Dancegirl1 Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 Okay this is long but I need advice to my situation so I did details. It's been a little more than a month and it's still hard. It's hard to believe he's someone I just knew now. We dated for 15 months and we broke up because he said he wasn't ready/mature for a relationship. He said he won't want one for awhile and doesn't know when he will. It could be until later on in college. He just couldn't handle it anymore. He's 17 and I'm 18. I fell for a boy when I needed a man. :/ I should've ended it awhile ago but didn't because I liked him a lot and he made me happy. He was always too busy for me (now he's not) and barely had time to talk or see me. He made me think we had potential so I held on. He didn't know what he was doing and I mostly led the relationship. I went above and beyond for him when he just sat back. He never went out of his way for me and I made all the effort. He told me he was a bad bf and won't be ready to date until college. So I think he was sparing me the hurt because he knew I'd stay with him even if he was too busy for me or couldn't give me what I needed. He was gonna go away all summer and I got told he didn't want to do that to me even tho we agreed we'd stick through it. But now he's not going away.. Now he's a different guy and he's trying to be outgoing when he was introverted while we dated. He avoids me and is kind of jerky to me when he's nice to everyone else. He moved on fast because he liked someone right after we broke up and he flirted with her in front of me. Idk if that's cause he thought I was flirting with guys a week after we broke up. I wasn't..He told his sister that made him upset because he then thought I didn't like him while we dated? He blocked me from his facebook friend list and likes everything of that girl. Idk how he could just get over me so fast. Idk if he's trying to be outgoing to forget about me and gain friends or what. But I know I shouldn't care anymore. He has great morals and everything I looked for in a guy but just wasn't a good bf. Now it's hard to make him a stranger. I never wanted him to become a memory and it's just so weird not having him mine and thinking of how important he once was to me. I see him at my church a lot and it's weird with not having our routine together. It's hard to see him especially because he's not going away all summer anymore and I'm best friends with his sister.. I think back to our greatest moments and just want to cry. We like grew up together and had the best times. We were great together minus the hard stuff. I think he couldn't take us as serious as I did because he wasn't developed yet. I miss the old us and it sucks it'll never be the same. How can I let go off the anger and feelings towards him? Some days it's easy and others it's hard. He used to be crazy about me but I guess that changed within in a month. Advice?
xpaperxcutx Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 Boys like him take advantage of girls like you because you are willing to be there for him all the while knowing he's taking you for granted. If he had taken a backseat to the relationship, then the thing was he was never interested in you as you were in him. Don't ask why he left and whether you'll get him, you're undervaluing yourself if you chase and beg him. Take it as a lesson. Don't ever give too much of yourself until that person is deserving of you and he gives in return He was selfish in the relationship and it's time you realize that.
Author Dancegirl1 Posted June 3, 2013 Author Posted June 3, 2013 When we broke up he said he didn't want to take advantge of me for another month before he had to leave on a plane (at the time he was gonna leave all summer)....
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