JLove13 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Ok, so heres the story... my girlfriend and I met on her birthday last year and we have been together ever since... her next birthday is 06/22/2013 and it will be one year to the day that we met... she broke up with me on 05/10/2013... she broke up with me because she thought I became an *******... also, I am insecure, clingy and she felt like I was emotionally unstable... I changed from the beginning of our relationship... in the beginning, I was soft, loving, gentle and caring... towards the end though, I began to feel as if she didnt respect me or appreciate me... I changed into a bit of an ******* and in a way, I took her for granted... I constantly changed my behavior because I always thought that she wanted me to be somebody different and I never felt like she respected me... she walked all over me when I was soft, nice, loving, and caring... We always had a lot of small issues because neither of us liked to communicate with eachother... eventually, all of the small issues, combined with what she beleived me to be as 'emotionally unstable' caused her to throw in the towel and say that she didnt want to be in a relationship anymore... She was my first love... I gave my world to her and always did so much for her throughout or relationship, just to make her smile... I gave her my all from day one, and I never got the same back from her... So like I said, towards the end of our relationship, my behavior changed on a daily basis... from happy one minute, to sad and depressed the next... I started becoming a bit of an emotional wreck, and may have acted like an ******* on a few occasions... mainly because a part of me didnt feel like she loved me as much as I loved her... I never felt like I got from her what I deserved... but I never stopped loving her! Anyways, all of these issues caused her to leave... the hardest part about the whole situation, is that I know that she loves me, and just not the person that I have been acting like lately... the breakup was pretty bad... I pursued her for 3 weeks and eventually she began to get annoyed with me... I said my final goodbye to her through text last night and I am not expecting a response... The last time we spoke, she said that maybe in about a year, we will cross eachothers paths... I think that she knows I need some time apart from her so that I can grow and take care of my own personal issues before we would be fit to be in a relationship together... But her birthday is coming up soon... I want to show her that I am still that loving man... I want her back, but I know that we both need time apart too... I am not planning on pursuing her for now, but I do plan on it in about a year... So here is what I was thinking on doing, and I would appreciate any feedback... I want to name 2 stars through the "International Star Registry"... They would both be next to eachother... one would be named after me, and one would be named after her... I was going to mail her the certificate with my name, along with a copy of the certificate with her name... (I would keep the certificate with her name, along with a copy of the certificate with my name). Along with the certificates, I want to mail her a handrwitten message that says... "My first love, I simply want to thank you for an amazing part of my life! Even amidst your absence now, in some small way, we will never be apart... when you think of me, look to the stars, and I will for you! I wish you nothing but happiness in your life ahead! Happy Birthday!" She knows that I still lover her very much, and like I said, I want to show her that I am still that loving man... also, even if things dont ever work out for us again, I want her to know how special she was to me and I want her to also remember me in a good way... I just dont want her to feel overwhelmed by this... Any ideas on how she might take something like this? Would it make her happy? Even if there were no chance of reconciliation, do you think it would make her happy to know that I care so much? Or do you think it would weird her out and draw her even further away? Any feedback is greatly appreciated! Especially from a womans perspective... Thank you in advance!
BustedUpInside Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 From a female perspective, I think that gesture is a little too much. If I had broken up with someone and I was under the impression that we were both moving on, that gift would make me uncomfortable. Even if I knew that my ex still had feelings for me and wanted to get back together, I would hope that he would keep his space until I was ready to try again. My advice is to send nothing. If you really feel like you can't let the day go unmentioned, then maybe just a neutral card with a neutral message. Believe me when I say that the bigger you go, the more you will push her away at this point. In this case, smaller really is better!
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