veggirl Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 Deb....context clues. I think it was clear he didn't mean crazy in the straight-jacket sense. I do agree with dasein, women painting other women with the victim brush...when the woman clearly made her own grown up decision (tho it was a bad one and backfired) just makes the girl seem stupid and it's insulting when it's constantly implied, or explicitly stated, that a woman who sleeps with someone is the VICTIM if she wants more out of it than she gets. When the dude was crystal clear it wasn't gonna happen. Perfect world...no op wouldn't have fked her. Perfect world...she wouldn't habe chased him when he was obviously not interested.
todreaminblue Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 Deb....context clues. I think it was clear he didn't mean crazy in the straight-jacket sense. I do agree with dasein, women painting other women with the victim brush...when the woman clearly made her own grown up decision (tho it was a bad one and backfired) just makes the girl seem stupid and it's insulting when it's constantly implied, or explicitly stated, that a woman who sleeps with someone is the VICTIM if she wants more out of it than she gets. When the dude was crystal clear it wasn't gonna happen. Perfect world...no op wouldn't have fked her. Perfect world...she wouldn't habe chased him when he was obviously not interested. anyone who thinks the way to a guys heart is to tell them she is pregnant and manipulate them into thinking they are going to be a daddy...is mentally unstable.....it isnt a "stable" or acceptable thing to do ...do you feel that it is?..i certainly dont......... i take that context as this veg girl ....... she has issues...i never said she was ready for a straight jacket...others have on here.......the poster who said she was bat schyte crazy...the ones who said dont stick your dick in crazy...that sort of comment.....i actually said ....don't stick your dick in someone you dont know all that well....normal....crazy.....doesnt matter.......if you dont know someone and you get intimate with them you run the risk of....issues... i also stated that as a guy should also take the responsibility for creating said issue where you seem to eb putting it mainly ona woman you dotn know anything about....no free passes...takes two.....he got free food...free beer...free sex...now i guess he pays for that food beer and sex..... by having some woman with issues...chasing him.....i am not going to debate with you any more veggirl.....ill just say.......i agree to disagree.....best wishes....deb
todreaminblue Posted June 13, 2013 Posted June 13, 2013 The notion that women who freely engage in consensual sex, sex that they desire and even initiate or encourage, have been "used" for sex by a man when more dates or a relationship don't result needs to -go- yesterday. The year is 2013. in 2013....i think men who scab free food free beer and free sex should have a bit more class....and if they do decided to have sex ...take responsibility and be able to deal with the problem themselves if they are mature enough to have sex......shows a lack of maturity.......in 2013...
Author calgary Posted June 15, 2013 Author Posted June 15, 2013 I just got a text saying ' test - negative' I'm about to buy a bottle of champagne. I feel so happy right now. I don't care if she keeps texting me from this point onwards or gives me abuse it doesn't matter, that was what seriously mattered and I'm free of worry. She's long gone to me. But the lesson is learnt. Seriously feel like a great weight has been lifted from my shoulders.
Author calgary Posted June 15, 2013 Author Posted June 15, 2013 she text me giving me abuse . It basically said i'd shown my true colours by ignoring her and that she didn't want to waste any more of her time on a guy like me.. she told me i'd warned her about guys like me and then I turned into one of them.. and that I don't have to worry about her anymore. which obviously shows she was faking pregnancy all along in my opinion. she dumped her boyfriend for me in reality.. but I didn't encourage or ask her to do that... then she got mad at me for not texting enough in the first place, which at this point I told her It was too much for me and I need space, I don't mind texting but not daily.. so she invited me to a party, free booze free food encouraged me, plus I fancied getting out of my town for a while.. ended up having sex.. didn't really make me want to go out with her.. didn't text her enough , so she through a pregnancy scare in... as soon as she saw I wasn't texting or bothering she decided to tell me it was negative and then give me abuse. make of it what you will you guys. maybe i'm the bad guy.. maybe she's crazy.. probably a bit of both in this story.. truth is, the book is shut and i'm running off into the sun set to get drunk and count my blessings. i'm so happy I never have to have anything to do with her again.
shaz2013 Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 she text me giving me abuse . It basically said i'd shown my true colours by ignoring her and that she didn't want to waste any more of her time on a guy like me.. she told me i'd warned her about guys like me and then I turned into one of them.. and that I don't have to worry about her anymore. which obviously shows she was faking pregnancy all along in my opinion. she dumped her boyfriend for me in reality.. but I didn't encourage or ask her to do that... then she got mad at me for not texting enough in the first place, which at this point I told her It was too much for me and I need space, I don't mind texting but not daily.. so she invited me to a party, free booze free food encouraged me, plus I fancied getting out of my town for a while.. ended up having sex.. didn't really make me want to go out with her.. didn't text her enough , so she through a pregnancy scare in... as soon as she saw I wasn't texting or bothering she decided to tell me it was negative and then give me abuse. make of it what you will you guys. maybe i'm the bad guy.. maybe she's crazy.. probably a bit of both in this story.. truth is, the book is shut and i'm running off into the sun set to get drunk and count my blessings. i'm so happy I never have to have anything to do with her again. Well all I can say is Karma is a bitch and you wont get your happy ever after ending, you knew what you were doing you knew she liked you and you used her for sex and shes probably ****ed up even more emotionally now hope the 3 minutes was worth it selfish dick 3
jolie_baby Posted June 15, 2013 Posted June 15, 2013 It is good you realize it was a mistake and won`t do it again; but WHY EXACTLY HAVEN'T YOU GIVEN HER THE PROPER CLOSURE?? why just ignore her? why can't you even TRY to act like a gentleman?! 3
charlietheginger Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 There are a lot of haters here, OP. Props for banging the hot girl. Most guys here would have too (and most girls here would have banged the equally crazy, douchebag, good-looking guy). So don't pay attention to their moral high ground. It's all BS. Anyway, have you considered just changing your number? Props for banging the hot crazy chick now change your number ! That's classic
shexy Posted June 16, 2013 Posted June 16, 2013 she text me giving me abuse . It basically said i'd shown my true colours by ignoring her and that she didn't want to waste any more of her time on a guy like me.. she told me i'd warned her about guys like me and then I turned into one of them.. and that I don't have to worry about her anymore. which obviously shows she was faking pregnancy all along in my opinion. she dumped her boyfriend for me in reality.. but I didn't encourage or ask her to do that... then she got mad at me for not texting enough in the first place, which at this point I told her It was too much for me and I need space, I don't mind texting but not daily.. so she invited me to a party, free booze free food encouraged me, plus I fancied getting out of my town for a while.. ended up having sex.. didn't really make me want to go out with her.. didn't text her enough , so she through a pregnancy scare in... as soon as she saw I wasn't texting or bothering she decided to tell me it was negative and then give me abuse. make of it what you will you guys. maybe i'm the bad guy.. maybe she's crazy.. probably a bit of both in this story.. truth is, the book is shut and i'm running off into the sun set to get drunk and count my blessings. i'm so happy I never have to have anything to do with her again. I think both you and this girl made some pretty stupid, careless, immature decisions. IJS. Now be done with it.
Author calgary Posted June 17, 2013 Author Posted June 17, 2013 you're all making me feel like i'm the only guy in the world, who has slept with a girl for her looks. being a gentleman to her now , would just send mixed signals. Isn't it better she hates me ? it'll be better than if im nice. I don't want to give somebody closure, when they faked pregnancy, ditched their boyfriend and practically stalked me. can't they work out that they were too much ? I told her I didn't want a relationship, she still had sex with me. because I chose to go ahead with sex, did I sign a contract to say i'd be her boyfriend ? no , it just back fired on her. do i really need to say that to her ? ' you're a crazy obsessive psycho.. when i rejected you, you offered me sex.. it didn't work.. so you faked pregnancy.. why would i want to be with somebody like that ? Great body though' i feel bad for her ex, he lived with her for 3 years, and she dropped him just like that.. she ditched the one who loved her for a guy who wasn't even that interested. i feel awful for him. what an awful person.
The Shepherd Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 calgary, you might want to start thinking for yourself instead of blindly imitating the rest of the world. There is a chance that this girl could be Bipolar and might not even be aware of it. Check the BPD threads on here. That might give you an idea of how to deal with her if she reappears.
shaz2013 Posted June 18, 2013 Posted June 18, 2013 (edited) you're all making me feel like i'm the only guy in the world, who has slept with a girl for her looks. being a gentleman to her now , would just send mixed signals. Isn't it better she hates me ? it'll be better than if im nice. I don't want to give somebody closure, when they faked pregnancy, ditched their boyfriend and practically stalked me. can't they work out that they were too much ? I told her I didn't want a relationship, she still had sex with me. because I chose to go ahead with sex, did I sign a contract to say i'd be her boyfriend ? no , it just back fired on her. do i really need to say that to her ? ' you're a crazy obsessive psycho.. when i rejected you, you offered me sex.. it didn't work.. so you faked pregnancy.. why would i want to be with somebody like that ? Great body though' i feel bad for her ex, he lived with her for 3 years, and she dropped him just like that.. she ditched the one who loved her for a guy who wasn't even that interested. i feel awful for him. what an awful person. and you think your much better than her, do you know anything about her previous relationship no , she could have been looking for a way out, or she could have a bdp or bipolar as you keep saying shes crazy is that her fault. She made a mistake but does that make your actions any better. No being a gentlemen will have helped the situation , is it really that hard to think of something along the lines, you seem like a nice girl however im not looking for a relationship and dont see myself being with you maybe she turned like that because you didnt give her closure you nasty person. In fact you shouldn't have slept with her in the first place knowing she is crazy as you say, are you that despearate for sex. People like you may me sick judging others think about your own actions. You feel bad for her boyfriend but still slept with her give me a break. Dont know what she saw in you to be honest . nasty man Edited June 18, 2013 by shaz2013 1
Estate Posted June 18, 2013 Posted June 18, 2013 you're all making me feel like i'm the only guy in the world, who has slept with a girl for her looks. being a gentleman to her now , would just send mixed signals. Isn't it better she hates me ? it'll be better than if im nice. I don't want to give somebody closure, when they faked pregnancy, ditched their boyfriend and practically stalked me. can't they work out that they were too much ? I told her I didn't want a relationship, she still had sex with me. because I chose to go ahead with sex, did I sign a contract to say i'd be her boyfriend ? no , it just back fired on her. do i really need to say that to her ? ' you're a crazy obsessive psycho.. when i rejected you, you offered me sex.. it didn't work.. so you faked pregnancy.. why would i want to be with somebody like that ? Great body though' i feel bad for her ex, he lived with her for 3 years, and she dropped him just like that.. she ditched the one who loved her for a guy who wasn't even that interested. i feel awful for him. what an awful person. Calgary, don't mind the moral police here. There are guys here bashing you because they only WISH they had girls wanting to have sex with them. At the end of the day, you had sex with someone, you now feel it was a mistake but we all (well, some of us) have been there. Men are men, moral police aside, if offered sex on a plate there's not many guys here would honestly turn it down in the moment. It happens. What matters now is that you know this girl is trouble and you need to just get away from her.
dasein Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 The vast majority of women want a relationship and men know it. It speaks volumes about you that you even try to skip personal responsibility by blaming the person who was used... The above and other previous comments about "use" straight from the bizzaro side of LS world. Get it through your heads... she... seduced... him. Not the other way around. The end. Had OP given in to her significant seduction effort, and she blew him off, then OP complained here about it, he would be flamed... "her right to choose...she just isn't interested...man up and move on...don't stalk her." Amazing how stunted the reasoning on this board continues year after year in ever more creative attempts to blameshift all the ills of female posters onto men by some, a significant detriment to the quality of advice daters receive here. Arguendo, if a "vast majority" of women (isn't it interesting how facilely many women generalize gender when it benefits and behooves them to do so, then in the next minute are found recoiling in broken record format on and on about the evils of "generalizing women") do in fact want a full-blown relationship with every man they have sex with (which is -not- the case today), then perhaps they shouldn't hop into bed with newly met men the very instant they dump their preexisting SO for supposedly greener grass. How dare we suggest that women are subject to the same accountability in their sex and social lives as everyone else in the world. Anathema.
jolie_baby Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 I already said what I thought was wrong with your behavior in a previous post in this thread. But the worst part, which IMO you should focus on, is how trashy and cheap you treat someone you have actually slept with. You freely allow yourself to call this girl a psycho and crazy but don't you worry that YOU also may have a problem? Sex is an act of intimacy, and yet you so easily trash people you have been intimate with, instead of being honest and giving them proper closure? P/S she sure didn't act properly but I assume it goes together with young age, inexperience and immaturity... maybe same goes about your behavior ... but please give her a break and some respect, and think about what you have done.
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