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How can i get my girlfriend to go to the movies with me on a monthly basis?? So lately shes been going to movies a lot with her girlfriends instead of me. She and I do other fun things a lot, but I never get to go to the movies with her anymore. The only time she takes me is if I've been really good and been on my best behavior. Other then that shes goes with a bunch of girls. Were in a committed relationship and she calls me everyday, texts me everyday, and sees me everyday.

 

Lately I feel like she is treating me more like a child and if I am on my best behavior then I get extra things or if I don't say anything stupid. She wants to take our relationship to the next level, so does this mean movies are no longer in the realm of hanging out because we are trying to take things to the next level? I've noticed shes wanting to spend more time alone with me in terms of sitting in restaurants and talking to me rather then in public which is what we used to do. Is she slowly starting to move into the position where she may want to come over when no one else is around? She hasnt been to my house yet. We arnt intimate on a daily basis. Only when she feels like it.

 

I trust her a lot, and idk what's up. I have looked at her phone before and she only keeps in contact with girlfriends. (Don't go saying im a snoop because she handed me her phone just for the hell of it). She looks at my phone all the time too. I am just really confused and not sure what my girlfriends vibes are. Shes had 2 serious boyfriends in the past but those have ended shortly after 1 year relationship. We hit our one year mark and am I assuming its time for our relationship to end to as this is her streak?

 

We have done everything, but sex up to this point and I am just really confused. She calls me a lot, and hangs out with me almost everday so I don't get what this girls vibes are. Is she trying to move onto the next level and is just afraid? I havnt changed since we got into a committed relationship and I am the same guy I used to be. Both of her past boyfriends have been creeps and treated her badly. I just am really confused at why my girlfriend is wanting me to be more mature and not act childish. I don't gain anything if I am more mature. I tell her she is beautiful everyday and I make her feel good.

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Do you have very childish taste in movies? Did you enjoy Jack Ass 3?

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Do you have very childish taste in movies? Did you enjoy Jack Ass 3?

 

She gets to pick the movies as I let her when we do go so I am not sure what the problem is. I am not really sure where I stand in my relationship overall. I am trying to improve on my maturity day by day. She obviously doesn't think I am a failure or else she wouldnt be with me still. She initiates all the calls, texts and hangout times and has told me that she will do all this. I used to put in all the effort before we got into an official official relationship, but now she is. Is this how it goes? Do things switch up once you have gotten into a committed relationship and your waiting for her? I see her everyday, talk to her on the phone everyday, text her, play games with her on the cell phone. I am fine with all of this, but I am just not sure if I am doing anything wrong. I told her straight up I am man enough to make all the moves myself, but she told me she wants to make all the moves on everything. just really confused. I love her and am not leaving her hell no. I plan on being with this girl for as long as shes interested in me still, but I just don't want to ever treat her badly or anything.

 

I also want to make sure I am doing a good job.

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Sounds to me like she's treating you like a child, and she's the one that's very immature. She's playing games with you, for sure.

 

Who the heck won't go to the movies with their boyfriend unless he's been "on his best behavior?" That is ridiculous, and if a guy treated me like that I'd dump him so fast his head would spin.

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How can i get my girlfriend to go to the movies with me on a monthly basis?? So lately shes been going to movies a lot with her girlfriends instead of me. She and I do other fun things a lot, but I never get to go to the movies with her anymore. The only time she takes me is if I've been really good and been on my best behavior. Other then that shes goes with a bunch of girls. Were in a committed relationship and she calls me everyday, texts me everyday, and sees me everyday.

 

Lately I feel like she is treating me more like a child and if I am on my best behavior then I get extra things or if I don't say anything stupid. She wants to take our relationship to the next level, so does this mean movies are no longer in the realm of hanging out because we are trying to take things to the next level? I've noticed shes wanting to spend more time alone with me in terms of sitting in restaurants and talking to me rather then in public which is what we used to do. Is she slowly starting to move into the position where she may want to come over when no one else is around? She hasnt been to my house yet. We arnt intimate on a daily basis. Only when she feels like it.

 

I trust her a lot, and idk what's up. I have looked at her phone before and she only keeps in contact with girlfriends. (Don't go saying im a snoop because she handed me her phone just for the hell of it). She looks at my phone all the time too. I am just really confused and not sure what my girlfriends vibes are. Shes had 2 serious boyfriends in the past but those have ended shortly after 1 year relationship. We hit our one year mark and am I assuming its time for our relationship to end to as this is her streak?

 

We have done everything, but sex up to this point and I am just really confused. She calls me a lot, and hangs out with me almost everday so I don't get what this girls vibes are. Is she trying to move onto the next level and is just afraid? I havnt changed since we got into a committed relationship and I am the same guy I used to be. Both of her past boyfriends have been creeps and treated her badly. I just am really confused at why my girlfriend is wanting me to be more mature and not act childish. I don't gain anything if I am more mature. I tell her she is beautiful everyday and I make her feel good.

 

Um, are you guys like 13? If you say yes then I'm sure we can give you some advice... but if your older than that... seriously? You expect us to take this seriously?

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Um, are you guys like 13? If you say yes then I'm sure we can give you some advice... but if your older than that... seriously? You expect us to take this seriously?

 

im 23 and shes 22 and yes i do

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Go to the movies alone. Lay on the guilt trip. See how long she'll make you go solo.

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Oh you don't want to go to the movies? Let me call up my friend Jennifer and I'll go with her instead. If she's not free I'll go with Amber. Or maybe Karen.

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She probably wants you to escalate things and is acting like a brat because you haven't yet. Also, you gotta put your foot down. Next time there's a movie you want to see and she tries to weasel out of it...uh-uh...grab your **** we are going to the movies! sort of thing.

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Man up! 23 years old and your letting her treat you like a 5 year old!

 

How can YOU expect a woman to RESPECT YOU and treat you like an adult if YOU YOURSELF aren't acting like one.

 

Why is she the one initiating all the calls, texts, etc.? Show some backbone and take some control of what is going on in this "relationship"....and honestly from the sounds of it it's not going to last very long if she doesn't respect you and right now she does not.

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Take her to see The Great Gatsby in 3D. Romantic story for her, great music for both of you, and special effects and violence for you. Win-win!

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Sounds to me like you're being a pussy.

If you want to take her to the movies, then tell her what you're taking her to see and ask when she's free.

 

But really, what is the big deal with the movies? If you're doing other fun things, then why this need for the cinema?

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sorry to sidetrack but... I think I've read something wrong here... you've been together a year and have not had sex yet?

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im 23 and shes 22 and yes i do

 

I can't even comprehend the question then.

If you want to see a movie with your girlfriend tell her you want to meet up some night and see a movie....

 

Like, what else is the point here?

She's not allowed spend time with her girlfriends? Is that it? In which case we are talking about a whole seperate issue here.

 

You are the man. Take her out.

She could very well just want to do more intimate or interesting things with you than a movie, if thats all you want to do then just take her.

 

How is this even an issue, you have a girlfriend and are acting like a pussy and will lose her that way. Do you know how good you have it compared to most of the guys who post here?

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You've been together a year and she's never been to your house? Why not?

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if he only gets to go to the cinema when he's been a good boy how on earth do you expect him to have sex with her!?

 

gods I need some popcorn... :rolleyes:

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