OSCAR_BUSTOS21 Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 So after breaking up with someone 6 months ago I'm pretty much doing well in the dating game. Anyway after a few meaningless dates and extras with girls I've decided to clean my closet due to the conclusion that we aren't compatible. So I meet a girl at a mutual friends leaving do, anyway after so lame lines and using someone's mum as my wing man or woman , I got her number. She is very attractive, intelligent and is what I would say to be the female equivalent of myself. Anyway we've messaged quite a bit and I've given enough subtle hints that I want to take her out but she's not getting them. Instead we message at least 3 times a day on fb and today she added me. Thing is even when I don't ask questions and give lame replies she still messages. Now usually I'm not bad but I'm quite puzzled with this one. The girls I've been dating, which are in their early 20's were easy to get out but at 28 this one is not taking the bait. My question is what the hell do I do now, keep messaging? I'm wearing thin and am much better face to face. Or have I been friend zoned? God only knows. Thing is I very much like this girl and hardly know her, oops. Girls or guys please post your comments, my game is clearly not as good as first thought.
Carenth Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 (edited) A few things. Subtle hints are not asking her out, if you don't ask her out directly then don't complain she isn't "getting it". From her point of view she may have no idea of your intentions. Friend zoning as far as I'm concerned is not a thing. In every case I have heard of "friend zoning" one of the following has happened. A) Person A likes person B but won't ask them out. Person A acts like a friend drops hints but won't actually ask them out for whatever reason. Person B genuinely thinks they are a friend and has no idea of Person A's true feelings. Person A gets ****ty and blames person B for Persons A lack of doing anything... because that makes sense. B) Person A asks person B out they are not interested. Person A gets bent out of shape at the idea that they have being rejected. Rather than moving on like most people decide to have a painful one sided "friendship" because they cannot take no for an answer and hope one day they will come around. Both of these cases are not friendship and person A is trying to shift blame onto person B rather than accepting the other person is not interested (which is their right) or is unaware of their feelings. It is one person refusing to let go of something that was never going to happen and using "friendship" as a way to try and manipulate people into changing their minds. This will very rarely if ever work. In short stop pussy footing around and ask her out. See what happens. Edited June 3, 2013 by Carenth
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