rosie9 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 I'm asking for opinions and thoughts on the situation. Here's the story... Me and my ex were going out for about 2 years. It was the first serious relationship for both of us. He's a year younger than me but it never affected us. After I left for college and he was still a senior in high school, we were able to keep our relationship going. It wasn't until after winter break that things started going downhill. I went home for Valentine's day weekend and things seemed normal but that was the last time I would see him before the break up. We talked on the phone for a while a week before I went home for spring break and he basically said he wasn't sure what he was feeling anymore, he didn't think he could handle a relationship right now and he wanted a break. We talked again in person when I got home and instead of a break he said it would be best if we broke up. Of course I was heartbroken but I immediately went into no contact. About two weeks later I found out from one of my friends still in high school that he started going out with another girl a week after we broke up. I was a wreck but I did my best to focus on the last remaining weeks of school. When I got home I had a long talk with my friend from high school who told me she heard that they were fooling around behind my back and that he only wanted someone to be intimate with and that's why they started going out. Also, that he was going to break up with her before he went off to college anyway. She used to be friends with his new girlfriend, but she told me she was manipulative and was very flirtatious with him and was willing to do anything to be with him. She told me no one approves of their relationship, even his sister and a lot of people lost respect for them both for being so inconsiderate and immature about the situation. I recently went to a high school radio show he was at and he came up to me to say hi. His new girlfriend was there and was very clingy and kept following him around. My best friend went up to him and asked him if he could be respectful and not be to affectionate in front of me because I was there to have fun and didn't deserve it, also to keep his distance. He told her he wasn't going to because he didn't want to be a jerk or hurt me and that he wanted to talk to me but respected that I wanted space between us. The next day I took the initiative and texted him. It was casual and he responded the next night to which I replied the next morning. He hasn't responded but...is this a bad idea? His graduation is next week and I want to congratulate him, but should I? Does he deserve it? And should I stop texting him for a while and see if he initiates a conversation?
aisuru Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Hi, welcome to the boards. The reality is that you're still young and LDRs are difficult at your age. I'm sorry you are hurting. It doesn't matter if he was cheating as he was decent enough to break it off with you when his attention began to be diverted. I know it hurts, but accept it for what it is. At this point, the best thing you can do to heal yourself is to no longer correspond with him. You must look out for you as he won't. I wish you lots of fast healing!
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