ConfusedinCT Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 I have been with my boyfriend for three years. We are late forties, early fifties. Both been married before. It's been a wonderful relationship. We enjoy the same things and spend a lot of time laughing together. He has been very good to me. Taken me on trips, bought me nice things and has helped me around my house. But, its been three years and he says he is not ready for marriage. I don't know what to do? Do I stay not knowing if he will ever be ready? This has been an issue now for some time. I'm feeling as though its me and maybe I just Ned to face that I'm not "the one". HELP!
BustedUpInside Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 I think you have to ask yourself a few questions: 1. Is being married the only way for someone to show that they are committed to you? 2. If he never wants to get married to you or anyone else, would that be a deal breaker? 3. Does he not want to get married because he doesn't see the relationship working out long term, or is he just against marriage in general? I think that if you can answer the questions with: no, no, against marriage in general; you should give him some more time. Some people, who have been burned by marriage before, take longer to be ready the second time around. He may be waiting to make sure that you are both compatible enough to be in it for the long haul. However, if you answered yes to the first two questions, then the third doesn't matter and it might be time to have a serious talk with your significant other about what your expectations for the relationship are.
Author ConfusedinCT Posted June 4, 2013 Author Posted June 4, 2013 Thank you. You have given me some new insight into this issue. I have much to think about. Right now we both have decided to take some time to think. It's only been a couple days and I feel lost without him. Thank you again! 1
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