surfergirl Posted October 14, 2004 Posted October 14, 2004 Come on ......you mentioned it.....jk Talk to you guys later....getting off work in a few...
Kawalsky Posted October 16, 2004 Posted October 16, 2004 Hey man, Listen to me. I'm going to help you. You're going to talk to her. This is not an option. If not to bag her, than just to understand that YOU ARE CAPABLE. I know what you're going through, I've been there. Know what I did? I mentally recited the pro's of my life and character, asking myself if someone with my attributes and ambitions was actually incapable of freakin' TALKING to a girl. You've got to be rough in your thinking. You've got to tell yourself that this is not a big deal, that you are above it. I KNOW it's hard, but psyching yourself is the key. When you do it, just imagine someone behind you urging you on, yelling at you to walk faster, put on a damn smile, be a man. Everyone else is just going to tell you milder variations of this. Forget about all these other concerns like "stalking" or bs like that. From what I've read, you're not and you know it. Forget about what SHE'S thinking and just go for it. There's no other way, man. You can do it. Rooting for you. - Kawalsky
Author Broc Posted October 19, 2004 Author Posted October 19, 2004 i think i missed my chance. she doesn't look at me anymore although i'm trying to get her attention and she's always hanging out with this other guy. it's so hard to talk to her because when i look at her face and try to say something she looks freaked and that makes it hard because it makes me more nervous and self-conscious like there's something wrong with me that makes this girl feel that way. she passed by me in the hall the other day and she smiled and said hi to my friends and i smiled at her and she kinda slowly stopped smiling when she got up close and looked nervous and i was doing the same exact thing. this is frustrating as all hell. i'm completely fine around girls i don't like. why does this happen to me?
Author Broc Posted October 20, 2004 Author Posted October 20, 2004 screw it all. i'm gonna do it first chance tomorrow. why should i care what she thinks? i don't even know her.
ShotoKyU Posted October 21, 2004 Posted October 21, 2004 Bro, ive been like you and i still partially am,,,,,i give advise all the time....1st. watch the movie, the TAO of STEVE!!!! and 2nd..........hook up your Philosophy man,, from the beginning of time, women have wanted men, to acknoledge them.......they don't come to you,,,YOU have to come to them.......don't pussy foot around.......be like nike,,,,just DO IT!..........sounds harsh man, but nobody gave ME, this advise i had to learn this.....ive been reading your posts and it's like a soap opera bro,, im curiouse to what happens with you and this girl.......... no shame in your game.....unless you don't play! but im no-One to talk. ShotoKyU
Author Broc Posted October 23, 2004 Author Posted October 23, 2004 i just learned that i am something called "love-shy". i was doing some reading and found this "THE LONGER THE PERIOD OF LOVELORN INFATUATION/LOVE-SHYNESS LASTS, THE GREATER THE PROBABILITY THAT SEVERE LOVE-SHYNESS WILL BECOME A PERMANENT SCRIPT AND LIFE-STYLE FOR THE BOY OR MAN." good god. i have to talk to this girl and ask her out and if she rejects me, fine i'll move on. i have to do it. got any suggestions for what i should say to her? i was thinking about telling her that i haven't been able to get her out of my head since the first day i saw her. is that creepy? what should i say to her? i'm so ready to do this, i have to.
whichwayisup Posted October 23, 2004 Posted October 23, 2004 Just tell her how you feel and speak from your heart. That is pure honesty right there. Any girl would melt, atleast I would, if I was told I loved you the minute I laid eyes on you!!! GO for it!!!
Author Broc Posted November 1, 2004 Author Posted November 1, 2004 sigh. i'm sorry to report that i still have yet to really talk to her. this has to end soon. i'm gonna just have to let go and realize that it's ok to be really nervous around her. the fact that i get so freakin nervous around her will not change. i was in a clothing store today and i was about to leave and i turned around and she was there, standing maybe 20 ft away, she was kinda smiling. i couldn't freakin believe it. i got really nervous and it all started again. she was standing there kinda looking in my direction but not directly at me. i went upstairs and she went upstairs and passed by right freakin behind me. i didn't say anything or even turn around. i am pathetic. no other girl makes me act like this. i can talk to other girls i like just fine. i mean i get a little nervous but nothing like this. this is bad. should i give up and find another girl? one that doesn't make me feel like this?
logitech Posted November 1, 2004 Posted November 1, 2004 The fact that she was there at that store the same time as you, could for one be a totall fluke , or it could mean she is following you, maybe checking you out. And the fact that she follows you upstairs ,hmmm sounds like a good sign from her part.........I would say just have some courage and go and say what you have to say to her, but if its still rough for you todo so, maybe try this approach....."just maybe bump into her on your way in or out of class, or drop a paper, book, pencil, whatever right in front of her, when you get up from picking your things up, say something like excuse me or something simple" she in return says something maybe like "it's ok" or gives you a smile..... either way you broke the ice and took a step into engaging a few words with her. key word (babysteps) lol But if you want to just totally get her attention........maybe when she is leaving class or you see her somewhere, go up to here and hand her a paper with your phone number and name on it, and say that you "she" dropped this. Anyway i think thats pretty pimp..... keep us posted ShotoKyU
ShotoKyU Posted November 1, 2004 Posted November 1, 2004 The fact that she was there at that store the same time as you, could for one be a totall fluke , or it could mean she is following you, maybe checking you out. And the fact that she follows you upstairs ,hmmm sounds like a good sign from her part.........I would say just have some courage and go and say what you have to say to her, but if its still rough for you todo so, maybe try this approach....."just maybe bump into her on your way in or out of class, or drop a paper, book, pencil, whatever right in front of her, when you get up from picking your things up, say something like excuse me or something simple" she in return says something maybe like "it's ok" or gives you a smile..... either way you broke the ice and took a step into engaging a few words with her. key word (babysteps) lol But if you want to just totally get her attention........maybe when she is leaving class or you see her somewhere, go up to here and hand her a paper with your phone number and name on it, and say that you "she" dropped this. Anyway i think that is a pretty pimp approach. ....keep us posted ShotoKyU
ShotoKyU Posted November 1, 2004 Posted November 1, 2004 double post ......oops had to post as a guest before, wouldn't let me log in oh well
Author Broc Posted December 9, 2004 Author Posted December 9, 2004 hooray for me! i finally did it. talked to her walking in between classes, sat next to her, talked to her after class and after asking if she was going out with everyone tonight, told her she should. i had to have a little help from my friend Skyy this morning before going to class. at times i stammered, stuttered and was overall a little nervous but whatever. she kinda smiled/giggled at one point when i couldn't spit out what i was trying to say and was stammering. i get a good feeling from her. booyah!
Blacknosepit Posted December 10, 2004 Posted December 10, 2004 Ya dude i get the same way around some hot chicks. Or not even hot ones, just girls that ill have a fun time with one minute and then when i mildy like them I feel as if everything has changed between us even thought it hasnt. i always feel like the wont want me around because they know i like them, but i dont know that, they might like me back. theres no way to tell unless u pursue them and find out for urself. it can make a man feel like sh*t. one minute u feel like a million bucks and ur going to talk to them then right before u do ur balls giveway and u pussy out. Im trying really hard to get over this. just remember that we are all humans not matter how much a girl may look like a goddess. Life is too short to live in regret... so go for the good things and screw shyness, embarrassment, nervousness, worries, insecurities, and what other people think. show people what u have to offer them.
Author Broc Posted December 11, 2004 Author Posted December 11, 2004 yeah man. try not to think about it too much and just do it. that's what worked for me, well that and having a little bit to drink first. but then yeah, approaching her sober after that i just didn't even think about it. i just went over to her and sat next to her and talked. you can't think about what to say, the words will come you just have to do it. and don't think about what she's thinking because the fact is, you don't know. if you don't pursue them, they may think you're not interested and you'll miss wonderful opportunities. also, you can't think that girls won't want you around because you like them. it's flattering to be liked by people. it's an ego booster. and even if they do in fact not want you around, who gives a damn? why should you be concerned with pleasing people all the time? you gotta think about yourself and what you want. plus like you said, you never know, they may like you back. the only way to find out is to pursue them. yeah, i also stopped caring what other people think. that's crucial. who gives a crap? i found the less you care what others think of you, the easier it is to be social with people especially girls.
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