Yourenogood Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 I just want to know your honest opinions on a girl texting or starting the conversation with a guy? Idk call me old fashioned but I feel like its the guys duty to start the conversation, I know it's 2013 and everything but still... What do you guys think?
Ed the 3rd Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Its some bull**** if you ask me. We live in a world where woman have a monopoly on dating, especially online dating. I would like to see somewhat good girl looking get her self esteem butchered by some prat just for asking him out. Equality for all.
Maleficent Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Girls get rejected just as much as guys do. I'm sick of seeing guys complain girls are not getting rejected. I've been single for 4 years and was rejected by most of the men I showed interest in and ended up dating one guy last Fall. Get over yourselves.
Maleficent Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Tact? If you call ignoring/not returning calls/emails/texts, coming up with the lamest excuses and saying 'I was hurt so bad I'm not ready for a relationship' while dating someone else tact. Sure...whatever.
BustedUpInside Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 You are living in a dream world if you think thats comparable. Men may shoot a gal down but for the most part they do it with some tact. Ya ya ya I know you once saw a guy be a jerk to a woman......rolls eyes it doesnt happen that often and you know it. Women on the other hand ENJOY slamming a guy in front of their friends then giggling as he walks off hat in hand. As to the OP question, I dont think there is any problem with a woman initiating conversation if they are interested in a guy. Wow, that is terrible! Please don't believe that all or even most women are interested in hurting a man's ego to look good in front of their friends. I am a woman with lots and lots of female friends. I have never seen one of them treat another person so disrespectfully. If you see that again, you should call that girl out for being so mean. I mean seriously! Just because she isn't interested in dating, does not mean she needs to hurt his feelings. I also think that it is ridiculous to act like it is a "man's job" to approach women. Why should they be the ones to always risk rejection? If you like someone (guy or girl) just talk to them. What's the worst that can happen? They say no. Oh well, there are more guys out there.
Emilia Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 I just want to know your honest opinions on a girl texting or starting the conversation with a guy? Idk call me old fashioned but I feel like its the guys duty to start the conversation, I know it's 2013 and everything but still... What do you guys think? I do that lots. Won't ask him out though.
Keenly Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Tact? If you call ignoring/not returning calls/emails/texts, coming up with the lamest excuses and saying 'I was hurt so bad I'm not ready for a relationship' while dating someone else tact. Sure...whatever. Calls /emails / texts does not an approach make.
hppr Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Girls do it all the time. Really, success is about separating those that try from those that do not. If you want to be successful then you try try try, if you don't want to then you wait for others to do it for you and wait wait wait.
Imported Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Its some bull**** if you ask me. We live in a world where woman have a monopoly on dating, especially online dating. I would like to see somewhat good girl looking get her self esteem butchered by some prat just for asking him out. Equality for all. How do they have a monopoly on dating? Assuming heterosexual. You know, you don't have to ask a girl out and she doesn't have to ask you out. That is equality.
c57dood Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 It has nothing to do with old fashioned, it's about the vast majority of women having cripplingly low self esteem. Don't believe me? Have you ever seen the insanity and fury of a rejected woman? He must be gay/impotent/insane/some sort of sex offender, all to rationalize the rejection she just faced. The same rejection men face on a daily basis. That's what it's about, just be honest about it. YES YES YES. Women do not deal with rejection well AT ALL! Like you said, instead of facing the reality that the man simply is not interested in THEM, they blame it on him being homosexual, weird, loser, etc. They do not face rejection well at all, which is why on the whole men still have to take the first steps.
Melrapuo Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 My first gf asked me out. I asked my second gf out. The third time, it was a little of both. I've also asked girls out on dates. Both options can happen. It all depends on the situation I think. 2
miss_jaclynrae Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 The person who want to talk starts it. If I want to talk to a guy, I talk to him. If I want to go on a date with a guy, I ask him on a date. People complicate things too much with rules. I don't care who initiates, it's the outcome that matters. 5
drr6 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Yeah, you can sit and hope for the best or you can take charge. I recommend the latter as sadly the universe does not always align with our fantasies. What I don't understand is what is the objection to asking a guy out? What guy would actually think less of a woman because of the asking out? Yeah, he may not have been interested regardless, but I can't imagine ANY guy who would otherwise be interested saying: "Yeah, I really wanted to go out with her, but now that she invited me, I think she stinks and I will say no." I think some guys who may have been ambivalent otherwise, would say yes if you did the asking. Is this the problem? That you would be getting a guy who wasn't head over hills??
El Brujo Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 I have no problem with women who approach me, as long as they're not rude or clowning around.
ScreamingTrees Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 Tact? If you call ignoring/not returning calls/emails/texts, coming up with the lamest excuses and saying 'I was hurt so bad I'm not ready for a relationship' while dating someone else tact. Sure...whatever. I'd much rather have that than someone laughing in my face or making some rude comments that were uncalled for. meh Can't say they all do that, though. They're just as good at doing all of what you've listed.
Maleficent Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 I'd much rather have that than someone laughing in my face or making some rude comments that were uncalled for. meh Can't say they all do that, though. They're just as good at doing all of what you've listed. Not me. This behaviour is childish to say the least. The inly place I've seen this happen is in the movies though. Were to happen to me, I would brush it off. Wouldn't want to date someone like that anyways... My point is I'm sick of seeing guys here complain how women have it so much easier than men. We.really.don't. When a woman can't find a date she is either too picky or a frigid whore. If a man can't find a date, it's the woman' fault for being so picky or a frigid whore. We really aren't all that bad. We do however have the right to not be interested without being called names. Some men need to get over themselves and start thinking like adults when it comes to dating. When I see a man complaining on here, I'm assuming he's under 25.
Mr_Flay Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 (...) frigid whore (...) Now that's a nasty oxymoron if I ever saw one. 2
Emilia Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 Girls do it all the time. Really, success is about separating those that try from those that do not. If you want to be successful then you try try try, if you don't want to then you wait for others to do it for you and wait wait wait. Pretty much. I admit it's also a test because it's a way for me to see what he does when I initiate. A good way to separate wheat from the chaff early on - which is what I'm after. Granted you need to put your ego aside and be rational about the outcome. Men have a surprising range of handling women who are more direct, it gets rid of the passive aggressive ones as they are usually not comfortable with direct.
Maleficent Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 Now that's a nasty oxymoron if I ever saw one. not if you actually know what frigid means frig·id Adjective 1.Very cold in temperature. 2.(esp. of a woman) Unable or unwilling to be sexually aroused and responsive
SincereOnlineGuy Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 I just want to know your honest opinions on a girl texting or starting the conversation with a guy? Idk call me old fashioned but I feel like its the guys duty to start the conversation, I know it's 2013 and everything but still... What do you guys think? Modern technology is causing humanity to evolve toward a world where at some point we will be wearing our most private and identifiable data (Social Security Numbers, credit card numbers, License Numbers, Income totals, STD test results, etc.) on the outside of our clothing, viewable to any and all. Girls texting guys 'cold', as a great switch from age-old tradition, is just another step in that evolution. We've already gone from "stay anonymous on the internet" to having favored websites which demand our full first and last names as our screen names... the rest is sure to follow. Eventually, those stories you read of files filled with millions of credit card numbers being transmitted in unauthorized fashion will just disappear, for everybody will already have access to the credit card data of all others. Your only defense by then will be that you are still just one in several billion.
Maleficent Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 Faith had it the first time. Want. Take. Have. In this case 'take' meaning 'asking the person out'...
mahon451 Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 I say if you want something, go f**king get it (as long as you don't hurt anyone). Doesn't matter which parts you have. Half of the girls I've associated with asked ME out, and the other other half, I went after. It's not 1955 anymore, people. 2
Mr_Flay Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 2.(esp. of a woman) Unable or unwilling to be sexually aroused and responsive Right. So she can't have had sex with too many people (= been a whore) if she can't get aroused/moist, because it would be too painful, yadda, yadda.
Maleficent Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 Right. So she can't have had sex with too many people (= been a whore) if she can't get aroused/moist, because it would be too painful, yadda, yadda. lol you're funny. There is this little called lubricant.
ScreamingTrees Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 Not me. This behaviour is childish to say the least. The inly place I've seen this happen is in the movies though. Were to happen to me, I would brush it off. Wouldn't want to date someone like that anyways... My point is I'm sick of seeing guys here complain how women have it so much easier than men. We.really.don't. When a woman can't find a date she is either too picky or a frigid whore. If a man can't find a date, it's the woman' fault for being so picky or a frigid whore. We really aren't all that bad. We do however have the right to not be interested without being called names. Some men need to get over themselves and start thinking like adults when it comes to dating. When I see a man complaining on here, I'm assuming he's under 25. It's all childish, and everything you've claimed that men do, there are just as many if not more women that are susceptible. And considering men are often the initiators, women are more often than not the ones blowing the guys off if they're not interested. I don't care, I'm indifferent to whether or not someone else has it easier than me just because they're a female.. Why does it/should it matter to me? I've never complained about anyone or thing other than myself. "When a woman can't find a date she is either too picky or a frigid whore. If a man can't find a date, it's the woman' fault for being so picky or a frigid whore." I've never said this. I don't even see other people posting **** like this. If a girl doesn't want to be called names, that's fine. I'm not one to do that anyway, unless I was really pushed over the edge. But if a guy's respectfully taking a shot and a girl's calling him names and laughing about it.. Forget that noise..
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