ironwill Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 (edited) So my story is about a year ago my girlfriend and I moved together. Before this, I had a full-time job, my own place and was decently happy, though I didn't really like my job. So after dating my girlfriend for awhile, she got let go from her job. He family lives in another state and she always wanted to live by them. Since we were together and very happy, we decided to move together to the other state to be by her family (mine lives over 1000 of miles away) giving up my apartment, job, and sold most of my furniture because hers was considered better than mine. In our new location I am going to school full-time so I can get a better job. She also says she wouldn't marry anyone who didn't have a degree but because she loved me so much, she was willing to wait for me (though it practically felt like we are married because we already live together). I pay for my own bills with the money I have saved though she does pay my portion of the rent, which is $150 (our total rent only 300 a month as we are renting the vacant town-home her dad owns so he mostly just charges us for utilities) and usually food. Now after being together for over a year, and having 2 years left of college, she flat out does not want to do this anymore. She told me she just doesn't feel like waiting anymore, and wants me out of her life so she can do other things. She wants to drink more, go clubbing more and just be with someone else and act like a young college party animal herself (she is 30 years old by the way, I'm 26). I offered plenty of times to cut down on schooling and get a job but she says no because that will delay my schooling. I ask "what do you want me to do then" and she says just get out. She wants nothing to do with me. She even said I never really did anything, she just wants new. So she pretty much just wants to throw me out as if I am some used toy she no longer wants. It has gotten to the point now where she comments to me that she wishes I was just dead so she didn't have to worry about me anymore. She tells me she hopes I get in a car accident on my way to the gym and die. She has even said for me to just kill myself already because my family or friends don't care about me and wouldn't miss me. She has even been violent towards me. . How could someone who was in love with me, do all this?!She has completely gone insane on me. As of now I have not spoken to her for several days and sleep in the spare bedroom. I barley have any money, been looking for jobs, and found a temp job for now but it won't pay enough for me to afford my own place and with unemployment extremely high here, my chances are very low. I am totally lost and have lost so much. I have no clue what to do. For all the years I have been on my own, I have never been so lost and afraid. I can't get my old job back and will lose credits if i move out of state again. How can my life come crashing down so fast..Now I am not going to be that person that still feels in love with someone like this and wants her back. NO! She deserves to be alone. I can't even imagine anyone else being able to put up with her. She has had lots of boyfriends in the past, but everyone has left her. When we stared dating and even to the point we started living together, I never knew what could be so bad about her. Now I now, but the hard way.. I just need advice on what to do next. Should I even try to work a agreement with her and do the whole "living with my ex thing" so she can go do whatever the hell she wants and I just pay her rent (if she will even go for that)? I have two years left of school. I have not used financial Aid yet as I was paying for school myself with my IRA. I was planning on applying for Financial Aid though this fall, would that be enough to help with rent and school? Should I just try to get a big student loan (something I tried to avoid as I hate being in debt). I got to leave this place FAST. Edited June 5, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
drr6 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 For the sake of your mental health, you have to stop being around her. Living with the ex is a terrible idea here. How about financial aid to finish your degree? Yeah, these days that might not be such a great deal but what else can you do being up the stream without a paddle now? you may as well finish the darn degree.
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