Eggplant Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Should I not date? It's been 6 months, and I'm not over him. I don't want to lose opportunities to meet people. Is it fair to date people when I'm still in love with my ex?
Carenth Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 I wouldn't advise it. Because no matter how great the new people you meet are you will be comparing them to your ex if you are still in love with him. Which is not fair to the person you are dating or yourself. You need to work through whatever issues that are holding you back first. You may feel you are ready to start dating again but emotionally you are not available. 1
soccerrprp Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Should I not date? It's been 6 months, and I'm not over him. I don't want to lose opportunities to meet people. Is it fair to date people when I'm still in love with my ex? You know the answer to that question. There is ONLY one answer. There are other people looking for something serious, so if you're not available emotionally, what do you think the answer to your question is? Take more time until you are confident that you are ready. There will be plenty of opps for you to meet other people, right? 1
BluEyeL Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 My shrink told me to date as a way to get over my ex, so I don't know. If you are honest about not looking for something serious, it might be OK.
Author Eggplant Posted June 4, 2013 Author Posted June 4, 2013 I may as well just socialize with friends, rather than date "casually." I get attached... 1
mortensorchid Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 I would. You might be suffering inside but you will never know unless you try otherwise. And it can help you move on if nothing else. Get your mind off the ex. But don't use it as a crutch as to why it didn't happen with someone else. Be alone and you will be miserable. 1
SiaLv82 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 I disagree. You should work on yourself first and then start dating again. It isn't fair to those that choose to invest time only for you to not be emotionally available. You're hurting, don't make someone else hurt as well. These things take time to heal. Go out with your friends, find new hobbies, volunteer at a local hospital but fore go the idea of using someone else as an emotional band aide. You need to learn to be happy single again. If you can't be happy alone then you will never be happy while with someone. Happiness comes from within.
Author Eggplant Posted June 4, 2013 Author Posted June 4, 2013 It isn't fair to those that choose to invest time only for you to not be emotionally available. This is what I'm worried about. OK...
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