lordnox Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 Ok so here's the story: Me and my girlfriend were together for 1 year and 5 months. Things were great and we were in love..or at least i thought so. About 3 days ago she tells me that she wants to talk so we go out and i feel something's wrong but i ignore that feeling so we walk around the city and have a normal conversation and then we sit down and she says: "okay, i've been thinking about some things" and i knew that instant what that means and i said: "you're breaking up with me aren't you?" So she says yes and she starts crying and i ask her why she would want to break up and she says that she feels like we're sort of more like friends than a couple because we have a semi-long distance relationship and we talk mostly on Facebook. She tells me that she enjoys the time when we are together but it bothers her that we don't get together more often. So i ask her if she loved me and she says i wouldn't be with you if i didn't, i ask her if she found someone else and she says no and i believe her. She says that it's not my fault and that she is also to blame for this breakup cause of her different way of thinking about how things are between us. So we walk towards my building and she holds the umbrella up for me cause it's raining...when we get to where i live she says: "see you" with a very sad voice and i kiss her on the lips and she hugs me tight. When i stop kissing her we hug and she kisses me on the cheek...we stand there in the rain for about 5 minutes just hugging and crying...and i can't take it anymore and i leave with tears in my eyes and say goodbye..... I still don't really understand what happened even after 3 days of thinking. I know i still love her and i want her back....the question is does she still love me ?..........we didn't speak after that or texted or anything. I want to speak to her but i don't think it's a good idea. Right now i just want to give her some time while hoping she'll miss me enough to call. But after a month if she doesn't i think i should call her and just ask her how she is.... What do you guys think ?? i know my chances are slim at best but when you love someone that much it's at least worth trying to fix what went wrong and try one more time if things could work out.
rogersm Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 I am going through the same exact thing with my ex. We broke up about 3 weeks ago because she felt we were just friends.I wish I could tell you what to do here but i'm not sure I know myself. Me and my ex have been texting a little but there is a lot of animosity. It is definitely hard being friends with your ex. But I feel like you need to try if you care about them that much. Maybe someday they will realize how much you love them. I wouldnt go no contact as much as people say. Because then itlook like you have moved on. If you truly want them back then you need to keep them close to you.
na49 Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 Sounds like the end of a romantic movie. No, but seriously. the question is does she still love me ?..........we didn't speak after that or texted or anything. I want to speak to her but i don't think it's a good idea. Right now i just want to give her some time while hoping she'll miss me enough to call. But after a month if she doesn't i think i should call her and just ask her how she is.... She might still love you. Not enough to be with you anymore. She might love you as a friend. She's lost her attraction towards you. How far apart do you live from each other that the distance bothers her? How often did you see her? It will take a lot longer than a few days for her to miss you. She might miss you, but even that doesn't mean she wants to try things again with you. The best thing you can do is stay out of her hair and give her as much space as she needs. Don't be her friend unless you like being miserable. Start worrying about yourself like she isn't coming back. because whether she does or not isn't under your control. How exactly are you going to fix what went wrong? If she lost her attraction to you and thinks you're better off as friends. There isn't much you can do to change her mind. Seems to me that she wants to try to find a guy who lives closer to her. It doesn't matter if you want to fix things, what matters is if she wants to fix things too. 1
Author lordnox Posted June 3, 2013 Author Posted June 3, 2013 Well it's not that far it's like a half hour drive. We saw each other 3 days a week but sometimes only for weekends. She had school on weekdays and she came home on the weekends, we called each other and talked on facebook pretty frequently. I did feel like she wanted more attention but she didn't say anything or do anything to indicate that she's feeling left out...i talked to here whenever i had time..things seemed ok and then just like that...it's over She told me i didn't do anything wrong and that she has problems with herself and i said it had to be something if it wasn't you wouldn't leave....maybe you're right maybe she's just not attracted to me anymore
aloneinaz Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 At this point, you're only option is to leave her alone. I wouldn't contact her at all. Let her figure out what she needs/wants. It sucks for sure but you calling or texting her will only push her away further. If I was you, I'd be putting a plan b together in case she doesn't. In fact, you should start healing yourself and plan on finding someone else. Odds are not in your favor for her to come back. What would have changed? 1
flitzanu Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 what it boils down to is that she simply does not want to be with you anymore. doesn't matter about being attracted to you or into you or in love with you, she just doesn't want to be dating you. these things are unfortunate, but your best move now is to drop off her radar, delete/block her on fb and go NC.
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