youaremysunshine Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 "this is the first real relationship I've had with a woman. we've been together for something like 5 months and it still isn't clear wtf the deal is (she said she was single to my face, lol). our relationship has always been unequal. she wants me to be her bf (whatever that means) and likes me a lot more than I like her (tbqh, & this is hard to say, I am better looking) so for a while it seemed like we had to breakup even though neither of us wanted to. the sad thing is that even though on an individual level I have the higher ground, she has a more active social life and would have recovered a lot faster. philosopher that I am I have been excessively honest with her, and this has made what I'm sure is a very common situation excessively complex. she has had sex with like 15 dudes and 12, iirc, ladies. I am not going to post my own numbers but they are certainly pathetic (NOTE: huge virgin) and I've been p clear that I want to have sex with other ppl. If we aren't in an open relationship both of our time is being wasted. I think that makes sense?" Yes yes I'm a psycho for reading his blog. I'm just so hung up on this guy. Things had been going pretty well in the last few weeks. I met his mom, I gave him a tattoo, He asked to come with me to montreal, his hometown. Then this! Ugh he should just dump me if that's how he feels. I have tried several times to dump him but he always appeals to my sympathetic side saying that he has no friends other than me. And for the record I am way better looking than him. He is very overweight and has hair like cosmo kramer. His room mates are always complimenting me and saying I'm too good for him. Teasing ovbiously but maybe he is taking it personally. I'm moving out of country in six weeks and we are breaking up. I wanted this time for us to enjoy eachother. But if this is how he feels I need to find the strength to end it, right? I think he is an ego maniac.
Leigh 87 Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 If you're even focused on the fact that you're better looking than her, then you're not all that into her anyway. Saying things like "she is more into me than I am into her" and things like " I am better looking" They all clearly demonstrate that you do not really feel anything all that special about her. A guy who truly cherishes a women does not go writing about how they are better looking and etc..... Are you desperate? Why are you bothering with a girl you barley like? Next time, friend zone chicks who you're not that into, and let them go and find a dude who really adores them:sick: It is really unfair to keep a girl around you when you know you're not all that excited about her... 1
Leigh 87 Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 Sorry I only skimmed your thread, and it is in fact, a "he" Apologies. My advice still stands. What the heck are you doing wasting your time with a dude you don't even like that much>?!
Author youaremysunshine Posted June 5, 2013 Author Posted June 5, 2013 Sadly, the first part of part this post, in quotations is my boyfriends blog post about me. I'll be sure to pass on that information though. I know it's crazy of me to check it. He linked it once of his Facebook for a book review. It's not ussualy personal.
lop98 Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 Ew this would be the only time when I would justify just ignoring him, not even honoring him with a proper breakup, but yeah that seems like the best idea.
Leigh 87 Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 Sadly, the first part of part this post, in quotations is my boyfriends blog post about me. I'll be sure to pass on that information though. I know it's crazy of me to check it. He linked it once of his Facebook for a book review. It's not ussualy personal. You're not crazy for checking. Human beings are naturally curious. You WILL be crazy if you have a "boyfriend" who thinks so little of you. There is no way anyone with self respect would consider a guy her "boyfriend" if he was out posting that crap. We all make mistakes. Your mistake was being with a dude who you were into, and who wanted to bang other women.
BustedUpInside Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 If it wasn't a private blog, then you didn't do anything wrong by reading it. I think you should send him a break up email with a link to the blog page. It should be glaringly obvious why you wouldn't want to continue the relationship after reading that awful thing. I am sorry that you had to see it, but don't let his negative words make you feel bad. Just because he wrote that DOES NOT make it true. You determine whether it is true or not, and as you have already said it wasn't true. He doesn't deserve to be with you, he should be alone for awhile until he matures a little bit and gets a few doses of reality. 1
Author youaremysunshine Posted June 5, 2013 Author Posted June 5, 2013 I knew this is how he felt but I can't seem to end it and nither can he. I don't get what his problem is, we have great conversations and he says he's learned a lot from me. The sex is great and he says he's attracted to me. I don't get it. Also, sure he may want to bang other women because he feels insecure about being inexperienced but the fact is he is terrible with women and never leaves his house.
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