble. One of the conversations was all sex talk and she was begging him to come f*** her and how she knew she would meet him one day when they where talking last year. Strange thing is she used to turn me down for sex as her daughter was in the room next to ours and she might hear but happy to hting a stranger in. Well as it turns out she has at least 3 men sge is chasing. She us a very pretty woman. so as for me yea I love and miss her and would give my right arm to have her back. Do I put it all down to a mid life crisis G.I.G.S or what. I don't know I just wish I had some answers. And yea I know some will say shes a slag but trust me that she has always been the opposite. There is so much more I could say but thats enough for now. Edited June 5, 2013 by minimad added something else
oberon84 Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 Hey man, welcome to the forum. That's quite a situation there. Sorry you have to go through this. I would like to offer advice, but you know, sometimes there is just no figuring out why people do these things. I hope you manage to find some peace though.
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