BigFord24 Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 Well my ex girlfriend of about 5 weeks texted me today...she hurried into a relationship about a week after our breakup and she is the type of girl that needs someone to cope. Well she text me today saying "would I be out of line if I said I miss you, and think about you often, and how your doing"...didn't know what to think of it so I simply said, yes, maybe it might be a little out of line knowing you are in a relationship and your current boyfriend might not be happy knowing his girlfriend is texting her ex this. Than she sort of got mad saying I haven't changed and this and that. I think she just didnt get the answer she was hoping for. Any advice on what she is trying to do with this text or where she is trying to get at? Thanks guys and gals! 1
Author BigFord24 Posted June 5, 2013 Author Posted June 5, 2013 That's exactly was I was thinking, which is why I didn't give her anything but that. I should have ignored her, but the fact she got mad was good cuz she did not get the response she was thinking she was going to get, and after she responded to what I said, I didn't say a thing. 5
nugget_718 Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 Well my ex girlfriend of about 5 weeks texted me today...she hurried into a relationship about a week after our breakup and she is the type of girl that needs someone to cope. Well she text me today saying "would I be out of line if I said I miss you, and think about you often, and how your doing"...didn't know what to think of it so I simply said, yes, maybe it might be a little out of line knowing you are in a relationship and your current boyfriend might not be happy knowing his girlfriend is texting her ex this. Than she sort of got mad saying I haven't changed and this and that. I think she just didnt get the answer she was hoping for. Any advice on what she is trying to do with this text or where she is trying to get at? Thanks guys and gals! She's testing to see if she can still reel you in...just in case her rebound relationship doesn't pan out. 2
Author BigFord24 Posted June 5, 2013 Author Posted June 5, 2013 Thanks for the input guys! Man, I love being in power and being in a completely different state of mind than I was a month ago! I'm completely cool and collected and over the breakup, and honestly if she said she wanted to get back together, don't know if I would take her back. What a difference a little time and self will power will get you. It's hard as hell at first, but with friends, god, and this site...one had everything they need to heal and move forward! 3
itto ogami Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 I think it's good you pointed out that her new beau might not be thrilled about his new GF contacting her ex to tell him he's missed. My ex did the same thing within two weeks of her new relationship and it shows you that she either needs the attention/affirmation, or that the new fling isn't all that. Don't contact her again, she'll likely send you another message. And feel empathy towards the new guy - he might not know it yet, but he's doomed. 1
Author BigFord24 Posted June 5, 2013 Author Posted June 5, 2013 Did you respond to your ex when she contacted you two weeks after her new relationship? If so what did you say? My ex might text back, I'm nkt sure. She gets angry over little stuff very easily. But I know she's not interested in this new guy because she used him before, and the fact she texted me while still apparently "with him" says alot lol. Thanks for the advice by the way!
Chi townD Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 (edited) That's exactly was I was thinking, which is why I didn't give her anything but that. I should have ignored her, but the fact she got mad was good cuz she did not get the response she was thinking she was going to get, and after she responded to what I said, I didn't say a thing. Nope, you gave her exactly one of the two responses she was hoping for. If you would have said you missed her too, then you give her an ego boost. Since you didn't state that you missed her, then she got mad. She stated that YOU haven't changed. So basically, you just gave her an opportunity to go ahead and forgive herself for dumping you and jumping in the sack with a other dude just mere days after the end of your relationship. You gave her an opportunity to ease her guilt. She thinking, " Well, I guess I was right! He hasn't changed and now I don't feel bad about being with this other guy because BigFord is still an asshat! I guess the break up was for the best afterall!" That's what breaking NC does.... If you didn't respond, YOU GIVE HER NOTHING!!!! She has no idea where your head is at. "Is BigFord mad at me? Does he still care? Did I hurt him THAT bad? Or is he indifferent? Why hasn't he responded? Is he out on a date or something? Is he sad? Where's he at? Why won't he respond? Are we not friends anymore? Does he want to be friends? Does he miss me at all? Did he even love me at all? Where the f*ck is he?!?! Why the f*ck did he just block me on Facebook?!?!?!" ALL of these questions go unanswered. See, silence speaks volumes. Edited June 5, 2013 by Chi townD 6
Author BigFord24 Posted June 5, 2013 Author Posted June 5, 2013 @chi town, that's what you do not understand. It doesn'tatter if I get back with her or not. It doesn't matter if I have another shot or not, I am mearly asking what people might think she meant by that. I'm perfect content in the state I'm at now. If she comes back, fine, will I take her back?...I'm not totally sure, probably not. If she doesn't come back, that's also fine. I'm not like other dudes on this site crying and begging for my ex back. I didn't ask one time if she wants me back or how to get her back from here, quite frankly I don't give a rats a** if I get her back. So if your saying I "screwed up", i could really care less.
Chi townD Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 (edited) Wow...really? Okay, if you could really give a rats ass about her then why the hell are you posting about it in the first place? Because you're curious about her text? Why? According to you it doesn't matter. All is well in your universe! No reason to be here! Oh, and hey, your little statement about other dudes "crying and begging" to get their Ex's back? You got dudes here that lost their long term relationships, engagements and marriages. Guys that were more invested in their relationships. So, why don't you be a little respectful of other peoples pain. Good luck to you. Edited June 5, 2013 by Chi townD 1
flitzanu Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 Nope, you gave her exactly one of the two responses she was hoping for. If you would have said you missed her too, then you give her an ego boost. Since you didn't state that you missed her, then she got mad. She stated that YOU haven't changed. So basically, you just gave her an opportunity to go ahead and forgive herself for dumping you and jumping in the sack with a other dude just mere days after the end of your relationship. You gave her an opportunity to ease her guilt. She thinking, " Well, I guess I was right! He hasn't changed and now I don't feel bad about being with this other guy because BigFord is still an asshat! I guess the break up was for the best afterall!" That's what breaking NC does.... If you didn't respond, YOU GIVE HER NOTHING!!!! She has no idea where your head is at. "Is BigFord mad at me? Does he still care? Did I hurt him THAT bad? Or is he indifferent? Why hasn't he responded? Is he out on a date or something? Is he sad? Where's he at? Why won't he respond? Are we not friends anymore? Does he want to be friends? Does he miss me at all? Did he even love me at all? Where the f*ck is he?!?! Why the f*ck did he just block me on Facebook?!?!?!" ALL of these questions go unanswered. See, silence speaks volumes. and very much all of this. GIVE THEM NOTHING, AND TAKE FROM THEM, EVERYTHING. *quotes 300* also chi, just learned something new from you today, somehow all this time i'd missed the other angle of "hey they are exactly the same anyway" side of the dumper's thoughts.
itto ogami Posted June 11, 2013 Posted June 11, 2013 "Did you respond to your ex when she contacted you two weeks after her new relationship? If so what did you say? My ex might text back, I'm nkt sure. She gets angry over little stuff very easily. But I know she's not interested in this new guy because she used him before, and the fact she texted me while still apparently "with him" says alot lol." I have been in total NO CONTACT since she sent me her Facebook break-up message. She's sent me five messages since and I've ignored every single one. A Facebook message is not effort. And so I need give none back. And like my ex, if she was so into the new guy, she would not be disrespecting him by messaging how much she misses you or whatever. She's already playing games with people's feelings. Bad news. You're better off.
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