natwilliams Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 I've been seeing a girl for a couple months now but it's been going very slowly. She sometimes takes many hours to text me back. We see each other 1-2 times a week for little dates and kissing, and once fooled around at my house. We haven't yet talked about "WHAT WE ARE" or whatever. Does this mean that it is implied I can flirt and date with other girls? AT LEAST until we really fool around passionately and talk about us as an EXCLUSIVE thing. ??
KatZee Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 It becomes exclusive when you grow some cajones and ask her to be exclusive. You're the guy here, so you need to set the pace for that. If you want to be exclusive be like, "We've been dating for two months now, I'm really into you and I'm interested in taking this to the next step." See what she says.
Author natwilliams Posted June 4, 2013 Author Posted June 4, 2013 What if I don't propose anything like that, AND she continues to see me and hook up. Does that mean that it's like "Don't Ask, Don't Tell"?
KatZee Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 What if I don't propose anything like that, AND she continues to see me and hook up. Does that mean that it's like "Don't Ask, Don't Tell"? No, that means she's probably waiting to see if you step up your game. That's probably why she takes hours to text back and is a bit distant. It's not a relationship.
sweetkiwi Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 If you are not exclusive you are both free to do as you wish. But remember that those actions have consequences. Why did you only fool around once?? If I fool around with a guy I am dating you bet your biscuits we won't be fooling around only once, unless it was awful.... 1
Author natwilliams Posted June 4, 2013 Author Posted June 4, 2013 The one time we fooled around, I got nervous and had performance anxiety. She was cool about it but maybe was unsatisfied. I think she would give me another chance because she still is texting me. In fact, maybe the experience made use closer. I just am not sure if I want to make it a relationship - if it is, i think it would have to be short-term because I may be moving soon.
Phantom888 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 I've been dating my lady for 2 weeks. On our 2nd date, we wanted to have sex. I made it clear that we have to be exclusive if we are gonna have sex because it's too intimate and I'm uncomfortable about "limbo status" when there is sex involved. Fortunately, she was on board with it, and was gonna suggest the same thing. Neither of us sleep around anyway, but it's good to confirm that. Plus I don't use condom, so it's even more important that we are in a monogamous relationship when we are having sex. Just be clear and confirm when in doubt. 1
Phantom888 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Enjoy the child support payments. she's on the pill, and i'm snipped. both tested. no need to wear a raincoat.
aussie sam Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Plus I don't use condom, so it's even more important that we are in a monogamous relationship when we are having sex. This post made my day!
Phantom888 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 This post made my day! I've actually never wore a condom while dating. Never caught anything, never got anyone pregnant. Pulled out every time, and succeeded for the last 20 years. Hate condoms. 1
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