sexyrunwaymodel1 Posted October 7, 2004 Posted October 7, 2004 i need a little advice!!! ok me and my ex have been broken up for about a month or so, and when we broke up he totally turned in to be a dick because i guess i broke up with him, withc i totally regret. but then one day i see him on the street and he tries to play it off like nothing ever happened and asked why i havent called him. so then we start to talk again and it seems like everytime that he comes over all we do is have sex, and talk a little bit. and i feel like that is all he is using me for because i will call him like the next day and he will hardly ever answer his phone if at all, and just the way he is with me.and so i asked him why dont we just get back togehter already and he says o becuase i dont want to get tired of you, and so i asked him if he was every tired of me when we were going out and he said no. so do u guys think that he is just using me for sex, and he tells me when we get done having sex how much he misses me and still loves me, so do u guys think he just says that so he can get some as well, and one more question how can i get him to over look his fear of getting tired of me and be my boyfriend again? i would really appreciate some advice please, and sorry if u guys dont understand it i tried to explain the best i could......
kellydontwanttasleep Posted October 7, 2004 Posted October 7, 2004 girl your a booty call. the question is do want him as a booty call? if so then theres no problem but if not don't let him come over anymore.
Merin Posted October 7, 2004 Posted October 7, 2004 He says he Loves you and he misses you.. but he doesn't want to make a committment to you because he MIGHT get tired of you?!? Sheesh, what a gem What exactly might he tire of? That deep feeling of love he claims to have.. IMHO He** yes he is using you and telling you what you want to hear so he can keep in the game You know what.. why don't you just tell him that YOU are TIRED of this bullsh*t game he is playing and find someone else who doesn't have the "fear" that maybe one day they will get tired of you. Ugh! Good Luck
Splatty Posted October 7, 2004 Posted October 7, 2004 I have six views on the subject because it is hard to know what he is really thinking. Theory 1) You broke up with him and he is hurt and cautious about getting hurt again. He not saying too much because he hold resentment to the breakup. Might just take time to get to a happy comfortable place again. Theory 2) You broke up with him and he is hurt and cautious about getting hurt again. He not saying too much because he hold resentment to the breakup. He is look for a super big appology like "I love you so much I must have been crazy for breaking up with you!" Theory 3) He is giving you a little payback for hurting him. Eg. He loved you and you broke up with him and now he wants to see you suffer a little. Theory 4) He wants you but is keeping his distance that way if you break up again he feels he can save himself some pain. Protecting himself Theory 5) The break up made him question the relationship and he doesn't know what he wants. Theory 6) The guys a dick and he is using you. Anyway good luck, hopefully it is just a phase.
Starnette83 Posted October 7, 2004 Posted October 7, 2004 by you questioning already should be enough of signal to make u realize that Yes u are a booty call, who cares what he sais, what do his actions say??? His actions read : I just want to have sex his words say : I love you... ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THEN WORDS!!! when a guy really loves you, he wants to be with YOU, he wants u as his girlfriend, he wants to talk to u often, see u often and u feel that he loves u that u barely question what is going on... once a guy messes up its his fault, 2nd and 3rd and so on its YOURS>.. youre so letting him mess with u, hes giving u mixed signals and this is making u addicted, instead cut the loser off, u can do so much better cant u?? no one deserves to be a booty call ... Have some pride, STOP CALLING HIM and next time hes beings sweet and wants to come over, screw him!! not as screw him as go have sex with him, but say "IM busy, bye" He is playing u cuz u seem easy and like ure willing to take it, he will keep playing as long as u let him and u will just keep feeling worse, if u really love him, which u shouldnt cuz hes being a dork, LET HIM GO!!! READ WHY MEN LOVE BITCHES BY SHERRY ARGOV!!!! stop being a doormat
Merin Posted October 7, 2004 Posted October 7, 2004 Originally posted by Splatty Theory 6) The guys a dick and he is using you. Anyway good luck, hopefully it is just a phase. *Side Note* If Splatty's 6th theory is correct.. then it's not a phase, more of a condition and can't be corrected:lmao:
Splatty Posted October 7, 2004 Posted October 7, 2004 Merin2 is right if you think it is theory 6 then dump him and move on!
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