J_L_C Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 I decided to TRY and get myself back out into the dating world, so I stuck a toe in the water. I had a date with a guy who is actually in the same profession as myself. We met online. We had a great time. We went to a pub for some drinks and food and I was surprised at his maturity (comparing to my ex who I was so used to). Anyway, after the date he said "let's talk soon". He texted me later that night asking for an upcoming movie date to which I replied "yes". A couple days went by and I didn't hear from him. I'm not TOO worried about it but here is my question. My ex, even after the first date, would text me every...single...day...multiple times. I crave that kind of attention because it lets me know the person is interested. I guess I'm not used to this but at the same time, I can't discern if this is typical or if it's a matter of this new guy just not being THAT interested. I don't plan to chase after him because I'm still unsure of how fast I want to get back out there. I figure if he messages, great! If not, well, I guess he just didn't have much hope for that movie date after all. This ex of mine really did a number on me and now I seem to question everything.
Treasa Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Your ex is immature and hence you are broken up. Please don't use him as a barometer. Also, what this new guy is doing is normal. I would go insane is someone was constantly texting me. Ick, too much. I would just say to firm up plans when you're first asked out so that you can plan ahead. You have a life, too.
tom22 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Hi! I'm in a similar situation, but from a different point of view (I'm a guy - age 23). I had a date at the weekend with a girl I also met online. It was a lovely day and I think we both enjoyed. We kissed and hugged before I left and she had mentioned a second date. Since then (3 days now) I have heard very little from her, especially compared to the amount we were texting and calling before we met. I'm really concerned she isn't interested, because I am! but at the same time I don't want to text her too much to appear too keen and clingy. so perhaps this is what your guy is also thinking - trying to play it cool and not come across too keen? so maybe you could drop him a text? even if its a good morning text or something, just to show you are still interested and have thought of him.
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