LillyGirl27 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 My ex broke it off with me. We were good friends before dating. We are both young. He was 20. I think it was a mix of him not liking me enough, feeling too young to settle (he never had a longterm relationship and never had sex before me), and us jumping into things too fast. Our relationship was full of problems and fear of opening up on both our parts (as we have both been hurt before) and he told me he felt like it became only physical. He also told me he thought that I was still hung up on my ex because I had ended that relationship not long before dating him and was still in contact with my ex because they were such a big part of my life and I felt like they cared more about me than my current boyfriend (please don't scold me for this part, I realize my mistakes, okay?) And to be 100% honest, I was completely over my ex in a romantic way before I started dating the new guy. There was never physical abuse or cheating (that i know of) but it got bad (or at least it felt that way to me). He broke up with me but told me it was nothing that I did and I didn't do anything wrong, he wished we could be friends and to always have me in his life(which I know could just be bull****) and then I never contacted him again and my number changed that day (which I didn't do, someone on my plan did it, I'm being honest. and I never gave him my new number which just made me curious as to if he had called or texted...or missed me. To be honest it has prolonged the healing process for me. If I could have just saw that he never called me I could have moved on a lot faster, or if he did. I know no one can answer this, but I just wonder what it was like for him on the other side of this? Do you think he even cared? and if so what was going through his mind? I went from talking to him every day to nothing. Has anyone ever been in a similar position of him or being a dumper and the dumpee just goes cold? Also, I never begged during the break I just agreed and kept my dignity. Please don't tell me to move on or not ask these kinds of questions or just stop thinking about him or the situation, those answers really don't help. Curiosity is natural. Thank you for your time.
ConfusedT Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 I've never personally been in your situation but if it was mostly amicable, I would not be surprised that he tried to contact you at some point. But if he REALLY wanted to get a hold of you, there are always other alternatives. Its nice to know someone misses you, but the fact that you literally went cold turkey and had NO communication whatsoever after the breakup shows how incredibly strong you are!!! Many of us on this site dream of doing what you did, ESPECIALLY after it wasnt a bad breakup. Congratz to you and its perfectly normal to think about things, but remember a man will stop at NOTHING to get to the woman he wants...
Sugarkane Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 I was the dumpee when I got here and have never been contacted. I think my first post was- My ex never cared. Even if they do contact in my experience it's usually just ego boost and breadcrumbs. Nothing great. But if you're really already over you're ex, than why are you wondering?
Author LillyGirl27 Posted June 7, 2013 Author Posted June 7, 2013 just want to say thank you very much. I appreciate the replies guys. And confused, yes that is just what I needed to hear. In fact one of the things I've been telling myself this whole time to stay strong is that I only want a man that wants me badly enough to get around the changed number obstacle. Loved your advice!!
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