irc333 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 ....and they conveniently forget they ever gave it to you. Get a load of this, there was a woman I met a part the other day, good friends with some of my other friends, we had a pretty good chat. Later I contacted her on Facebook and we got to know each other better, apparently some of my friends work at the same company that she works at.....found out a bit more about her...then she gave me her phone # to keep in touch and wanted to chat later. I called her up later in the week, and she picks up the phone, I identified myself and she goes, "Oh....how did you get this number?" A bit hesitant, and shocked, I said, "Um....you gave it to me yesterday, when we talked on Facebook." She goes...oh...I guess I did...hey listen I am in the middle of taking care of my grandson....can we chat later, I'll text you." I contacted her on Facebook a bit later, thinking that she might've gotten me mixed up with someone else....assuring her that I was the same "IRC" she talked with at the party Saturday. She said, "Well, when you initially called, I thought you were the "IRC" that I had met at the party on Saturday, I'm sorry, I don't like to give out my number, you have a good evening." You might want to RE-read what she said......Well, when you initially called, I thought you were the "IRC" that I had met at the party on Saturday And I'm thinking, " Um....yeah..I'm one in the same!" I thought about replying, in a joking fashion, "Wow, that party really must've been a blast to forget 2 days later" Yeah, but that's pretty crappy of her to pull that crap. Why do some women do that?
Author irc333 Posted June 4, 2013 Author Posted June 4, 2013 Then she says, "I don't like to give out my number" And I"m like " Um...you already did, too late to turn back now , honey! LOL" **Update** turns out, she got me confused with the HOST of the party, by the same name.
shexy Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Just keep in mind not all women are flaky and pretend to forget they hand out their phone numbers at parties :-) 1
phineas Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 but most at one time or another will pull this scam. I put this one on the same level of texting me something like "sweet dreams" or "good morning" then when I respond waiting a day then saying "oops, that was meant for the other Phineas I know" Yeah, right. Hey hunny, want to know how I know why you're still single at 43? 1
shexy Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 but most at one time or another will pull this scam. Um, well, I haven't. 1
IJustWantLove Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Ego boost, pure and simple. Either that or she's got a boyfriend and developed a conscious, but I'm leaning towards ego boost. Usually if there's a boyfriend, they'll make plans to see you and then flake at the last minute. This just reads as ego boost to me. At your expense.
CC12 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Then she says, "I don't like to give out my number" And I"m like " Um...you already did, too late to turn back now , honey! LOL" **Update** turns out, she got me confused with the HOST of the party, by the same name. So it was just a simple misunderstanding, then?
Star Gazer Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 So it was just a simple misunderstanding, then? Right. She was confused, thinking the host of the party, also named IRC, was calling her, because she hadn't given that IRC her number. Why he thinks she's "pulling this crap" is...beyond me. 1
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Hahahaha even grandmas play games! She should consider herself lucky that guys even want to date her. OP, you might as well just date young girls if senior citizens are going to act this way.
Author irc333 Posted June 4, 2013 Author Posted June 4, 2013 Why he thinks she's "pulling this crap" is...beyond me. Um, you'd have to be pretty stupid to not see which two "IRC's" look like by their photo on Facebook. Though we might have the same name, we look different. That alcohol must've killed some brain cells. lol
Pisces13 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Maybe she just has Alzheimer's, you did say she was a grandmother right?
Author irc333 Posted June 4, 2013 Author Posted June 4, 2013 Maybe she just has Alzheimer's, you did say she was a grandmother right? Well, she's a 50 year old grandma actually. When does that usually kick-in?
Xinreeki Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Well, she's a 50 year old grandma actually. When does that usually kick-in? Early onset alzheimer's has been diagnosed in people as young as 35, possibly younger. Though in those cases there is usually a strong genetic predisposition to the disease..
Mrlonelyone Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Wow. It is as has been said, they did it for the ego boost or because they have a BF and changed their mind. I read online a little while back, that many women are afraid to say no to a man. Supposedly they are scared that if they say no a man will go nuts on them and attack them or yell at them or whatever (or perhaps just think ill of them). So they give out a number or other contact info with the intent of not ever actually responding to your communication. It is a really passive agressive and unhealthy way to do things IMO.
Pisces13 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 If she had Alzheimer's I doubt she would be going to parties. I wasn't being serious, I was just making light of the situation.
Xinreeki Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 If she had Alzheimer's I doubt she would be going to parties. Depends on the stage / severity of the Alzheimer's disease. In the early stages of the illness, she would function very well, and thus could easily make it through a party with no obviously observable symptoms. Especially if it is before a diagnosis has been reached. Her memory and thought processes would just steadily worsen over time at first.
phineas Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Wow. It is as has been said, they did it for the ego boost or because they have a BF and changed their mind. I read online a little while back, that many women are afraid to say no to a man. Supposedly they are scared that if they say no a man will go nuts on them and attack them or yell at them or whatever (or perhaps just think ill of them). So they give out a number or other contact info with the intent of not ever actually responding to your communication. It is a really passive agressive and unhealthy way to do things IMO. Except, he asked for her number over facebook. so that theory doesn't hold water. all she has to do is block him or not respond. It's all a woman has to do when it's online. I might buy this if it was in person and the woman was leading the guy on. By leading him on I mean letting him buy her drinks in a bar then not giving him her number or flirting with him sexually. I seriously doubt many men cause a scene because a woman doesn't give him her number if they were just talking normally.
xxoo Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 She got confused and explained it to you. What's the problem?
Xinreeki Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 So check back with her in a year and see if she is in a home yet? Hopefully a lot longer than that if she gets diagnosed early and the medication she is prescribed is effective. Medications available for Alzheimer's disease are being improved all the time.
Author irc333 Posted June 4, 2013 Author Posted June 4, 2013 Except, he asked for her number over facebook. Correction, I never asked her for her # over FB, she gave it to me proactively. I never asked.
Imajerk17 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 (edited) Well, I actually think that if irc333 represented what happened accurately, then she could have taken a little more responsibility for the confusion, or at least be a little kinder about it. "When I gave you my number I had you confused with someone else. I apologize for the mix-up." I suppose early-onset dementia technically might be a very slim possibility but it is just so slim a possibility that I don't think it's even worth bringing up. Occam's razor says she mixed up two guys but no serious mental illness. I also think it's been covered before many times though. Part of the problem OP is that you live in a rural area where there just aren't that many emotionally healthy single people. You don't seem to be willing to move, so I don't know how your dating situation will improve in the meanwhile. Sorry. Edited June 4, 2013 by Imajerk17
xxoo Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 I still don't get it. Has she actually said, clearly, knowing who she is talking to (you, irc), that she doesn't want you to have her number? It seems to me that she is trying to explain the mix up, and explain that wasn't about you. She was upset because she thought someone else had her number, because she doesn't like giving out her number. The biggest issue may be that you are trying to clarify this through chat, rather than an in person discussion. It seems like mutual communication failure.
Author irc333 Posted June 4, 2013 Author Posted June 4, 2013 Well, I actually think that if irc333 represented what happened accurately, then she could have taken a little more responsibility for the confusion, or at least be a little kinder about it. "When I gave you my number I had you confused with someone else. I apologize for the mix-up." I suppose early-onset dementia technically might be a very slim possibility but it is just so slim a possibility that I don't think it's even worth bringing up. Occam's razor says she mixed up two guys but no serious mental illness. I also think it's been covered before many times though. Part of the problem OP is that you live in a rural area where there just aren't that many emotionally healthy single people. You don't seem to be willing to move, so I don't know how your dating situation will improve in the meanwhile. Sorry. It's economically feasible for me TO move...I work, 'nuff said. I'm not going to quit work just so I can live elsewhere. So I can't really move.
Author irc333 Posted June 4, 2013 Author Posted June 4, 2013 I still don't get it. Has she actually said, clearly, knowing who she is talking to (you, irc), that she doesn't want you to have her number? It seems to me that she is trying to explain the mix up, and explain that wasn't about you. She was upset because she thought someone else had her number, because she doesn't like giving out her number. The biggest issue may be that you are trying to clarify this through chat, rather than an in person discussion. It seems like mutual communication failure. She never actually said that she did not want me to HAVE her #, but she told me she just doesn't like to give it out. Does this allow me to call her again? Should I take another stab at it? Or contact her on FB?
Imajerk17 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 (edited) It's economically feasible for me TO move...I work, 'nuff said. I'm not going to quit work just so I can live elsewhere. So I can't really move. OK. BUT I would submit that if you live in an area where you can hardly date, then are you really making a living? I mean, your social needs aren't being met. To answer your other question, nothing good would come from you contacting her again. You would be making a pest of yourself. She's never going to say yes. And, she blew you off and somewhat rudely too. Why does she deserve more attention from you? Edited June 4, 2013 by Imajerk17
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