werd Posted October 7, 2004 Posted October 7, 2004 I've been in a same sex relationship with a yonger guy for about a year and a half now. Our situation is a bit unusual. He is not a Canadian citizen, I am. His student visa expired and he applied for refugee protection, as it is not acceptable to be gay in his country. His refugee claim was refused and is being appealed by his lawyer. The lawyer wants us to file a spousal sponsorship application. (Gay couples can now marry in Ontario) We are not living together, but I said I would help him as much as I could. I said he could use my mailing address, to help with his case. Now I find out I have to sign a common law declaration. This is more than I was expecting! To add to this I am really not sure about the strength of our relationship. As I said he is much yonger than me (24) , and a bit immature. I recently saw a side of him I never saw before, and explosion of anger! ( I do realize he is under a lot of stress about this and worried about his future!) I was in a bad relationship before and don't want to repeat the same mistakes. If I go ahead and sponsor him it is a 3 year responsiblity, financially. If I do not do it he may be deported!!! I do not want to lose him, but at the same time, don't want to get myself into something I may regret doing later. What should I do???
Author werd Posted October 7, 2004 Author Posted October 7, 2004 No, he did not touch me. I am not worried about that. Just threw something and yelled at me. I think it's just an outburst of pent up frustration and stress. He appologized and I forgave him. But I can't forget about it. Makes me wonder what else could come? I am basically the only support he has here, no friends, no close family, so I think the thought of him loosing me is more than he can deal with ontop of his immigration worries. He is otherwise very sweet, loving, and helpful. But a part of me does not trust him. He has gone ahead and done things without consulting me first. I am also worried about my assests, he already said he would sign a pre-nup, (co-habitation agreement)
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