aloneinaz Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 Hello, Newbie on this great site. As I've been reading threads today, I've been surprised how many folks break up or get dumped and yet keep their ex active on Facebook? My ex broke up with me 3 days ago for the 5th or 6th time after I told her I was tired of her constant bitchy, snappy poor moods and attitude and I waited till this am to de-friend and block her. I read the internet and the vast majority of sites STRONGLY recommended this. Ironically, all weekend she was online like me as I think we were waiting to see who'd block who first. I was glad to have the honor. What did you do? Are you for or against blocking your ex after breaking up on Facebook? I read the NC thread and have to agree with it. I need to do the NC to move on w/my life. While I love my ex, I know after dating her for 14 months that I simply can't handle her moods, temper, her constantly being stressed out, overwhelmed. Not to mention her selfish, all about her attitude. I've been dealing with it for months. We even went to couples therapy where she acknowledged her poor behavior but can't seem to control herself. Her being an uptight, flaming Type A, control freak didn't help either. It sucks being single and living alone but it has to be better than being in one sided relationship with frankly, a not nice person. 2
headsashed Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 Simple, if you want to get over your ex then block/delete, out of sight out of mind.
CelticGibson Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 I deleted and blocked once I told her that I couldn't be her "friend". I did it gracefully and without argument and made sure she knew that No Contact meant just that. If you leave any stone unturned, it's not No Contact...
mahon451 Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 When it comes to relationships, Facebook is the devil. If I didn't need it for networking purposes, I would delete my account in a heartbeat.
KatZee Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 Oh I delete. Immediately. My ex dumped me officially via text message. I was at lunch, and the second I got back to my office he was deleted, blocked, and relationship status was hidden. It's been that way for over a year now.
mtnbiker3000 Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 FB is total shyte!! Never had it, never will... I suggest getting rid of it all together! What happened to face to face communication anyway. I never understood this fascination with FB and 'friends' and all the other BS. Seems very 'high-school' to me. Whatever... 2
Art_Critic Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 When faced with the decision to de-friend someone or not the only correct answer is YES, de-friend them, time to put it in the past and help yourself move on. 1
thefooloftheyear Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 Best advice is to dump your account entirely, this way you are gone...Frankly, at this point I wouldnt date a woman that had a FB addiction..Its a dealbreaker, plain and simple.. TFY 3
Antares Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 Definitely delete. In the past I've always deleted them after a couple of weeks. Mind you, I'd go NC and not look at their page, but when there's hope there's hope. But after a couple weeks post BU, I'd unfriend them. It's like a ritual. You don't get to have too much control when you're dumped, except to except what's happening and go NC to heal. Deleting them has a cleansing feeling. Like you're taking back control of your life and who gets to be in it. At first you feel like crap for finally admitting that IT's over, and sometimes you trick yourself into feeling that it's just oh so childish, online games and such...but then after another week you're glad you did the deed.
mtnbiker3000 Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 Best advice is to dump your account entirely, this way you are gone...Frankly, at this point I wouldnt date a woman that had a FB addiction..Its a dealbreaker, plain and simple.. TFY Totally 100% agree. If they are into FB, then I am stayin' away. Too much room for bad things to happen... Too easy... 1
smoky eyes Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 I left my ex, and he deleted me from facebook a couple of weeks later. I was really sad because I wanted to still be in touch, but part of me was relieved (the end of our relationship was also the beginning of another for me, everyone knew, but it certainly hampered what I felt could be posted, having them both on there). Then my ex added me again. I'm glad to have him "back" on facebook, although I think he's deactivated my updates. It's still a bit odd though, remembering to keep various things hidden from him and his family members. I guess everyone's got to navigate it themself, depending how much of a role fb plays in your life...
thefooloftheyear Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 As hard as it may be to wrap ones head around it, there is a life without FB... TFY 1
Author aloneinaz Posted June 3, 2013 Author Posted June 3, 2013 It's almost a landslide in saying delete/block! I have old girlfriends from 20 years ago on my Facebook. I found it fun to catch up with them and hoped that they're enjoying a good life. I think it's a whole other can of worms to leave a woman who broke up with me as a "friend" on Facebook who can see what I'm doing and I still see what's she doing. Maybe some have thick skin, lord knows I don't. While I let her make the final decision as to whether we continued or not, I have to say I'd been having strong doubts about her due to her reluctance to not change her caustic, negative behaviors. No one should have to walk around on egg shells with someone who "loves" them, scared of their next nasty out burst or criticism. I have to say it felt good to DUMP her on Facebook this am. I know this is childish but I hope it stung her and reinforced that she chose to leave our relationship and I'm moving on.
London Girl 8 Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 It took me a year to delete my ex of 6 1/2 years off facebook but I have to say it was hard not to know what he was doing at first but now it is liberating not to see what he is doing and putting things up there just to draw attention. I would recommend going down the deleting route from my experience.
mtnbiker3000 Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 I get annoyed by the stigma surrounding FB. I like it because it collates all my updates from my favourite musicians (tour news, new albums), other things/people I'm interested in, allows me to keep in touch with people separated by distance, and keeps it all in one place. I'm not adding any boyfriends to that, that's my place on the internet, for my interests, not his. I get what your saying, and I suppose it does have some advantages. I guess it's weird for me to understand. I mean, I was 22 before the Internet (World Wide Web ) even existed. So, I am quite used to life without it. Funny thing is, I work in the Technology sector, but still don't get the whole social media thing. I really think it is a young persons game?!?! They can have it
bluegreen Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 I don't understand many things about face book or twitter either and things I seen no one would believe : girls taking pictures on outside trash containers yeah those huge metal ones in bathtubs some even on a roofs of houses. As for twitter only thing I did not see people post was when they go p... and p.... all else was seen now as for people who write blogs and manage to do that well all my respect to them. Now for ex and face book I also deleted I tried being cool with it and about it but it lasted only for few days it its like pouring salt on a wound having that in your face day after day. Who why when what it kills you
flitzanu Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Hello, Newbie on this great site. As I've been reading threads today, I've been surprised how many folks break up or get dumped and yet keep their ex active on Facebook? My ex broke up with me 3 days ago for the 5th or 6th time after I told her I was tired of her constant bitchy, snappy poor moods and attitude and I waited till this am to de-friend and block her. I read the internet and the vast majority of sites STRONGLY recommended this. Ironically, all weekend she was online like me as I think we were waiting to see who'd block who first. I was glad to have the honor. What did you do? Are you for or against blocking your ex after breaking up on Facebook? I read the NC thread and have to agree with it. I need to do the NC to move on w/my life. While I love my ex, I know after dating her for 14 months that I simply can't handle her moods, temper, her constantly being stressed out, overwhelmed. Not to mention her selfish, all about her attitude. I've been dealing with it for months. We even went to couples therapy where she acknowledged her poor behavior but can't seem to control herself. Her being an uptight, flaming Type A, control freak didn't help either. It sucks being single and living alone but it has to be better than being in one sided relationship with frankly, a not nice person. defriend and block. and go NC. if she dumped you, it isn't like she's going to ever say anything positive that you just must read on facebook.
SweetiePie12 Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 What did you do? Are you for or against blocking your ex after breaking up on Facebook? I'm still connected to both of his Facebooks. But I unliked every single thing I ever liked, and deleted all of my comments
Emilia Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Delete and possibly block. Might re-add them years down the line, I've done that.
SweetiePie12 Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 Delete and possibly block. Might re-add them years down the line, I've done that. I unfollowed him on Twitter, then refollowed months later. His Tweets are protected, so he had to know I did that because he had to approve me. But he's so self centered, perhaps he didn't connect the dots.
bluegreen Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 I'm still connected to both of his Facebooks. But I unliked every single thing I ever liked, and deleted all of my comments :laugh: 1
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