Ch_11 Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 (edited) Where to start?* My H has been disloyal and a serial cheater. I've decided there's no cure for our M and we've got to go our separate ways. See my other thread. Problem is: I have just started to go back to work 7:30-4:00; it pays very little (12/hour before tax), and I can't afford the house. I would receive around 750 in cs, probably no spousal support, and the lawyer's retainer is 3000 upfront. Ugh. Even if I do move out, it would be tough financially, I would just be able to rent a small apt. with my income, my son who loves his house wouldn't be happy and I'm scared that he would not be ok. If i were alone, no kid, no problem. Possibly new school district, possibly no kids in the new neighborhood - here, he's around the neighbor kids all the time. The street is full of kids playing outside in the summer. He loves it here. He would hate to move. he would give me SUCH a hard time, and my H would totally use it against me.* Right now we live here all three of us, and we get along okay. Sleeping separately. Not talking much but not arguing. Son seems to be ok, it doesn't seem to affect him. My h says he doesn't care living this way. I don't know how long I can do this though. On the other hand - I can't afford anything. We split the bills now based on percentage of income. That works. But on my own? Neither here no there.....it won't work. If I could only get an apt with a pool, or a condo or something, I could "sell" my son the pool idea and how great it would be to swim in the summer. But those condos are unaffordable with my finances. I'll have a ****hole apartment and my son would have to change schools. Unacceptable. He's such a happy kid right now.* My h says if I don't like it I can leave and he'll have custody, since he makes more money and can raise him better. He would stay with his friends, in his home, in his school - better for him due to no changes. To me that's unacceptable. I'm going nowhere without my kid. What should I do? Sorry if I sound whiny.....but I'm so drained.* Edited June 5, 2013 by Ch_11
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