idontknow98 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Last night I was sitting in my room..it was pretty late..around midnight. I get a RANDOM text from my ex girlfriend. She asked me if I wanted to go to the movies with her and her friend with some other guy. I agreed just to see what it was all about. Today they went to the movies without me and the other guy. I would have went but she told me she didn't want me to feel like a third wheel. I told her it was okay and that I had to do something else anyways. We haven't talked in over a month and she texts me randomly late at night. She told me she couldn't sleep and that since I talked to her maybe she could sleep tonight. What could this mean..I'm really confused about the whole thing.
CelticGibson Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 She either wants you as a backup or as a friend. Are you okay with being just a friend? If not then don't assume this means anything because it doesn't. Don't respond anymore unless she comes right out and tells you that she wants to try again...
Author idontknow98 Posted June 4, 2013 Author Posted June 4, 2013 She either wants you as a backup or as a friend. Are you okay with being just a friend? If not then don't assume this means anything because it doesn't. Don't respond anymore unless she comes right out and tells you that she wants to try again... Definitely not just a friend..and not a back up either.
Chrisal23 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Just stop being there for her. You are staying cool which is great and maybe the reason why she still talks to you. Idk what her feelings are for you but let me ask you this do you still have feelings for her? does it hurt the way she is treating you? If not then you can honestly be there for her but she will just keep using you. Let her know that you're not someone who is always available at least for the people who don't deserve it. This frustrates me because first hand I can tell you i've been in your situation. Of course you want to help her but she will only keep using you and you will loose your respect. Think about it and figure out what you want.
Author idontknow98 Posted June 4, 2013 Author Posted June 4, 2013 Just stop being there for her. You are staying cool which is great and maybe the reason why she still talks to you. Idk what her feelings are for you but let me ask you this do you still have feelings for her? does it hurt the way she is treating you? If not then you can honestly be there for her but she will just keep using you. Let her know that you're not someone who is always available at least for the people who don't deserve it. This frustrates me because first hand I can tell you i've been in your situation. Of course you want to help her but she will only keep using you and you will loose your respect. Think about it and figure out what you want. Yes I still have feelings for her. I don't want to be just her friend.
CelticGibson Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 The you have no choice but to walk away and let her figure out what she wants. She cannot do that if you keep in touch. I know it's hard but you cannot do anything to change this situation save for walking away. No Contact is your only option now.... I suggest you use it.
Author idontknow98 Posted June 4, 2013 Author Posted June 4, 2013 Just stop being there for her. You are staying cool which is great and maybe the reason why she still talks to you. Idk what her feelings are for you but let me ask you this do you still have feelings for her? does it hurt the way she is treating you? If not then you can honestly be there for her but she will just keep using you. Let her know that you're not someone who is always available at least for the people who don't deserve it. This frustrates me because first hand I can tell you i've been in your situation. Of course you want to help her but she will only keep using you and you will loose your respect. Think about it and figure out what you want. Another thing, last week we were around each other and no matter who I was talking to she was constantly staring at me. Everytime I would look back at her she would turn away really fast like nothing happened. Also, her brother is in college but he is back for the summer. Me and her brother both love to play music and me and my ex love the exact same music too. She invited me over to her house to kind of make "band". I dont know..I thought this was kind of random because before then we hadnt spoken in a month.
flitzanu Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Another thing, last week we were around each other and no matter who I was talking to she was constantly staring at me. Everytime I would look back at her she would turn away really fast like nothing happened. Also, her brother is in college but he is back for the summer. Me and her brother both love to play music and me and my ex love the exact same music too. She invited me over to her house to kind of make "band". I dont know..I thought this was kind of random because before then we hadnt spoken in a month. zero of these things matter. unless the girl is telling you she wants to date you, none of what you see or try to interpret means anything at all. as for the movies, again, if she wanted to date you, she would have let you go along with her and her "friend" instead of cancelling on you. she didn't want you to be a third wheel because you WOULD have been a third wheel.
Chrisal23 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Yes I still have feelings for her. I don't want to be just her friend. So unfortunately my friend you have to do the opposite of what you feel like doing. YES stop talking to her and let her know that you need your space if she insist on talking to you. It's not fair that she's benefiting from you while you want more. I am in the same boat as you in fact a little worse. Case is that NC is the only option for your ex to clear her thoughts, but more importantly for you to not be a "stool" for her.
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