hydrate Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 So some background info before I get in there. UK - mid 30s male, engaged twice - never followed through! The first relationship - 8 years on off on off - kept and trying and in the end - hated each other. 2nd - 2.5 years. thought I met her - she was everything my ex wasnt - turned out she was an act. 6 times engaged, married twice, a terrible temper, liar, trust issues, i could go on.... . I jumped in to soon - I left her after discovering she spent alot of my money on herself - cosmetic surgery!....Single now for 2 years. So - ill cut to the chase. Guys I need your help... After all that happened I met a girl Kat in a club - from Czech Republic in a bar. She was stunning, lovely to talk with, and we got on well. Unfortunately after we met she went to work abroad for 3 months, we kept in contact - every day if honest by SMS, a few calls. So she returns to UK - we finally go for dinner, drinks, we get on amazingly well - I mean - probably the best night I have ever had - certainly on a first date - she ends up staying over at mine. we connect - she stays the next day for some time. and we hang out - We go out again - just another great night - we get on great again - we hang out in the park, arrange other dates.... I feel we talked alot - before we met, and understood things about each other. to be honest the last month has been awesome since we started dating.... I really really like her - as in the person she is, and the attraction, not to mention her general happiness in life and approach.... yes ive been engaged but it took me 7 years to want to live with that person, even that was a mistake, then the opposite with the other girl - we got engaged after 2 years.... So I am mid 30s now, have this 30 yr old Czech girl, who seems to like me, I like her.... I want to see more of her - but then I worry about being to pushy, or showing I am too needy.... you would think I have the tshirt and hat and would know how to judge this..... So What do I do I guess - the other point it she is going on a holiday with her family for 3 weeks! and to be honest she wont be short of admirers, its bad enough when I am with her... guess i am asking this forum how do I play it? first time I dated, and liked someone so much in a long time...... HELP!
pteromom Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Be honest but not pushy... Tell her you really like her and are interested in continuing to see her and see where it goes. And DEFINITELY tell her... I really really like her - as in the person she is, and the attraction, not to mention her general happiness in life and approach.... Because :love: Take her out before she leaves for 3 weeks and tell her you will miss her and that if she wants to text or skype you while she's away, you are up for it. Be honest, be open and vulnerable, and just enjoy the ride. Sounds promising so far. Don't overthink things!
Author hydrate Posted June 4, 2013 Author Posted June 4, 2013 yes I know - but as much as I feel she is interested - and she sms every day, we talk 2-3 times a week before seeing each other, she literally is stunning athlectic, fit, intelligent - maybe its the age gap 5 years.... I dont know but I just think is she the sort of person to want to put her eggs in one basket as they say..... after the sh*t thats happened to me in past I just dont know, and maybe its a personal thing - but then I realise there is nothing I can do - is just be me, and if I am not enough for her, or whatever then so be it..... but literally - I have never stayed up all night until the sunrise talking with someone, having a great time as I have had...... questions of science indeed!
Author hydrate Posted June 4, 2013 Author Posted June 4, 2013 and never waited 3 months for a date, or recieve sms everyday for 3 months from someone to say hey good morning.............
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