seahawker64 Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 I read this another thread and it made alot of sense to me. Despite the weird coincidences and seem to be bread crumb's from her, I've stayed the course of NC and I can feel the hope dying. Man, it's hard but I have to push on. At what point or time frame did you all start to feel the 'hope dying"?
BustedUpInside Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 For me, and this is going to sound cheesy, my hope died when I started letting hope for other things live. For me, it was like a garden and the hope that my ex was going to come back was like the biggest plant. It sucked up all the nutrients and water from the soil. Now there were all these little sprouts (school in the fall, getting a new place, changing my hair, finding a new boyfriend, taking better care of myself, making new friends, learning to cook) but they weren't getting enough to grow. So I stopped feeding my hope. I stopped expecting him to call, stopped expecting him to care, stopped endlessly obsessing over what he was thinking about. Now, occasionally I would water the plant, but it wasn't enough. Now it is shriveled and brown and the little sprouts are growing. They aren't that big or strong yet, but they will be Cheesy, I know, but visualization really helps me focus on my goals. 1
aisuru Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 You're welcome. Okay, seriously. I'm sure it wasn't my post that got you thinking. But yes, once the hope dies, you are better off.. Dying hope takes who knows how long. I'm in that zone right now. It sucks.
Giha Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 I have to be honest, there's still a tiny bit of hope in me that she would show up one day...but it really is slowly dying. It's hard to shake off. Hopefully within this second month of post-BU I'll get things sorted in my head.
aisuru Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 I have to be honest, there's still a tiny bit of hope in me that she would show up one day...but it really is slowly dying. It's hard to shake off. Hopefully within this second month of post-BU I'll get things sorted in my head. The hope started to die for me at the beginning of three months. Recently. Eh well. Win some, lose some.
lop98 Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 my hope died when I started letting hope for other things live. This is so true. 1
Giha Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 The hope started to die for me at the beginning of three months. Recently. Eh well. Win some, lose some. I wonder where I'll be in 3 month's time. I just hope the ups and downs become less frantic by then...that would be a start.
aisuru Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 I wonder where I'll be in 3 month's time. I just hope the ups and downs become less frantic by then...that would be a start. They will if you allow them to. Right now.. you are in the place of comfort of feeling misery. Time to let that go. Ya know?
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