FebruaryAmor Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 My bf and I are pretty much holding on to the last strings of hope for our relationship. He told me all his emotions about how he felt about how I treat him poorly even though he is good to me. I accuse him of not loving me , i always want to be with him and i call/ text alot. I listened and took it all in. I want to be a better person a better partner and don't want us to end over my stupid emotions once again. So I have stopped initiating contact with him since Friday. He's been calling or texting me each day. Saturday - he texted me in the evening to see what I was doing I said I was out with my girls eating dinner and he said he was watching a movie on Netflix I said have fun enjoy ur movie. (Instead of me inviting myself over I chose to sleep alone) Sunday- he calls me around 3pm and asks me out on date to the movie I say I can't I have plans and then I work overnight that night Monday- he calls me at 7:15am when I get off and sounds so happy he's saying he's watching hangover 3 online and is laughing and recommended I watch it. Then he asked if I was going to the gym because he wants to join me. I said yeah i can but then I said u know what I should actually sleep. He said okay and we hung up . It was about 2 mins He calls me at 12 I'm sleeping so it goes to voicemail He calls me at 12:10pm and says he can't go to the movies with me at 5 because he has to visit a house he is working at. Usually I would be pissed and blow up on him but I was like "oh okay that's cool". And he said "tomorrow ?" I said yeah. I fought the urge to text him i miss you and I haven't heard from him since 12. I feel fine. Clearly something is happening here. Instead of me initiating contact I'm allowing him to be the man and make the dates. Also I wanna show him that I can beat t clingyness I use to exude from my anxiety. I've been doing me and I love when he calls I'm able to say I did ABC today and I get to hear what he did. I just hope he notices this. He didn't ask for space on Friday but i felt this is something we both need because it was becoming very unhealthy. Guys what do u think? I hope he doesn't think I'm playing power struggle games . Whenever he calls I sound polite but I keep it short and sweet. I might see him tomorrow so....
Suave Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 My advice? It's not going to be what you want to hear. If it's to the point where you are holding on by a thread, grab the nearest pair of scissors and cut 'er loose. There is almost always no way back when communication has been severely diminished in these situations. Holding on for dear life does nobody any good. It's only delaying the inevitable. What needs to happen is time. Perhaps down the road you two can try to sew things back together (enough with the Home Ec puns ) but until then it will take a miracle for things to patch themselves up. The truth sucks. Take it from me, though - I spent a good year pretending things were going to work themselves out. Then when they didn't, I was absolutely devastated. 1
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