hopelesscaliguy86 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 hi guys well let's see how can i put this. i am 37 yrs old she is 30 years old.... met her thru facebook... exchanged emails intermittently.. were suppose to go out last week with there but supposedly wasn't able to but i hit her up this friday and we went out.. we danced the night away.. i bought a round of drinks then she bought me so we went back and forth.. we holded hands while walking thru the dance floors. there was touching i would put my hand on her back and would let me be in her space. afterwards we drove home and i walked her to her car we just hugged she gave me a strong hug was trying to see if i can go in for a kiss but thought i'd be too akward. anyways after she got home she texted me to make sure she got home safe. i actually had kept her id, money, and credit card and offered to drop it off tomorrow which was saturday.. dropped off her id in the mail box because she was at work already.. anyways so i followed up today monday so this is what i texted: me: I was really impressed with ur dance moves the other night. her: haha thanks does that mean u wont' make fun of me as much now? lol me: i was making u look good on the dance floor that they even thought we were professional dancers. lol (silence) so after 10mins i txted again and said: me: I haven't had that much fun in a while. then no texting no response nothing.. u guys think i sounded too cocky? or what's ur opinion. man this really sucks.. oh well.
Eggplant Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Texting is not for full-length live conversations. Text her, and she'll get back in 12 hours. Want to talk to her back and forth? Dial her d*mned number.
Author hopelesscaliguy86 Posted June 4, 2013 Author Posted June 4, 2013 Texting is not for full-length live conversations. Text her, and she'll get back in 12 hours. Want to talk to her back and forth? Dial her d*mned number. true maybe cause i didn't ask any questions i guess
Eggplant Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 And don't overreact and overanalyze. She's probably trying extra-hard to "play it cool." Don't worry about it...
Imajerk17 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 (edited) You might have lost her at "I havent had this much fun in a while". I think she had a good time but that was strong on your part... Id say wait a day and then text her something low-key like how was her day... Edited June 4, 2013 by Imajerk17
Author hopelesscaliguy86 Posted June 4, 2013 Author Posted June 4, 2013 You might have lost her at "I havent had this much fun in a while". I think she had a good time but that was strong on your part... Id say wait a day and then text her something low-key like how was her day... yea i shud of waited i usually play it cool, but the coolness took over me and typed ''i haven't had this much fun in a while'' fuddddgeee. oh well i guess now i know where i stand.
Eggplant Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 fuddddgeee. oh well i guess now i know where i stand. Ahhh! You're freaking out over NOTHING. :laugh::) She may or may not like you, but I wouldn't read too much into this particular correspondence.
Author hopelesscaliguy86 Posted June 4, 2013 Author Posted June 4, 2013 Ahhh! You're freaking out over NOTHING. :laugh::) She may or may not like you, but I wouldn't read too much into this particular correspondence. true dat... i can also see on her facebook page that she had just finished a relationship... i mean those subliminal messages that girls put on their page.. ur right though i'm going to collect some new numbers this weekend see what's up.
Cutiepie1976 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 I'm curious. Why haven't you asked her on another date? What am I missing? I see nothing particularly off about your text exchange...except the continued lack of a date request. It's all sort of pointless. How long can one sustain a text exchange about her dance moves? You would be better served to pick up the phone and call...let the conversation flow where it will...and ask for a date. 1
melodicintention Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 36 and texting to communicate? Shouldn't this be a phone conversation? Texting is to send small bits of information and thats it. She's likely bored of the texting. It's ok for young people, but mature women still want to be called. Too much texting says that you are either a player or too insecure to call her. Women stop texting when they feel it's time to move on to a man who has the time and courage to call her up and talk. Next time put down the email and texting and CALL and ask for a second date. Then when you are speaking face to face where you can read her body language, there will be less confusion. 1
Star Gazer Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 I'm curious. Why haven't you asked her on another date? What am I missing? I see nothing particularly off about your text exchange...except the continued lack of a date request. It's all sort of pointless. How long can one sustain a text exchange about her dance moves? You would be better served to pick up the phone and call...let the conversation flow where it will...and ask for a date. Ding ding! ASK FOR A DATE already. This is my biggest pet peeve with dudes... chit chat, chit chat, but no real take-control-follow-through. 1
Author hopelesscaliguy86 Posted June 4, 2013 Author Posted June 4, 2013 Ding ding! ASK FOR A DATE already. This is my biggest pet peeve with dudes... chit chat, chit chat, but no real take-control-follow-through. i'm really glad there's girls here also to put their .5 cents.. i really appreciate u all's opinions.. ah man i was really going to ask her out again, but today i was expecting to ask her out again, but felt that my follow up to friday's amazing night fell thru or maybe she was just not into me OOOR the way I worded my text message came off as too strong & shud of just answered what she asked then get it flowing for another date.... i still haven't gotten a reply yet. I was hoping she'd laugh it off and say ''I had a good time too'' or something once she'd say that I could of easily asked her out for another date.... Sucks though cause i all seriousness I had a great ****ing time and I know I gave er the best ****ing time of her life.. We danced all ****ing night I spinned her around we jived, we danced to some latin music, new wave 80s, hip hop u name it the dj was on a roll thank u mr dj. lol Everybody is right though I haaaaate texting a girl I'm actually better at talking with somebody on the phone but believe i've tried either or and I've choked. I'm real confident but perhaps my sense of humor was too much for her or like I said maybe she's just not into me. I'm gonna let a day pass by & give her a call and see what happens.
Author hopelesscaliguy86 Posted June 4, 2013 Author Posted June 4, 2013 You really think so? well i know it was an amazing night i mean it was perfect....if a girl doesn't appreciate that of a good night then i don't know what a good time is.. my co worker said maybe cause i wasn't asking quesions on my text messages or just leave it alone and just start a whole new conversation in about a day or two. if she doesn't pickup then i'm moving on.
aloneinaz Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 I have to agree with Star.. I confident guy would have grabbed the bull by the horn and simply called her up, told her he enjoyed the date and wanted to see her again. If the date was truly all that and you rocked her world on it, you should have had zero insecurity about calling her and asking for a second date. Texting is a nice means to flirt or to say quick hellos. It shouldn't be used as a way to feel someone out to prevent possible rejection. Call her tomorrow and if you get her voice mail, leave a confident message that you enjoyed Friday night and want to see her again. If she doesn't return your call then you know. I've had lots of (what I thought were) great first dates that didn't lead to second dates. Who knows why. The key is to NOT take it personal and go onto the next one. 1
Cutiepie1976 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 (edited) Everybody is right though I haaaaate texting a girl I'm actually better at talking with somebody on the phone but believe i've tried either or and I've choked. I'm real confident but perhaps my sense of humor was too much for her or like I said maybe she's just not into me. I'm gonna let a day pass by & give her a call and see what happens. Interesting assertions. A lot of talk...a lot of excuses...no action. No call. No date request. No confidence in evidence. Perhaps perception isn't reality? Or possibly "locker room" bluster and bravado vs. reality? Who knows? But we do have a plan to delay asking for a date even further. OP, delay tactics can work against you sometimes, especially if the person is on the fence. Edited June 4, 2013 by Cutiepie1976
Author hopelesscaliguy86 Posted June 6, 2013 Author Posted June 6, 2013 (edited) Interesting assertions. A lot of talk...a lot of excuses...no action. No call. No date request. No confidence in evidence. Perhaps perception isn't reality? Or possibly "locker room" bluster and bravado vs. reality? Who knows? But we do have a plan to delay asking for a date even further. OP, delay tactics can work against you sometimes, especially if the person is on the fence. actually after my follow up i would have definitely had asked this girl out. i just went to her facebook page and it looks like she's getting over some guy or there's subliminal messages (has a picture on there that says hurry up and come back here'' has another pic that say says ''email me'' ''miss u'' that say she misses him so obviously what happened here is that perhaps she was feeling down and to escape this she probably said yes to go out with me. i'm ok with her not contacting me back. maybe i came off too strong and well i guess i'll have to improve on it for next time and just be more cautious of it. note her ex or fling is a truck driver so i'm sure she was feeling lonely this past weeken. i'll just take it as an experience and wait for her to text me cause i already made an attempt. she knows it was the greatest time she had cause it looked like she hadn't gone clubbing in a while. she didn't even know what to wear and her roommates dressed her up and all. once she realizes that other guy never takes her out and is a real drag then she'll get back to me or maybe not. i know for a fact it was good times. there's plenty of fish in the sea so NEXTTTTT Edited June 6, 2013 by hopelesscaliguy86
apple OR orange Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 i find, if you dont get a response via text that IS your answer, if you text "hi" you will (normally) get a response, however if shes not texting you, shes not interested.
Author hopelesscaliguy86 Posted June 8, 2013 Author Posted June 8, 2013 i find, if you dont get a response via text that IS your answer, if you text "hi" you will (normally) get a response, however if shes not texting you, shes not interested. yea i really didn't text her again but most people tell me is that it looks like she went back to her ex so i'm just gonna lay off for a bit and work on other girls.
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