calgary Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 crazy crazy girl I need help getting rid of! She asked me if i'd like to go for a drink and catch up about a month ago, I figured it wouldn't hurt, she had a boyfriend, came to meet me, I just drank a few beers she went home... Text me that night saying she'd dumped her boyfriend... asked to meet up for a drink the weekend after.. I kind of blew her off.. she text me lots and lots, and I barely replied.. then she text me complaining that i'm just like all other guys and I just want sex and that i'm not interested in her.. it's true, I wasn't that interested in her.. but If she wanted sex I wouldn't have said no. so she tells me to go over to hers, she's having people over, they've got too much beer, and a bbq going.. so I drink the free beer, eat the free food, meet some new people. she starts getting flirty. I used protection, I didn't finish. I left the next day. everything seemed fine. She kept texting me constantly.. at this point I regretted going over. stopped texting her back completely hoping she'd get the message and move on..... got a text today saying she's had stomach pains ever since we had sex. but she can't find out if she's pregnant for at least two weeks. she said it's probably nothing but she just wanted to give me a heads up. at this point, I just want to get as far away from this girl as possible. she seems completely insane ( but pretty) It's my fault for having sex with a crazy girl. but it actually feels like she's threatening me with pregnancy to get attention. I kind of had a feeling she'd text me saying this.. it came as no surprise. she's that type. i'm actually frightened of her. I just want her to go far far away and leave me alone. obviously, I can't say that, she'll get crazier and worse. I'm unsure what to think. i really doubt more than anything that she's pregnant.
BluEyeL Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 She's not pregnant. Just never reply back no matter what and eventually she'll go away. If you want, before you stop replying, you could tell her clearly that while it was nice being with her and you like her as a person, you don't think the two of you are a match. So she can get her closure. Then stop replying. 2
will1988 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 oops babies are pretty common. You may have in fact created one with this girl. However, more than likely, she is trying to use this to scare to get you back in to her life. There is an old addage, Don't put your d!ck in crazy! Why'd you put your d!ck in a clearly crazy woman? Your best bet at this point is to tell her to leave you alone unless she can show you a test and say that you will not be in her life until the child is born, and when it is born you want a paternity test. If she denies you these, get a lawyer or just walk away. She could also already be pregnant from another guy or another hook up and trying to pin it on you because she likes you. So if she is pregnant you really need her to get a paternity test before being invovled with her or that child. 1
Maleficent Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Text me that night saying she'd dumped her boyfriend... asked to meet up for a drink the weekend after.. I kind of blew her off.. she text me lots and lots, and I barely replied.. then she text me complaining that i'm just like all other guys and I just want sex and that i'm not interested in her.. it's true, I wasn't that interested in her.. but If she wanted sex I wouldn't have said no. so she tells me to go over to hers, she's having people over, they've got too much beer, and a bbq going.. so I drink the free beer, eat the free food, meet some new people. she starts getting flirty. I used protection, I didn't finish. I left the next day. everything seemed fine. and after that (bolded) you still went over to her place and slept with her? *facepalm* You guys ready do anything your penis wants you to do... If you used protection and it didn't break, I doubt she's pregnant. If she is as crazy as you make it seem, she could be trying to have you freak out about this. Also, don't forget she had a boyfriend. Even if she is pregnant - the baby could very well not be yours. 5
BluEyeL Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Protection and not finishing..she's not pregnant. As far as I remember, being pregnant doesn't manifest with somach pains as main simptoms...it's silly. She got desperate because of the sex, that's all. Tell her nicely that you are sorry, you are not a match, and tell her you will not reply to further messages. Then follow through. Block her number. it might take ca couple of months but she'll give up. 4
carhill Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 OP, merely block contact and move on. A more appetizing target will appear presently and you'll be long forgotten. If you can, burn the contact records and any conversations to disk and set them aside in a safe place and forget about them unless needed in the future. Life lesson + little cost = gift. 3
Sunshine87 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 LMAO Men!!! Why did you sleep with her? Do men ever say no to sex? Anyway, let me tell you a little crazy story that happened to my brother. He was "seeing" this girl for a few months. Didn't quite match so he wanted out. But she wasn't having it. She told him that she got pregnant for him and had an abortion. During the abortion, the doctor "cut" out some of her womb and she won't be able to have children anymore. Oh boy, my brother (who was in his mid 20s then) was so distressed that he confided in my Dad. She put him through hell. Due to her "condition" I.e the alleged effect of the abortion, my brother felt so bad and grew closer to her. She even had the keys to his house. She was akin to a live- in girlfriend. He had started seeing someone already (I.e when he ended things) but he had to break that off because of this girl. Anyway, she told a heap of lies and made him feel so so guilty. Eventually, he finally cut it out. Turned out she was lying after all. I hate calling people "crazy" but this sounds like one of those situations. Please send her one last text to give her some closure. Don't be mean. Tell her that you are not interested, she is a nice and pretty girl but you are not interested and as a result you have to cut contact. Mention that you used a condom so you are certain that she is not pregnant for you". Basically call her out she knows that she can't manipulate you. Finally, pls learn to say NO next time. Lol. Men 5
lissa90 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 I'm curious as to way you went there in the first place when you knew she had a boyfriend, then she got clingy to solve that you had sex with her. Free food, free drink and free sex......kinda says more about you than it does her. Anywho, she isn't pregnant so ignore ignore ignore until she gets the point. Don't go back there if you get hungry/thirsty and or horny 6
venusianx13 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 The best way to ward off someone who is madly infatuated with you is to flat out, yet politely, tell them you are not interested. Seriously simple. This way she cannot claim you led her on. 3
GorillaTheater Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 You know that old saying? The one that's pretty crude and that most women despise for the wording if not necessarily for the inherent truth? Don't stick your dick in crazy. Learn the lesson and never contact her again. 2
salparadise Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 LMAO Men!!! Why did you sleep with her? Do men ever say no to sex? Yea, but we don't really mean it. What would the world be like if men were as discriminating as women... sparsely populated, free parking everywhere, men bitching that they can't get a top five percent gal. 4
Author calgary Posted June 12, 2013 Author Posted June 12, 2013 she's actually crazy.. she randomly sends texts such as ' what are you thinking about ? ' told me she'd been on some old website I used to talk to her years ago on and how I've always been there for her and so caring.. I haven't text back once.. she text me today saying she's ten days late for her period but she's getting some sort of feeling she gets before it starts so 'fingers crossed' as she put it.. Basically, should I keep ignoring her ? do you think if I talk to her and maybe make out like all this pregnancy scare has taken the fun out of it and now every text I get from her is just dread.. that all of a sudden she might suddenly have a period ? seriously I can't even believe i'm on a forum talking about this. I really don't want to ever hear from this girl again, she's so crazy.
mesmerized Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 You go on and on about how she's crazy. Yet knowing all this you went to her party and had sex with her, What does that make you? You certainly don't sound sane in this thread either. 5
dasein Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 You're fine, OP, did nothing wrong whatsoever, only complied with -her- plan for -you- to have sex with her. Yes, -she- seduced -you-. Now she is dishonestly trying to string you along for more with a pregnancy lie. Send a text, "Please do not contact me again," and leave it at that. Delete all further texts unread. If she turns up pregnant by some immaculate conception and wants to claim you the father, she will undoubtedly -call- you and leave a message saying she is pregnant. It was her choice to pursue you, seduce you, etc., and if more doesn't result, that's on -her- to deal with, not your problem. The bias of some here is what is truly sanity-bending.
Fitgirl_xO Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 She's not pregnant. Just never reply back no matter what and eventually she'll go away. If you want, before you stop replying, you could tell her clearly that while it was nice being with her and you like her as a person, you don't think the two of you are a match. So she can get her closure. Then stop replying. This. Give her closure. Or you'll end up getting a drunk phone call (or multiple like I DID (yes I regret it) and multiple texts) telling you what she really wanted to say. She may be crazy, but do the right thing & she has no reason to continue being nuts. Had my last one treated me better (no stabbing, no disrespecting me or playing mind games then saying I dont want to date anyone yet I saw him the SAME DAY on the dating website we met on, trying to control me & who I talked to even though we were never officially in a relationship) I never would've flipped out on him. Just food for thought.
jolie_baby Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 I'm curious as to way you went there in the first place when you knew she had a boyfriend, then she got clingy to solve that you had sex with her. Free food, free drink and free sex......kinda says more about you than it does her. this.... your actions got you in this trouble not hers, because you seemed to be perfectly knowing what you're getting yourself into but wanted some free stuff... I hope you learn something, and stop using people.
charlietheginger Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 This how you scare her away.... She is crazy she likes The challenge and emotional high of sucking you into A relationship.... So play super nice ! Text her all the time Act clingy Talk about the future Crowd her space This will scare her away... !
jolie_baby Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 You're fine, OP, did nothing wrong whatsoever, only complied with -her- plan for -you- to have sex with her. Yes, -she- seduced -you-. Now she is dishonestly trying to string you along for more with a pregnancy lie. Send a text, "Please do not contact me again," and leave it at that. Delete all further texts unread. If she turns up pregnant by some immaculate conception and wants to claim you the father, she will undoubtedly -call- you and leave a message saying she is pregnant. It was her choice to pursue you, seduce you, etc., and if more doesn't result, that's on -her- to deal with, not your problem. The bias of some here is what is truly sanity-bending. wow. maybe the OP should re-write his thread with something like: she drugged him and took him to her house, she fed him free food, and poured some free beer in his mouth, she took his clothes off and put a condom on him.... right, he is totally fine did nothing wrong whatsoever.
mesmerized Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 wow. maybe the OP should re-write his thread with something like: she drugged him and took him to her house, she fed him free food, and poured some free beer in his mouth, she took his clothes off and put a condom on him.... right, he is totally fine did nothing wrong whatsoever. You might not know this poster. Men can do no wrong in his opinion, specially as far as sex is concerned. Yet he complains women should take responsibility for their actions. 1
charlietheginger Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 Free beer and food seduced you? Who are you hommer simpson? 5
dasein Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 wow. maybe the OP should re-write his thread with something like: she drugged him and took him to her house, she fed him free food, and poured some free beer in his mouth, she took his clothes off and put a condom on him.... right, he is totally fine did nothing wrong whatsoever. Yeah, he did -nothing- wrong, other than give into the desires of someone who was clearly interested in getting him into her bed. Reverse the genders and there would be no OP bashing whatsoever in this thread. She seduced him, not the other way around. Millions of women have sex with men who seduce them every day and then after having sex, decide they don't want more with that man. That's their prerogative, just as it is any man's to do likewise when seduced by a woman. But I suppose to some here, any man who doesn't comply with every single one of every woman's wishes he may meet in life has done "something wrong." Sorry, no. She plainly wanted OP in her bed, she got that, she got what she wanted. He draws the line there. Now she is lying about pregnancy and texting OP over and over, turning him off immensely, yet blame is somehow shifted to him? Wrong. Or rather, what -exactly- did he do wrong? Meet a woman with a BF? Nothing happened at that meeting, and unless I miss OP's meaning, he met her despite being not really interested because he thought she had a BF and nothing would develop because of that. She then surprises him with the breakup. He still isn't interested generally, but willing to have sex, which is what she very plainly wanted him to do based on her efforts to get him to her house, eating and drinking.
jolie_baby Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 One difference is that he knew he didn't want anything to do with her even before the sex... Am not defending her actions, either... Th best thing maybe that OP realizes he made more than one informed decision that he ended up in her bed, it wasn't all her and he is not fine... Plus, personally, am not sure I admire a man who runs after free food and free beer... She is wrong, and maybe the best thing to do is for him to give her some closure and hopefully stick to it... you never know, if food and beer worked once, maybe she will try that again, and it may as well work... Good luck!
PutARingOnIt Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 Stop having sex with women you're not interested in. Duh. How do you think they are going to act if you have sex with them and then blow them off? 3
dasein Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 Stop having sex with women you're not interested in. Duh. How do you think they are going to act if you have sex with them and then blow them off? He had no indication that she wanted more than sex. Many, many women today just want to get laid by a guy they find hot. What's hypocritical is assuming that men who have sex with willing women today somehow "owe them" a relationship to boot... if she wants one. If she doesn't, the guy is supposed to move on without a peep in compliance with her wishes. Funny how the woman's desires, not the man's, always come first either way, and if the man doesn't comply, he's a villain. Sorry, this is 2013. If she wanted more, she should not have seduced OP so quickly, hopped into bed, before finding out what HE wanted and his interest level. The days are long over that women can assume that getting a guy they want into bed = relationship. Long long over. That OP could be blamed somehow for giving in to a persistent effort by a woman to seduce him, then wanting to move on, which is his right, is absurd.
veggirl Posted June 12, 2013 Posted June 12, 2013 She sounds sadly desperate. I don't think you did anything wrong, she knew you didn't want anything with her (accused you of just wanting sex then...offers you sex. Desperate!). Why hasn't she taken a test? At ten days late she absolutely can wtf...call her out on that now!!!
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