Spin-off "Fathers Day"

[Athens]

Yes, its a spin off post-

The threat on the OW wanting to buy a MM a Fathers Day gift struck me as so odd-

There are numerous lies those willing to have an affair tell themselves, but thinking its OK to buy a Fathers Day gift when you are taking part in something that could potential ruin a childs life seems to take the cake.

 

What other "lies" do you see that totally floor you-

 

Some of mine have been:

sexless marriage

wife does not care about husband

affairs are not harmful

telling after an affair is over is not vindictive, its truthful

 

I guess I will never understand those that choose to have an affair (including my husband) and where their minds go during it, but I am trying to understand so I venture on LS-sometimes I probably should not as it wrecks my faith in humanity :0

[underwater2010]

I have to say that it disturbed me too. There are plenty of other holidays to "buy" a gift for your MM/MW. But unless the APs have kids together, then HELL NO to the father's/mother's day gift.

 

And by the way, buying your MM/MW gifts just up the anti in getting caught. Go ahead and think you are being sly, but every extra little thing just puts you closer to DDay.

[Athens]

UW- yes, I would like to say that since Dday nothing surprises or shakes me too much, but that one did for sure!

[Goodbye]

Well, even as a former OW, I thought the Father's Day gift thread was strange. Unless they have married, and have an "out" and positive step-parent relationship, the gesture is nothing short of inappropriate. I suspect it was probably just an attempt to buy affections. Then again, my exMM wished me a happy anniversary (even though I was divorced) on the anniversary of my wedding day, wtf.

[underwater2010]

Well, even as a former OW, I thought the Father's Day gift thread was strange. Unless they have married, and have an "out" and positive step-parent relationship, the gesture is nothing short of inappropriate. I suspect it was probably just an attempt to buy affections. Then again, my exMM wished me a happy anniversary (even though I was divorced) on the anniversary of my wedding day, wtf.

Didn't you just want to slap him? How can men be that clueless?

[underwater2010]

It's not often that things catch me off guard, and probably even more rare when I find myself 100% in agreement with the the perspectives posted from this side, but that one threw me for a loop too.

And that is why I like you. You can call a spade a spade just like the rest of us.

[Athens]

Didn't you just want to slap him? How can men be that clueless?

 

 

OK, I know its not funny, but REALLY- men are so clueless

 

 

And on calling a spade a spade... I so hear you- I can appreciate anyone capable of doing that-!

[underwater2010]

Doesn't anyone do anything for anyone for Father's Day and Mother's Day that aren't your own fathers or mothers? I do. If I see a gift that is fitting for a friend, I will get it for them. I had a couple I was friends with who had twins, I found a really neat twin gift, and I got it for them for Father's Day and Mother's Day - one for each of them. I don't see why that is strange? I think it's odd that people are saying if you don't have children with someone, or they aren't YOUR father that it's weird to get them a gift. ????

It is weird to get him a gift because she is ENGAGING IN AN AFFAIR WITH HIM.

They are not her kids and quite frankly she is engaging in behavior that could cause harm to her MM's kids.

 

I don't mind gifts from friends or wishes of Happy ---fill in the blank---, but she is way over stepping her bounds.

[underwater2010]

Wait....is he married or not....you said ex wife in there?

[underwater2010]

It is not weird now that he is divorced and you guys are in a "true" relationship. But I still think that you giving him a card while having an affair with him is cruel to his wife and children. But that is just my two cents.

[lilmisscantbewrong]

Sorry - I did love my xom but I did not buy him Father's Day gifts and he did not buy me Mother's Day gifts. I know it was a bizarre and selfish relationship but for some reason I don't think that his was even a thought for either of us. Of course our ddays were close to both of our birthdays and our anniversaries so those are all messed up too - as well as the birth of his second son - affairs are f@@d up.

[krazikat]

I agree that is just wrong on so many levels.