idk23456 Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 Her: 21 me: 22 Hi this is my first post, I'm just confused about my feelings and what to do moving forward. Me and my ex started dating, and then after a few months she left for school in Texas. We broke up shortly right before she moved there and then got back together almost immediately after, around 2 weeks. Because of this (i live in new jersey) our relationship became long distance. She would come and stay for about 5 days every month and we would text / skype all the time. Everything was still going great for a while...but then after she came to visit for our anniversary in February we figured out that we wouldn't be able to see each other again until June. This was because she was starting a job and needed to save money. Later on she decided she was going to be doing her externship (she went to culinary school) in California because she had family there. Anyways, our plan was for her to either come back here after (it ended in August) or have me move out there for work (I just graduated from college). Everything seemed pretty great, although rather complicated..but then she began acting different. She began getting distant and saying that I wasn't giving her enough space and I was texting her too much when she was hanging out with friends. I admit that I was wrong in this, but I was really stressed out from the work I was doing in my last semester in college, and talking to her always helped. Anyways, she eventually told me one morning (via text message) that she needed a break. I was really confused, I asked her if she planned on us getting back together and she said "prob." She also told me to give her space. I was completely blown away by this, after all of our plans and I had a really difficult time giving her space. I asked her if we were exclusive to each other during this breakup and she said "yeah." So anyways, it turns out that she started talking to another guy really shortly after this, like a few days, and she decided that she likes him. When i found out about this I was even more blown away. They are long distance now too, as he is still in Texas and she is in California. She removed me on facebook / skype and didn't want to talk to me for a while. So I finally gave her space for a few days but I couldn't help but text her after like 3 days. I slowly moved my way back into being her friend. But I had an extremely difficult time talking to her without trying to get us back together, and I couldn't handle hearing about the new guy. She was supposed to come with me to my brothers wedding in July but now is going to Texas to visit this guy and her other friends instead. Now, I really think the fact that we went 3 months without seeing each other had a HUGE impact on this. When she left in February we were more in love than ever, but that all seemed to change after not seeing each other for 3 months. Now I don't know what to do. I can't continue being her friend when she has this new guy. Part of me wants her back and part of me doesn't know if I would be able to get over her basically leaving me for someone else. Does anyone have any thoughts on what I should do? Do you think I should take her back if she tries to get back together? Do you think she will try? Thanks for your help.
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