IJustWantLove Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 This girl I'm in love with, I was told by one of her friends last summer, she's a sex addict. We are split up at the moment, but I can't stop thinking about her. Anyway, I did a search for Sex Addict today. I know she's got a very high sex drive. She's easily aroused and never struggles to be wet. In two years of dating her, I've never seen her dry during sex. Ever. Which is actually pretty cool. She wants sex any time I do and clearly wants more sex than me. My research today indicated that a Sex Addict doesn't bond with their sex partner the way normal people do. Do sex addicts desire sex with lots of multiple partners? Or can they be content with just lots of sex with the same partner, monogamously? She once told me a story about a previous FWB she had. She'd go to this guy's apartment where he lived with his girlfriend. The guy's live-in girlfriend would be in the living room while she had sex with him in the bedroom. Is this like RUN THE F*** AWAY FROM THIS GIRL AND DON'T LOOK BACK material, or should I allow myself to fabricate excuses for her, she was really young, things are different now days, etc. I really do love this girl and miss her like mad. This sex addiction issue the ONLY thing holding me back. I can seriously see myself being totally happy with her for the rest of my life. Any advice?
melodicintention Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Maybe her "friend" said that to make you lose interest. What a ****ty thing to say about your friend. I mean come on, if it were YOUR friend it would be a different story. But you said this is her friend telling you terrible things about a girl you don't really portray as knowing well at all outside of what her "friend" told you. Women can be catty as hell. Are you sure that is true? Have you told your interest that her "friend" called her a sex addict, and then asked to talk more about it? 1
CarrieT Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 I can seriously see myself being totally happy with her for the rest of my life. Any advice? How old are you guys? Because I have been there (being a sex addict, I mean) and can assure that it rarely lasts... We women are bizarre creatures and the ebbs-and-flows of our libido change drastically through our life. I am 49 now and there was a point in my 30s when I didn't care if I had it at all and a time in my 40s when I wanted (and got it!) two and three times a day. What part about her can you see being happy with your whole life? Her sexuality - or more?
hppr Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Frankly, I see tons of warning signs here, but maybe that's because I am 30 and you are probably 19-22. If you want crazy fun I guess try to get back with her but if you want something stable and permanent I doubt that is what she is selling.
hppr Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 How old are you guys? Because I have been there (being a sex addict, I mean) and can assure that it rarely lasts... LOL A friend of mine married a chick who was a crazy sex addict and after a couple years' he was whining to me about how they hadn't had sex in 9 months. Still better than the other friend who was a virgin after a year of marriage though.
Estate Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 (edited) This girl I'm in love with, I was told by one of her friends last summer, she's a sex addict. Do sex addicts desire sex with lots of multiple partners? Or can they be content with just lots of sex with the same partner, monogamously? I really do love this girl and miss her like mad. This sex addiction issue the ONLY thing holding me back. I can seriously see myself being totally happy with her for the rest of my life. Any advice? Maybe she is a sex addict but what you are describing is NOT a sex addict, it's a normal person with a healthy libido. She gets wet when arroused? Um... kinda normal stuff here. Someone told you see is a "sex addict"...? Um, rumour mongering. She always liked sex with her partner? So....? She's had a FWB? Again... so? She's a healthy young woman, nothing wrong with that. You sound horribly judgemental and buying into other peoples gossip. I think you have the problem, not her. Edited June 4, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1
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