velvetgrl3 Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 I had an on again/off again relationship with a man. It was a constant push/pull but ultimately I believed we truly loved one and another. He broke up with me and would not contact me for 6 weeks even after my multiple attempts at calling, texts, and emails. During that 6 week period, i found out i was pregnant. He ended up calling me after 6 weeks (and seeing multiple women) and telling me he loved me and how sorry he was. I told him i was pregnant but it was not his baby (I know that it wasnt right, but i was very scared he would not stick around.) He stayed with me two weeks, broke up with me, and 3 days later went into a full blown relationship with another girl who has a 2 year old son. He moved her into his house after 2 weeks. At 4 weeks, she broke up with him. He immediately brought me back into his life. He told me it was going to be him and me and would kiss my stomach and bought the baby things. I tried many times to tell him it was his baby, but i was very fearful. The day i went into labor, i called him. He yelled at me calling me a **** **** and that he was over me. I had the baby and immediately told him it was his baby. He continued yelling at me and calling me names. I even did a paternity test to show him it was in fact his baby. The thing is.....the night i went into labor, he went back to the ex girlfriend. He wont talk to me at all. His last email stated that since we werent married he would just let me have the baby and not fight for custody or visitation. Meanwhile he is posting all these pictures of him and his new girlfriends son playing at the beach, holding hands, etc. I am so heartbroken i dont even know what to do. Im so hurt he is taking no responsibility, he knows not one single detail of his own sons life (not even his name), but is happy with his new girlfriend and her son. They of course are already living together and he has this perfect little life. I feel that the only reason he walked was because he was with his new girlfriend. He hasnt even told anyone that he had a baby. How do i get over this man? How do i move forward in my life? How can he just ignore all of this like nothing and be happy with his new girlfriend (which for those 6 months after she broke up with him, told me all these things about her he did not like.)
Zahara Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 How can he just move on and pretend as if you don't even exist? Well, he's done it before. What are you expecting from a man that never truly committed himself to you? You chose to get pregnant with someone that has never been a responsible partner, therefore, you shouldn't have expectations of holding him responsible now. Why you would get pregnant with the likes of him, god only knows but what's done is done. The only thing you can do is focus on your child, create a better environment for him because god forbid he comes back and your child is exposed to such unhealthy traits and behavior.
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