dljacobs4089 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 (edited) I have been with my girlfriend for about 2 1/2 years and there is no doubt we love each other very much. When it is just her and I, we are great 90% of the time. So I am sure those that are reading this would be puzzled why I am writing this now. Well to start off, I am very family oriented person and throughout each year there are many family events that take place that would involve us going to at certain times. My family and I are people that go to church every Sunday too. So with that mentioned, she does not want to partake in any of my family events. We have had this conversation a multiple of times and each time it has primarily been about just being involved with family activities and not church because I would never force that either. So overall, she and I have talked about this issue of family involvement with her and she has clearly said that she will try harder but I must understand that she does not want to do it at all but only for me. That comment was made about 6 months ago and we are back to square one again. I love this girl very much and I know she loves me but I am really concerned that one of us or both with be very unhappy in the future if we were to pursue marriage. So my heart tells me to wait and hope she will be "ok" with being around my family and my gut tells me that she is not the one even if love is there. Any thoughts about what I should do or some type of guidance? THANK YOU Edited June 4, 2013 by dljacobs4089
will1988 Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 So you want her to change who she is just so your family will like her? Personaly I find that selfish on your part. However, since your family is a big part of your life (as is mine) and so is religion (not mine) and she does not mesh with those parts of your life, I would listen to your gut. No use in dragging on a relationship that was not built to last the real long term. You don't want to date her for a few more years and then realize "whoops I want to marry a christian family girl, not her... time to end the relationship!". So I would say either you dump her, or you grow thick skin and realize that she is her own person and doesn't have to adore your family.
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