maggie747 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 I need to realize he's not going to call. I keep looking at my phone, hoping to see a text from him. I know I'm punishing myself by doing this, but I can't help it. Wish I could just smash the damn phone. How to stop?!
Giha Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Start by deleting his number so you don't get tempted to call or text him. Hope will fade in time but what's important is that you don't answer if he does call...
Author maggie747 Posted June 4, 2013 Author Posted June 4, 2013 I had deleted his number right away, so no worries on that.
Emilia Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 I need to realize he's not going to call. I keep looking at my phone, hoping to see a text from him. I know I'm punishing myself by doing this, but I can't help it. Wish I could just smash the damn phone. How to stop?! Take the SIM card out for a while? Once I took it out for a week (I destroyed it) as it was the only way I could stop myself from responding.
Author maggie747 Posted June 4, 2013 Author Posted June 4, 2013 So if I do that, I won't receive messages ?
Emilia Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 So if I do that, I won't receive messages ? You won't receive messages and you won't be able to make them either.
Author maggie747 Posted June 4, 2013 Author Posted June 4, 2013 Ooh, I like that idea! This might be a stupid question, but once I put the card back in, if there were messages during that time will they show? 1
Emilia Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Ooh, I like that idea! This might be a stupid question, but once I put the card back in, if there were messages during that time will they show? Probably not, check with your provider. I'm assuming they still get lost in the ether as they used to before smart phones. You might find not being tied to your phone liberating.
Author maggie747 Posted June 4, 2013 Author Posted June 4, 2013 Ok, thanks for the tip! I think that's what I have to do or I'm gonna go mad! 1
Author maggie747 Posted June 4, 2013 Author Posted June 4, 2013 I think even when you block a number, you can still get texts. Just not phone calls. The sick thing is I wish he would contact me, but I know he won't. When I see no messages from him, I feel like crap.
na49 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 I think even when you block a number, you can still get texts. Just not phone calls. The sick thing is I wish he would contact me, but I know he won't. When I see no messages from him, I feel like crap. Not true. When you block a number you won't get anything from them. What service provider do you have? Verizon lets you block a number for free for 90 days.
BustedUpInside Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 It is so hard in the beginning to stop wanting what is probably not going to happen. Sometimes, I still catch myself wondering when my phone beeps for a new message. What helped me in the early days was to turn my phone off for most of the day. I am not sure if that is an option for you. Sometimes you can't turn it off if you are expecting a call, but if you are able to then just turn it off. Say to yourself that you are only going to check your phone twice a day. Once in the morning and then once in the evening. If that doesn't work, then leave your phone on, but every time it beeps or rings you tell yourself that you are going to wait to check it. At least ten minutes before you look to see who has called. In that waiting time, tell yourself who the message is most likely from. The answer is usually a friend or coworker, right? Hope this helps, and sorry that you are feeling down. It will get better! 1
Author maggie747 Posted June 4, 2013 Author Posted June 4, 2013 Yes, I have Verizon See the thing is with the sim card, I would still want to know at the end of the week or however long I keep it out if he or someone else did send a message. Ahhh!!! Such a sickness. lol I'll try keeping the phone off for the majority of the day. Luckily I don't need it to be on. Hopefully I won't be a whack a do and keep turning it on and off ! ( done that before. lol)
na49 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Block his number then. It's free for 90 days, you won't get any texts or calls from him, and you won't have to wait by your phone or have your heart stop when your phone goes off because you think it's him. or you can keep torturing yourself. I like my idea better though. 1
Author maggie747 Posted June 4, 2013 Author Posted June 4, 2013 I'm crying as I type this, bc I know you're right and I wish I was stronger.
crazy1234 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 block his number.This way u know there wont be calls coming and you know it for sure..there are no uncertainties..i went through it too.so blocking calls made me feel alot better knowing for sure there would be no calls..and as far as the sms is concerned..see if u can find a way to block his sms as well.
Giha Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 We know, we were all there (some of us still are)...it really is for the best and it does get better 1
na49 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 You don't want to because you want him to call. Well guess what? If he ever has anything important to tell you (he wants you back) a phone block won't stop him. 3
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