dljacobs4089 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 How do you really break up with someone you love because you realize there are too many differences to make both happy enough to continue? Also, is it a mistake to break up with someone you love because of the major differences because the love could see you through those issues?
lessica Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 You either break up with someone because you don't love them, or you don't understand love, and perhaps rely on societal perceptions/assumptions about what love is- I think it is common for people to think that love is the feeling you have in the honeymoon stage, and when they don't feel it they think 'this must not be love'. I think that a large majority of people work off ego's and are rather selfish, these people are less likely to understand love, and usually only relate it to when they view someone as better than them- as in if they have put someone on a pedestal based on things like status or looks. Love is, in my opinion, about being selfless for the benefit or someone else, and having that returned. It takes two wise individuals to be capable of that. Hence all the breakups for stupid reasons. Ie gigs.
Echo000 Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 [quote Love is, in my opinion, about being selfless for the benefit or someone else, and having that returned. It takes two wise individuals to be capable of that. Hence all the breakups for stupid reasons. Ie gigs. So true. Love is selfless, its unconditional, its loving someone even when things arent easy or simple. Love is about caring about someone else, and trying to understand them and make them the best person they can be. Love is also the ability to let go when necessary. Love man--what a crazy bit*h. haha
Nyclovin Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 You never let someone you love go. Unless, as in my case, they ask you to let them go because they don't love you.
BeautifulBlueEyes Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 dljacobs4089 - I don't know if this is about you loving them or about you not seeing a future with them BECAUSE of those differences. Like everyone else said, when you love someone (really love them) the differences don't matter and you are both willing to work together and compromise on those differences to find an equal ground you can live with. Just make sure that you don't make ALL the changes (if you choose to stay) because that can be dangerous. But if you don't think that will work or trust that the love is strong enough...then just break up the way you normally would. There is nothing that will make it any easier in the long run and if you can't stand the idea of the hard times to come from those differences...let 'em go. Lessica, Echo and Nyclovin all said it - Love is being selfless and only letting go when you are asked to.
xilver Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 dljacobs4089 - Lessica, Echo and Nyclovin all said it - Love is being selfless and only letting go when you are asked to. What if the other person never asks you to let them go though? You could still be madly in love with them yet realize they are treating you like dirt and don't love you the same, but for some reason they keep stringing you along.
Nyclovin Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 You answered your own question... They don't love you ! I had to deal with it , still am, now you must as well.
lessica Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 (edited) What if the other person never asks you to let them go though? You could still be madly in love with them yet realize they are treating you like dirt and don't love you the same, but for some reason they keep stringing you along. Touche. Lol, your selfless love in that case requires you to do as they wish. So hold on, be a puppet, a mess, whatever- as long as you are selfless and reflect 'true' love. Words and meanings are such a twist. Edited July 16, 2013 by lessica
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